Behold: Bisexual Dating Apps That Are Actually Worth Your Time
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Not to brag, but one thing about being bisexual is that it’s exquisitely fun. And while every bi person and experience is different, the simple fact of the matter is that bisexuality usually comes with more options for exploration and adventure in your sex and dating life. “Even though it’s good for us to debunk the whole ‘bi people will fuck anything that moves’ myth, I will say a wonderful part of being bi is that there’s potential for erotic verve, if not outright sexual attraction, with all of my fellow adults,” says “educatrix” Tina Horn, podcaster and author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink. “Being bi means seeing the potential for pleasure and connection everywhere.”
But, uh, where exactly can bi folks actually find such pleasure and connection? That’s right: dating apps. According to recent data from the Pew Research Center, three in ten U.S. adults say they’ve used a dating app in the past year (and that figure was higher, at 52 percent, for those who’ve never been married). But perhaps most interestingly? Lesbians, gays, or bisexuals are more likely than their straight counterparts to use a dating site or app (51 percent compared to 28 percent). All of which is to say that if you’re bisexual and looking for love on the apps, you’re in damn good company.
Maybe that’s because it’s easier to find people who are loving and accepting of bisexuality when you can put it right there on your profile. Or because dating apps, especially ones created just for queer people, can help bi folks connect with a community. While our society has, in many ways, become a more accepting place, it’s no secret that bi people (unfortch) still face tons of stigma while dating, which can make the task daunting. “To this day, many monosexuals refuse to date a bi person. They are so afraid they’re going leave them for a person of another gender,” says Cosmo’s Navigating Non-Monogamy columnist Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and sex expert for Fun Factory. “People believe a slew of negative stereotypes about bisexuals: we’re just greedy, confused, going through a phase, doing it for attention, unable to commit, recklessly spreading STIs, and more.”
The good news is, bisexual dating apps (like, ahem, the ones we’ve rounded up for ya right here) can provide a safe space for bicons (that’s bisexual icon, duh), to dodge all those nasty, bi-phobic stereotypes and find the love and lust they deserve. Keep scrolling so you can start swiping on these 11 Cosmo-approved dating apps for all your bisexual dating needs. We love you, bicons!
1. Tinder
Okay, so this bisexual author may be biased—hi, I met my fiance on Tinder—but hear me out. Tinder is the most popular dating app (Pew research confirms that it’s the most-used for people under 30). With so many members, the beauty of Tinder is that it connects you to people you’d likelly never cross paths with in real life, and more members = more options. Whether you’re looking for your spouse, sparks to burn through the night, or open to whatever the Tinder gods have in store for you, this dating app mainstay really does open up a world of options. (Oh, and if you’re looking for an icebreaker, check out this handy little list of 110 Tinder pickup lines.
2. Feeld
Feeld is a famous (or perhaps even infamous) non-traditional dating app best known for catering to the kinky and the non-monogamous. Of course, not all bisexuals are non-monogamous or kinky, but plenty are (and that’s awesome, not a stereotype). Feeld gets straight to the point, helping you find your daddy-dom or bratty baby gir‘with a simple swipe. But the open-minded dating app can even lead to long-term relationships; consider it the electronic version of going to a kink event. Plus, if you’re in a relationship and looking to date people with your partner, it allows you to build a couples’ profile so you can find others who are interested in dating a pair, rather than relying on the ol’ "Hey, we saw you across the bar and really dig your vibe."
3. Archer
Calling any and all bi men reading: Zane can't recommend Archer enough. “Archer is a new dating app from Match group specifically for queer men,” says Zane, noting that it’s really the only *dating* app on the market for queer men. While there are plenty of sex apps—which we adore and will tell you about!—this one is specifically geared towards helping queer men find a relationship.
4. OkCupid
OkCupid is a classic on the online dating scene that simply never goes out of style. The dating app has introduced a pretty epic range of gender identity and sexual orientation options, becoming more inclusive than many of its counterparts. Plus, thanks to OkCupid's comprehensive dating profiles, you can delve into specifics about what you’re into, both in the bedroom and out of it, helping you organically connect with like-minded people. Or, hey, if you’re more of an “opposites attract” kind of person, OkCupid can help you find that, too.
5. Lex
Lex, short for Lexicon, is a nostalgic nod to the classic personal ads era of dating, where words do the magic instead of photos. Its text-centric approach is ideal for bi people seeking substance and emotional connection over the superficiality of a swipe. It’s also crafted by the queer community for the queer community. With its staunch policy against any form of discrimination or hate speech, Lex emerges as a bisexual sanctuary.
6. Bumble
For the bold bisexual women who like to call the shots, Bumble is your match-making haven. Here, women send the first message, reducing the odds of unwanted encounters with the less-than-desirable and keeping you in control. The dating app welcomes both hetero and queer users alike, making it a vibrant community for finding your connection regardless of what you’re looking for.
7. Pure
Bisexual educator Carly S recommends Pure, which bills itself as “anything but boring,” if you’re bi and looking for a great hookup app. “It’s like if Snapchat, Craigslist personals, and Tinder had a hot baby,” says Carly. “You post an ad, folks can like it, and then you can chat and swap pictures and possibly meet up if you want. Or just sext. So maybe not great for dating, but super hot for fun times.” And if there’s one thing bisexuals are absolutely known for excelling at, it’s a super hot fun time.
8. Hinge
Dubbed “the dating app designed to be deleted,” Hinge is your go-to if you’re on the hunt for something serious. For all the pretty bi babies looking for something nice and cozy, Hinge has your back. It even helps vet candidates in the interest of keeping you away from bots and creeps and pairing you with friends of friends. If you’re someone who always asks your bestie to vet any dating app matches before you meet IRL, this one is for you.
9. #Open
For the ENM bisexuals, an app like #Open that’s explicitly designed for, well, open (i.e., ethically non-monogamous) dating can help you craft the couture relationship you want without having to fend off pesky and stigmatizing questions from skeptical monogamists. #Open also lets you date with a solo profile, a partnered profile, or a solo and partnered profile, making it super considerate of all relationship formats.
10. The League
The League is an app that prides itself on exclusivity and demands a bit more from its potential members. Get ready to share your job title, education, and even your LinkedIn profile before you can start swiping. There can be a wait, and some may find this app a bit pretentious. However, if you're a bisexual angel looking to meet the corporate daddy or doctor of your dreams, this app can help you get straight to the point and filter out anyone who doesn't meet your criteria.
11. Grindr
We did promise to include some hot hookup apps, afterall. Grindr, though often thought of as a hot spot for cis men on the lookout for other cis men, actually proudly stands as the globe’s premier social networking haven for gay, bi, trans, and queer individuals. A kaleidoscope of the LGBTQ+ community, Grindr is rightfully iconic. While associated with casual sex, lots of bisexual people have fallen in love and found long-term partnerships through this app. And you—yes, you—could be one of them! Orrr you could just have casual sex with the bisexual partner of your horny, non-committal dreams. Whatever you’re into! That’s all part of the beauty of dating while bi, baby.
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