What Your Venus Sign Says About Your Relationships (and Why You Shouldn’t Freak Out if Your Sun Signs Clash)
So you know your Sun sign and you’re vibing with your fiery Aries boldness or your raw Pisces feels. Well, your Venus sign tells you a lot about how you experience ~love~. But what happens when someone else comes into the picture? (Shout-out to your crush/boo.) Are your signs compatible? Will your energies match up? How can you tell anyway? Introducing your Venus sign, aka the sign that Venus was in when you were born.
What does Venus mean in astrology?
As you might already know, in astrology, Venus is the planet of love, beauty, pleasure, and money. Its placement in your birth chart affects how you express affection, who you're attracted to, and your own allure. Along with giving you hints about your spending habits and what kind of aesthetics you're drawn to, Venus shows you what kinds of relationships you thrive in and what sparks your pleasure. Basically, your Venus sign shows you what makes you happy ~in love~.
How do I find my Venus sign?
Your Venus sign is determined by which zodiac sign the planet Venus was in at the moment you were born. If you don’t know your Sun sign, you can pop your birth time and location into online calculators like Café Astrology.
What does my Venus sign say about compatibility?
Given how important romantic relationships can be, it’s surprising we don’t pay more attention to our Venus sign—TBH, it’s a better indicator of who you should be with than your Sun sign is. So if you and your boo don’t have compatible Sun signs, oh well! Other parts of your birth charts are more important anyway.
All that being said, even if your Venus signs aren’t compatible, it doesn’t mean that you two can’t be endgame—it just means that you might have to work a bit harder to understand each other’s romantic sign identity. (And if you need help on the communication front, check out your Mercury sign.) So now that you know, here’s what it all means:
Why is my Venus sign so close to my Sun sign?
BTW, speaking of Sun signs, here’s a fun fact: Don’t be surprised if your Venus sign is the same as your Sun sign or just one or two signs away from it (think Libra Sun and Scorpio Venus, Taurus Sun and Cancer Venus, etc.). Venus is often called Earth’s “sister planet” because it is very similar in size, mass, and density to our planet and has a similar orbit. Translation: While they’re moving around the Sun, the Earth and Venus are always pretty close to each other. This means that your Venus sign and Sun sign are almost certainly close, if not the same. So if your Sun sign is Scorpio, your Venus sign is probably also Scorpio, one sign away (Libra or Sagittarius), or two signs away (Virgo or Capricorn).
What if I was born during Venus Retrograde?
If you notice a little "R" next to your Venus sign in your birth chart, that means you were born during Venus Retrograde. And don't freak out! This doesn't mean you're doomed to never find love. in fact, it's the opposite. People born during Venus Retrograde are extra focused on love, relationships, and friendships. But while they may yearn for strong relationships, they might find it hard to express this desire outwardly. They can sometimes find it hard to trust others, or they may struggle with self-love. Basically, they might find struggle around some area of life having to do with love, but love and relationships are also extra rewarding and meaningful to them.
Morning Star Venus vs. Evening Star Venus
More on that: If your Venus sign comes *before* your Sun sign in the zodiac (so if you’re a Scorpio Sun with a Libra Venus), your Venus sign is called a morning star Venus. It means you’re likely to take a more direct approach in your relationships, you strongly value a sexual connection, and you’re comfy making the first move. If your Venus sign comes *after* your Sun sign in the zodiac (so if you’re a Scorpio Sun with a Sagittarius Venus), your Venus sign is called an evening star Venus. You probably tend to prefer it if your partner makes the first move and you’re super focused on the emotional connection over the physical. You’re probably also v romantic!
Here's more about each Venus sign:
Venus in Aries
Venus in Aries people come at their objects of affection like a steam train: full on and straight ahead. They are direct and honest and want the same in return (although if a partner feels too available, they can get bored because they never lose their appetite for the thrill of the chase). People are drawn to them because of their confident and up-front attitude as well as their red-hot sex appeal. If they’re into you, they will let you know!
They crave high-energy, passionate relationships. Lots of spontaneous, thrill-seeking adventures and equally electrifying sex, thank you very much. They like to have fun and they can be very playful in bed—or just when they’re flirting. They have an ego as well, so making them feel like they’ve beat out the competition for your affection is a major turn-on.
Most compatible with: Venus in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Scorpio, or Libra
Venus in Taurus
Taurus is already ruled by Venus, so people with Venus in Taurus come ready-made with plenty of sensuality, a strong sex drive, and a serious cuddling obsession. They love love and all its trappings and just want to create a cozy nest to share with someone special. That means they like to know where they stand in relationships ASAP and can become a lil bit jealous and protective in the process.
Theirs is a very physical love, and they crave attention and reassurance. Venus in Taureans rarely chase others—instead, people come to them because they seem like a person who’d have a good time and know what they’re doing on a date (all true). Date nights with them are lingering, private affairs—either drinks and food somewhere fancy or a cute-AF night in (think string lights, blanket forts, and rom-coms). They don’t enjoy being rushed, surprised, or pushed in any way, and they can rouse themselves to a silent fury if they feel manipulated. But once they’ve decided you’re worth it, they’re loyal to the end.
