Who Is Demi Lovato's Fiancé? Inside Her Relationship History With Jordan Lutes, Wilmer Valderrama and More

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Demi Lovato is engaged!

Jordan "Jutes" Lutes put a ring on it on Saturday, Dec. 16, 2023, a rep for the belter confirmed to PEOPLE. The couple have been together publicly for more than a year.

Still, Lovato knows that self-love is more important than any other.

From her days on Disney's Sonny With a Chance as a teen to becoming a full-blown megastar in the spotlight, the "Substance" singer and songwriter had to learn the hard way that loving herself was the key to having healthy relationships. In fact, Lovato released a song in 2020 about her mantra. In "I Love Me," she sings tellingly, "Why am I always looking for a ride or die? / Cause mine’s the only heart I’m gonna have for life / After all the times I went and f**ked it up / I wonder when I love me is enough.”

In her 2017 documentary Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated, she examined the longest relationship she'd had up that point and the lessons she took away from it.

“I’ve learned that secrets make you sick, I’m learning how to be a voice and not a victim, I’ve learned sex is natural, I’ve learned that love is necessary, heartbreak is unavoidable and loneliness is brutal," she said. "I’ve learned that the key to being happy is to tell your truth, and be OK without all the answers.”

Find out how she gained her wisdom with a look back at Demi Lovato's dating history including all the boyfriends and girlfriends she's had along the way.

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What are Demi Lovato's pronouns?

Lovato announced in summer 2022 that her preferred pronouns are she/her and they/them. A year earlier, Lovato said she was non-binary and preferred solely they/them pronouns.

"I'm such a fluid person when it comes to my gender, my sexuality, my music, my creativity," she explained on the Spout podcast, adding, "Last year, my energy was balanced in my masculine and feminine energy."

Lovato previously revealed that she identifies as pansexual.

"I'm so fluid now, and a part of the reason why I am so fluid is because I was super closeted off," she said on The Joe Rogan Experience. "I heard someone call the LGBTQIA+ community the alphabet mafia. I'm part of the alphabet mafia and proud."

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Is Demi Lovato single?

Nope! As of August 2022, Lovato is off the market. A source told PEOPLE at the time that Lovato had a new boyfriend and that they were keeping the romance low-key.

The source said of the pairing, "It's a really happy and healthy relationship. He's a super great guy."

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Who is Demi Lovato in a relationship with in 2023?

Photos obtained by The Daily Mail revealed that Lovato's love is Canadian rap-punk artist Jordan Lutes. Lovato and Lutes were photographed holding hands in New York City the week of her Holy Fvck album release, and she just happened to be wearing a leather jacket with a bunch of references to lyrics from the project at the same time.

The couple were photographed again days later holding hands. They're cute!

Lovato and Lutes made their red carpet debut at a pre-Grammy party on Feb. 4, 2023.

Who is Jordan Lutes?

Lutes is a Canadian indie rock musician and songwriter. Professionally known as Jutes or "Jute$," Lutes is credited as a co-writer on Lovato's single, "Substance" (as well as some other tracks) from her album Holy Fvck, which dropped on Aug. 19, 2022.

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Is Jordan Lutes sober?

In 2022, Lutes celebrated 100 days of sobriety.

What does Jordan Lutes do?

Lutes is a singer, songwriter and musician. His most recent single as "Jutes" is a June 2023 cover of Chris Isaak's hit "Wicked Game."

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Does Demi Lovato have a husband?

Lovato doesn't have a husband and has never been married, but she is engaged to Jordan Lutes. She was also previously briefly engaged to actor Max Ehrich in early 2020 after a whirlwind romance.

The pair were first linked in early 2020, but their romance wasn't confirmed until March. The couple spent the bulk of the COVID-19 pandemic lockdown together, and they announced that July that they were engaged. In a since-deleted Instagram post featuring a photo to Ehrich popping the question, Lovato wrote, “It was something I can’t describe to anyone who hasn’t experienced it firsthand but luckily you did too. I’ve never felt so unconditionally loved by someone in my life (other than my parents) flaws and all. You never pressure me to be anything other than myself. And you make me want to be the best version of myself.”

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Has Demi Lovato been engaged?

Lovato is engaged to Lutes currently and was previously engaged to Ehrich.

What happened with Max Ehrich and Demi Lovato?

