Melania Trump is forging her own path as first lady, in spite of her husband

WASHINGTON — First lady Melania Trump on Monday is expected to unveil new initiatives focused on children at an event in the White House Rose Garden.

Trump’s rare appearance before the press to announce what is likely to be a modest set of proposals is a reminder of the unique challenges she has faced as first lady, filling an arcane role fraught with gender stereotypes and a lack of definition, compounded by her husband’s extreme divisiveness and outsized penchant for chaos.

The first lady famously pledged early in her husband’s presidency to make combating cyberbullying a priority, and has devoted some speeches and White House events to the subject over the past year. Predictably, her efforts have faced mockery at every turn — any mention of cyberbullying conjures her husband’s frequent Twitter tirades and ad hominem attacks.

“I am well aware that people are skeptical of me discussing this topic,” she said in March. “I have been criticized for my commitment to tackling this issue, and I know that will continue. But it will not stop me for doing what I know is right.”

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First Lady Melania Trump and her son Barron Trump participate in the 70th National Thanksgiving turkey pardoning ceremony in the Rose Garden of the White House in Washington, U.S., November 21, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
U.S. first lady Melania Trump reads the children's book "Party Animals" at the 139th annual White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, U.S., April 17, 2017. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump greets school children as she tours the holiday decorations with reporters at the White House in Washington, U.S. November 27, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst
First lady Melania Trump visits American International School of Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, May 21, 2017. REUTERS/Hamad I Mohammed
U.S. President Donald Trump delivers remarks as he hosts a Congressional picnic event, accompanied by First Lady Melania Trump, at the White House in Washington, U.S., June 22, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
First Lady Melania Trump holds a baby as U.S. President Donald Trump (not pictured) greets members of the congress and their families as they attend a congressional picnic event at the White House in Washington, U.S., June 22, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
US First Lady Melania Trump with France's First Lady Brigitte Trogneux during the second day of G7 Taormina summit on the island of Sicily in Taormina, Italy on May 27, 2017. (Photo by Gabriele Maricchiolo/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
WASHINGTON, DC - JUNE 04: First lady Melania Trump and President Donald Trump exit the residence to attend a reception at Ford's Theatre on June 4, 2017 in Washington, DC. (Photo by Olivier Douliery-Pool/Getty Images)
U.S. first lady Melania Trump introduces her husband President Donald Trump as he rallies with service members at Sigonella Air Force Base at Naval Air Station Sigonella at the end of Trump's participation in the G7 summit in Sicily, Italy May 27, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
US First Lady Melania Trump (R) visits the Queen Fabiola children's hospital, on the sidelines of the NATO (North Atlantic Treaty Organization) summit, on May 25, 2017 in Brussels. US President Donald Trump meets NATO and EU leaders for the first time with the US president set to press nervous allies to do more on terrorism after the Manchester bombing. / AFP PHOTO / BELGA / LAURIE DIEFFEMBACQ / Belgium OUT (Photo credit should read LAURIE DIEFFEMBACQ/AFP/Getty Images)
BRUSSELS , BELGIUM - MAY 24, 2017: President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump pictured during their meeting with Queen Mathilde and King Philippe of Belgium. (Picture by Didier Lebrun/Photonews via Getty Images)
US President Donald Trump (R) and First Lady Melania Trump step off the Air Force One upon arrival at Melsbroek military airport in Steenokkerzeel on May 24, 2017. US President Donald Trump arrived in Brussels ahead of his first talks with NATO and European Union leaders. / AFP PHOTO / Emmanuel DUNAND (Photo credit should read EMMANUEL DUNAND/AFP/Getty Images)
ROME, ITALY - MAY 24: US First Lady Melania Trump Visits the Paediatric Hospital Bambin Gesù on May 24, 2017 Rome, Italy. (Photo by Vatican Pool - Corbis/Corbis via Getty Images)
VATICAN CITY, VATICAN - MAY 24: Pope Francis exchanges gifts with United States President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump during an audience at the Apostolic Palace on May 24, 2017 in Vatican City, Vatican. The President Trump will return on Italy on Friday attending the Group of 7 Summit in Sicily. (Photo by Vatican Pool/Getty Images)
First lady Melania Trump is greeted as she visits GE All women business process service center in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, May 21, 2017. REUTERS/Hamad I Mohammed