Most compatible with: Venus in Taurus, Capricorn, Virgo, Libra, or Scorpio
Venus in Gemini
Venus in Geminis are a handful in love for most people because they can’t stand to be tied down at all. Freedom and variety is their catnip, and relationships can be tricky because the whole point IS to commit a wedge of time to one person (partners will find themselves having to explain this to them). They can be fickle, change their minds rapidly, flirt with others, and so on. Curiosity is what motivates them. Emotions freak them out a bit, so their partners will feel that although they talk, like, constantly, they may be sticking to the surface over going deep into any one area…especially, ugh, feelings.
On the plus side: Dates will be adventures, followed by a chance to dissect and discuss them. They make exciting partners and are never short of suitors because of their youthful, animated, and lively personalities, even if their lack of emotional intensity can make their other half feel a bit, well, lonely sometimes. They’re witty, smart, and playful, so you always have a good time when you’re with them—it’s just finding the time in their schedule that’s the problem. The best bet is getting a partner who has an equally busy social life of their own, and then everyone is happy.
Most compatible with: Venus in Gemini, Libra, Aquarius, Virgo, or Sagittarius
Venus in Cancer
Venus in Cancers crave security, loyalty, and steadfastness. They adore (indeed, demand) romantic gestures, sentimental speeches, and as much PDA as you can give them. This is the key to unlocking their guarded heart (because deep down, they fear abandonment and are literally on red alert for betrayal 24/7, which can get kinda tiring, actually). Once they’ve opened up, though, they will shower their partner with love, affection, and sooo much attention. They are perceptive and intuitive observers who can sniff out a secret from miles away and can tune in to the true (even unconscious) desires of those they care for. Their families are super important to them, so you better get along well with their mom, their BFF, and/or their grandma.
Dates will involve snuggling, cuddling, and long talks deep into the night about anything and everything. They are great company and make others feel truly understood and cared about. Sometimes, though, they can get caught up in playing weird mind games and deploying annoying tactics to “test” their partner’s affection and loyalty. If you fail the test, they’ll hold a grudge and likely withdraw into their crab shell for a while. Ideally, over time, these episodes fade away (and if they don’t, that’s diving into toxic relationship territory). But once they do truly feel safe, no partner could be more dependable, loving, nurturing, and understanding.
Most compatible with: Venus in Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces, or Capricorn
Venus in Leo
Nothing is more important to the Venus in Leo than love. It’s what makes their world go round and what consumes their waking thoughts. They’re really quite theatrical in courtship, like they’re playing the lead in a dramatic period piece about a forbidden romance. They’ll strut and peacock about, shaking their tail feathers, and objects of affection had better be prepared to applaud and praise these (honestly, quite cute) displays—or face their wrath. Once you’ve DTR’d, they’ll want to show you off to all their friends—Venus in Leo folks live to be part of a power couple.
Venus in Leo people are warmhearted, generous, and actually quite simple. Basically, the barometer of a healthy relationship for them is how much attention they’re getting. They need to feel like they’re the center of your world. Partners who are flighty, indifferent, distracted, or moody will soon discover this leads to massive sulking (and subsequent fights). They need attention, appreciation, and passion, but in return, partners are rewarded with a person who wines, dines, and entertains them in the biggest ways—plus is incredibly loving and loyal. If you want to live in a love story, this is where it’s at.
Most compatible with: Venus in Leo, Aries, Sagittarius, or Aquarius
Venus in Virgo
Venus in Virgo people are all about the details, so they’ll take their time getting to know someone, steadfastly clocking up necessary knowledge and insight into what makes the object of their affection tick—usually conducted from a safe distance initially. Indeed, it can take some time before a person even realizes that a Venus in Virgo actually likes them at all, as they are innately cautious, sensitive, and reserved (they don’t like making the first move, nooo thank you). And even after you’ve been dating a while, they still value their alone time.
This wealth of knowledge they accumulate about their partners (and their Virgo-ish perfectionism) can lead them into nagging their S.O.s, pointing out what could be done better or just passive-aggressively doing it themselves. Their critical notes might get on your nerves, but remember they do it out of care! They notice the details, and the way to woo a Venus in Virgo is to show that you do too: Take notes on their coffee order or their favorite flavor of ice cream and surprise them with it later. On the bright side, they show their love via help, consideration, and practical support, and once they’re in a relationship, they’ll go all in on making it work. If you’re into that, then Venus in Virgo is a total catch!
Most compatible with: Venus in Virgo, Taurus, Capricorn, Gemini, or Pisces
Venus in Libra
Venus in Libras are accomplished in the love game—they’re excellent flirts, gentle lovers, and true romantics at heart. They also like everything to be harmonious, balanced, and idealized, which can come off as superficial or unrealistic because life is typically more complicated, messy, and unfair than they like having to deal with. Their natural charm and eye for aesthetics give them a desire for a fairy-tale-esque love.