Not long after Ehrich and Lovato got engaged, they called it quits. The couple split in September 2020, and Ehrich alleged that he found out that his engagement was over through a tabloid. Sources close to Lovato denied it, and days later, Lovato dropped a song inspired by the breakup called "Still Have Me."

In March 2021, Lovato revealed that she went against her own hunches in her engagement to Ehrich.

“Because I denied my intuition of all the red flags that had popped up, I had no one else to blame but myself, so I was like, ‘How am I ever going to trust again?’" she told Glamour. "But really, I was like, ‘B**ch, you should have trusted yourself. If you had trusted yourself, you wouldn’t have ended up in this position.’”

She learned her lesson, but that doesn't mean she closed herself off. “My heart is pretty open. I’m very much listening to my intuition, and that’s not to say my boundaries or my guard is up," she said. "It’s just saying my ears are perked a little higher and my eyes are open a little wider."

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What did Max Ehrich do to Demi?

After their split, Ehrich accused Lovato of making a finsta (secret Instagram account) to bully her former pal Selena Gomez—with whom Ehrich was previously openly a bit obsessed. He later allegedly admitted the screenshots of said finsta were fake, also accusing Lovato of trying to "sabotage" his life and use him in a PR stunt ... despite him very publicly being photographed pouting on the beach and with other women not long after his and Lovato's split.

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Are Demi Lovato and Noah Cyrus a couple?

In early 2021, Lovato and Noah Cyrus—Miley Cyrus' younger sis and a singer in her own right—were rumored to be involved after collaborating musically.

The pair were spotted holding hands in summer 2021, but reportedly were never serious. A source told E! News that July, "They are not exclusively dating by any means," but were "hanging out" and "enjoying each other's company."

"They have been friends for a while but there is definitely a connection there," the source said, adding that Noah and Lovato's shared love of music and creativity sparked their situationship. The insider added that Lovato made it clear at the time that they wanted to remain single.

Whatever their situation was, as of summer 2022, Lovato is currently dating a male-identifying musician, so it looks like this may have fizzled out quickly.

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How long did Joe Jonas and Demi Lovato date?

Lovato starred alongside the Jonas Brothers in Camp Rock and Camp Rock 2. While filming the sequel, she fell hard for Joe Jonas, describing him as her "best friend" and a "complete gentleman." The couple went public...but it wouldn't last. After a only a month or so together, Jonas told Us Weekly, "Demi and I knew going into our romantic relationship that it may not be an easy one. I realize over the time we have shared together that I feel I care more about our friendship right now. It was my choice to break up, but I love her as a friend. She’s been there for me when I needed her. I will continue to be her friend and be there for her."

While reviewing footage from Camp Rock and its sequel in 2017, Lovato revealed she and Jonas had their first kiss on camera and that she had a crush on him since they'd first met, even though they only ended up dating for about a month or two.

Though they only dated for a few months, Lovato's relationship with Jonas would be one that affected them both deeply and publicly. Shortly after their split (which went down in 2010 during a tour together), she entered rehab for substance abuse, bipolar disorder, self-harm and bulimia.

Jonas later wrote of the experience in Vulture, "I really got to know her and got to see the ins and outs of what she was struggling with, like drug abuse. I felt like I needed to take care of her, but at the same time I was living a lie, because I wasn’t happy but felt like I had to stay in it for her, because she needed help. I couldn’t express any of that, of course, because I had a brand to protect."

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How long did Wilmer and Demi Lovato date?

In late 2010, Lovato began dating Wilmer Valderrama.

Lovato and Valderrama dated publicly off and on for six years. Lovato credited the NCIS star with saving her life and even fielded engagement talk before calling it quits in June 2016.

She explained in Simply Complicated, "[The breakup] had nothing to do with falling out of love. We decided together that we're just probably better as friends. I think my heart's always with Wilmer. I think it was with Wilmer. I think that it is with Wilmer, and I think that it will be because you don't share six years with somebody and not give them a piece of your heart and vice versa. I'm pretty sure that I'm not gonna meet anybody that compares to him."

Lovato also noted, "The sparks never faded, but there are issues that I haven't conquered yet that I know I won't conquer if I'm relying on somebody else to take care of the loneliness."

The singer told Glamour in November 2016 that the split was something that needed to happen in order for her to continue to grow and mature.

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"I think it’s healthy to be able to start over with someone else. Being sick was always a part of my relationship with him; I always had something wrong with me. I needed to let go of that," she said. "It was hard to depart from somebody who saw everything, but it may be nice to start fresh with somebody. Because that person I was when I was a lot younger is not who I am today."

Valderrama and Lovato remained close friends post-split, and the That '70s Show actor supported her after her 2018 overdose. In April 2020, Lovato revealed to Harper's Bazaar that while she and Valderrama aren't close anymore, she wished him well on his engagement to model Amanda Pacheco, with whom he welcomed a daughter in February 2021.

"I'm really happy for him and I wish him nothing but the best, but we're not in each other's lives [and] haven't spoken in a long time," she said. "But I think I needed that, because I needed to learn to be okay on my own."

What is the Demi Lovato Wilmer Valderrama age difference?

Valderrama is 12 years older than Lovato.

Lovato insisted in her 2017 documentary, Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated, that though she and Valderrama met when she was 17, at Valderrama's urging, they didn't begin dating until she was no longer a minor.

Lovato said in the film that when she met Valderrama while filming a public service announcement at his home, she fell in love at first sight. "I was like, 'I love this man and I have to have him,'" she recalled, "but I was only 17 and so, he was like, 'Get away from me.'"

On Aug. 17, 2022, Lovato officially released the lyric video for her song "29" from Holy Fvck. Fans speculated the track was about Valderrama and Lovato's relationship, with Lovato reflecting on their age gap now that she's the age he was when they met:

"Petal on the vine / Too young to drink wine / Just five years a bleeder / Student and a teacher / Far from innocent / What the f*ck’s consent? / Numbers told you not to / but that didn’t stop you / Finally 29 / Funny, just like you were you at the time / Thought it was a teenage dream / Just a fantasy / But was it yours or was it mine? / 17, 29."

If that's accurate, it likely means they were together when she was still a minor, which wouldn't necessarily have been the first time Valderrama dated a teen when he was legally an adult.

When asked about the inspiration of the song, Lovato chose her words very carefully.

"When I turned 29, I remember I was on vacation, and I just realized, 'I'm 29 now.' And it put things into perspective. It put everything into perspective," Lovato told Apple Music's Zane Lowe. "And I'm very careful with the way that I answer these questions because I feel like the song says it all."

She added, "I would be lying if I said I didn't have a ton of anxiety about putting out this song. I just said, 'I have to go for this. I have to own my truth.' And I do still walk that line very finely ... I've learned that sometimes saying less is more. And it's taken me to 30 years old to maybe learn that, but here I am approaching the way that I express myself differently in front of the media because it's okay to have boundaries."

Who is Demi Lovato's GF?

Lovato doesn't have a girlfriend right now, but she has been romantically linked to several women, including the aforementioned Noah Cyrus and DJ-producer Lauren Abedini.

Lovato and Abedini were spotted holding hands in Disneyland in September 2017. Neither has ever commented on the nature of their relationship, but Lovato has been open about her sexual fluidity: One listen to "Cool for the Summer" makes that clear.

If not, she will explain it anyway. She told InStyle in March 2018 that her sexuality is "very fluid," explaining, “I think love is love. You can find it in any gender. I like the freedom of being able to flirt with whoever I want.” Three years later, Lovato would reveal that cis men weren't her type at the time.

Did Ruby Rose sleep with Demi Lovato?

Orange Is the New Black star Ruby Rose hinted in a series of quickly-deleted tweets in 2013 that she and Lovato had hooked up, including one that read, "I'm like the one person Demi has slept with that didn't sell naked photos of her." Lovato, for her part, told Complex in 2015, "I did not have a relationship with Ruby Rose."

Lovato, who was dating Valderrama at the time, added, "I don't want people to ever look at the past or rumors or anything and try to figure me out. [There are] a lot of relationships that I’ve had where nobody has even guessed it. Not everybody knows everything about me."

What athletes did Demi Lovato date?

In July 2016, Lovato was reported to have gone on some dinner dates with NFL star Odell Beckham Jr.

Lovato's first semi-public romance after her breakup from Valderrama was with UFC fighter Luke Rockhold. The pair were photographed holding hands at Madison Square Garden while watching a UFC match, but PEOPLE reported at the time that they weren't exclusive.

Lovato also was rumored to have hooked up with another MMA fighter, Guilherme "Bomba" Vasconcelos, that July and again after ending things with Rockhold in late 2016.