They are pleasing and accommodating partners, sharing their life readily and adapting to others’ needs without a fuss. They are nonconfrontational and will do a lot to appease their partners. However, if their compromising, fair nature is taken advantage of, it can lead to tension as they try to fix the balance. The trick to making a relationship work with a Venus in Libra is to always be fair and do your share of the work. Treat them how you wish to be treated, and they will return the favor to a T.
Most compatible with: Venus in Libra, Gemini, Aquarius, Taurus, or Aries
Venus in Scorpio
People with Venus in Scorpio attract others readily because they have a hardwired sexuality and a fearless, concentrated need for intensity with others. Aka anyone they’re interested in definitely knows about it (and may find it hard to resist their explosive energy). There are no boundaries to the levels of intimacy they seek, although they do not allow this laser-beam analysis to be focused back at them (they are secretive and guarded AF). Once they’re into you, they’re all in, to an almost obsessive level. Don’t be surprised if they somehow know the name of your third grade teacher or great-grandfather. They’ve done their research.
Does all this sound a bit heavy? Maybe, and for many people, it can be too much. Venus in Scorpios can be jelly, cutting, and provocative in their affections. That said, they are also incredibly loyal, deep, interested in their partner on all levels and an absolute powerhouse in bed. So life will never be dull, that’s for sure! Dare you date one?
Most compatible with: Venus in Scorpio, Pisces, Cancer, Aries, or Taurus
Venus in Sagittarius
Those with Venus in Sagittarius are extremely attractive people—flirty, fun, warm, outgoing, and eager to make a connection. Hookups come easily to them, but committed relationships less so because they possess a deeply rooted need to remain free and open to options. They are restless at heart and can easily ghost if things get tough or if they feel stifled, criticized, or uninspired. They’re always learning and they want to have fun—and you better be able to keep up.
The key to having a great relationship with a Venus in Sagittarius is to first give them their space, difficult as it may feel because their partners know just how flirty and distracted they can get. The second ingredient (which is way more fun) is to be a true life partner by getting involved in all their big ideas. They want to explore the world, and as idealists, they want an equally freedom-loving partner by their side (who can keep up, if not go slightly ahead and challenge them onward). If you can match a Venus in Sag’s vibe, you’ll never be bored.
Most compatible with: Venus in Sagittarius, Aries, Leo, or Gemini
Venus in Capricorn
Venus in Capricorns are born cautious, materially ambitious, and destined to go places, so they’re looking for a suitably impressive mate they can take anywhere and even show off a bit. If they could use an algorithm to match them to this person and save all the chasing, flirting, and uncertainty, they would. They just want the right end result without all the pesky messiness of dating around. They’re planners when it comes to love and life, and if you don’t fit into their five-year plan, well, bye.
While some people are intimidated by Venus in Cap’s bossy, no-nonsense approach to love, others are drawn to them because of their cool, calm, and collected aura. They don’t make a fuss, talk over people, or blurt out cringeworthy opinions—they’re a guaranteed safe bet when introducing them to your besties. Although they’re generally frugal (always saving for the future), when dating, they want to impress their partner, so nights out and trips will not be shabby affairs. Whilst not the most passionate or fun-loving partner, they are incredibly loyal and resilient and the kind of person you can really lean on.
Most compatible with: Venus in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo, or Cancer
Venus in Aquarius
Venus in Aquarius people seek a friend as well as a lover, someone they can bounce ideas off of, play with, and challenge. Their head definitely rules their heart, and they approach every situation with reason and logic. This can make them seem kinda aloof at times, and they are truly appalled by sentimentality and PDA (their ideal Valentine’s Day or anniversary is best spent at a random, quirky dive bar rather than a $$$ restaurant or hotel).
Lovers can expect an eccentric, unique partner who is up for anything, puts no rules or boundaries in place, and makes magical, spontaneous date suggestions (and they look for someone to really go with their flow). They’re smart and open-minded, and they love to talk about anything and everything—the stranger, the better. Freedom is the common theme here. They need acres of room to roam and explore the world, and they will give their partner the same. So if you’re into that kind of vibe, then this sign is a great match. If not…good luck.
Most compatible with: Venus in Aquarius, Libra, Gemini, or Leo
Venus in Pisces
Venus in Pisces people are the zodiac’s classic romantics—intriguing, serene, forgiving, poetic, playful, and sensitive. They are almost too sweet for the world and need to be guarded in the highest room of the tallest tower until a suitable Prince(ss) Charming appears. These dreamy cuties are the soft bois of the zodiac. Because they’re so nice, they can find it hard to say no to all their suitors (they have a lot because they’re so easy to get along with), even if some of them, frankly, suck.
Their extreme sensitivity, however, can test relationships; they are deeply affected by everything around them and often feel confused and overwhelmed by life (and they’re not the best at expressing when they feel this way). They’re also drawn to the underdog or troubled soul (i.e., f*ckboy), so they can have some iiinteresting exes (or just a lot of them). But if anything, it’s a testament to their big heart—they just need someone who can give that love back rather than take advantage of it.
Most compatible with: Venus in Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio, or Virgo
You Might Also Like