She admitted on The Ellen DeGeneres Show that Vasconcelos was "so cute" and that she was very happy, but their flame burned out by May 2017.

Did Demi Lovato and Henry Levy date?

Lovato suffered a near-fatal overdose in July 2018. Once out of the hospital and treatment, her first known romance was with clothing designer Henry Levy, with the pair going public that December in an Instagram Story.

The relationship lasted four months, and Lovato reportedly sought more treatment just before the breakup was announced.

What happened with Demi Lovato and Mike Johnson?

Lovato is a loyal member of Bachelor Nation. In late summer 2019, she went on a few dates with Mike Johnson, and he was more than happy to speak about their connection publicly.

The Bachelorette alum revealed on Ben Higgins and Ashley Iaconetti's Almost Famous podcast that September, “We’ve gone on more than one date. I like her tattoos. We both have a lot of tattoos and she kisses really well.” Ironically, he added, “To be honest, I personally don’t like [dating in the spotlight]. I am very private with my relationships, straight up. But she’s in this light and that’s why I said she’s so humble and I think the world of her, because she has been able to have to deal with this crap. I can’t even imagine from her perspective. I’m a gentleman. I’m not going to kiss and tell.”

Did Demi Lovato and Henry Cavill date?

Lovato and Man of Steel star Henry Cavill were never rumored to have actually hooked up, but he did appreciate a masterful thirst trap she posted on Instagram. Lovato began following Cavill on Instagram in February 2018, and seconds later posted a stunning photo in lingerie. She then liked two of Cavill's posts. He then commented on her thirst trap, writing, "This is awesome! Nice one Miss Lovato!" with a thumbs up emoji.

Honestly, we need to take lessons from her. Or maybe they just bonded on Instagram over the mutual love for Brazilian jiu jitsu. In any case, fans went nuts, but it doesn't appear their exchanges went any further.

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What happened with Demi Lovato and Austin Wilson?

Lovato went Instagram official with heavily-tattooed model Austin Wilson in November 2019 but split after just a month of dating publicly. When a fan asked Lovato about the breakup, the "I Love Me" singer replied (via Just Jared), “Please don’t go after him. He’s a good guy. Much better than what people see on the outside just because he’s got a lot of tattoos. Breakups are hard for both parties involved. Just stay nice and say prayers.”

A source told E! News at the time, "Their lifestyles were not meshing. She's very focused on her sobriety and God and it wasn't a good fit for that. She's still working on herself and committed to that ... She's sticking with what she has been doing and working on her music.That's her focus and nothing is going to change it. They decided it was best to go their separate ways. There are no hard feelings, it just wasn't going to work with him."

Did Demi Lovato and Cody Linley date?

Lovato dated Hannah Montana actor Cody Linley in 2008, and their first date was a bit of a disaster. He recalled to Seventeen that his car broke down and he was two hours late to pick her up, but that she was super sweet and even helped him when his whip ran into some trouble during the date. They eventually got to their destination and enjoyed a steak dinner together, as well as a convenience store stop for tweezers and toothpaste, and he got his car professionally repaired the next day.

Did Demi Lovato and Alexander DeLeon date?

Lovato was 16 years old to Alexander DeLeon's 20 at the time they were together, and it's rumored she wrote the sweet love song "Catch Me" about the frontman. She explained to The New York Times, "'Catch Me' was written by myself in my room. Those songs mean more to me than when we’ve got two weeks to finish an album and I’m with three different writers."

DeLeon has since gone on to get engaged to model Josephine Skriver, though their wedding, scheduled for 2020, was postponed due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

When did Demi Lovato and Trace Cyrus date?

Noah wasn't the only Cyrus Lovato dated! When Lovato was 16, she dated then-20-year-old, Trace Cyrus (big brother of Miley Cyrus). After about a month together (or maybe not, depending on who you ask), they exchanged passive-aggressive tweets indicating that whatever romance was there was over.

Cyrus told PEOPLE that their touring schedules put a kibosh on the short-lived liaison, adding, "We gave it a shot and that’s all you can do. Every time I hung out with that girl or talked on the phone with her, it was amazing. She’s someone I can totally relate to. But she is a lot younger than me. When someone is that much younger, you’re looking for different things in relationships. Maybe when she’s older and we’ve both matured, we’ll be looking for the same thing and it can work out."

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