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump arrive aboard Air Force One at King Khalid International Airport in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia May 20, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst
U.S. President Donald Trump and Melania Trump depart the White House to embark on a trip to the Middle East and Europe, in Washington, U.S., May 19, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump and U.S. first lady Melania Trump are pictured at the 139th annual White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, U.S., April 17, 2017. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
U.S. first lady Melania Trump and China's first lady Peng Liyuan applaud after students performed for them at Bak Middle School of the Arts in West Palm Beach, Florida, U.S., April 7, 2017. REUTERS/Joe Skipper
U.S. first lady Melania Trump watches as eighth grade art students paint at the Excel Academy public charter school in Washington, U.S., April 5, 2017. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts
U.S. President Donald Trump (L) and first lady Melania Trump (2ndL) welcome Jordan?s King Abdullah (R) and Queen Rania at the White House in Washington, U.S., April 5, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump kisses his wife Melania during a "Make America Great Again" rally at Orlando Melbourne International Airport in Melbourne, Florida, U.S. February 18, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. first lady Melania Trump and Sara Netanyahu look at the lunch counter exhibit during a visit to the African American Museum of History and Culture in Washington, U.S., February 15, 2017. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump (L) and Akie Abe, wife of Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe, listen to a guide as they tour Morikami Museum and Japanese Gardens in Delray Beach, Florida, U.S., February 11, 2017. REUTERS/Joe Skipper
U.S. President Donald Trump talks to journalist members of the travel pool accompanied by First Lady Melania Trump on board of the Air Force One during his trip to Palm Beach, Florida, U.S., February 10, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
With her face bearing the scars of an acid attack, Natalia Ponce de Leon stands with first lady Melania Trump after being recognized at the 2017 Secretary of State?s International Women of Courage (IWOC) Award ceremony at the State Department in Washington, U.S., March 29, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump and U.S. first lady Melania Trump walk with their son Barron to Marine One at the White House in Washington, U.S., March 17, 2017. REUTERS/Joshua Roberts
U.S. first lady Melania Trump (L) sits with Sara, wife of Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, during a visit to the Hadassah Ein Kerem hospital in Jerusalem May 22, 2017. REUTERS/Sebastian Scheiner/Pool
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump host a reception for Senators and their spouses at the East Room of the White House in Washington, U.S., March 28, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
U.S. first lady Melania Trump touches the Western Wall, Judaism's holiest prayer site, in Jerusalem's Old City May 22, 2017. REUTERS/Ronen Zvulun
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump hold hands as they arrive at the Naval Air Station Sigonella to visit U.S. troops before returning to Washington D.C. at Sigonella Air Force Base in Sigonella, Sicily, Italy, May 27, 2017REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump leave the MedStar Hospital Center following their visit to injured victims, after a gunman opened fire on a baseball field where Republican lawmakers were practicing for a charity game, in Washington, DC, U.S. June 14, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump arrive for dinner at Trump National Golf Club in Bedminster, New Jersey, July 14, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump leave after attending the traditional Bastille Day military parade on the Champs-Elysees avenue in Paris, France, July 14, 2017. REUTERS/Charles Platiau
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump reacts during the traditional Bastille Day military parade on the Champs-Elysees avenue in Paris, France, July 14, 2017. REUTERS/Charles Platiau
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump board Air Force One as they depart Orly aiport after the traditional Bastille Day military parade in Paris, France, July 14, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump stand in front of the American flag at the end of the traditional Bastille Day military parade on the Champs-Elysees in Paris, France, July 14, 2017. REUTERS/Gonzalo Fuentes
From L-R, Brigitte Macron, wife of French President Emmanuel Macron, U.S. President Donald Trump and First lady Melania Trump pose at the Jules Verne restaurant for a private dinner at the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France, July 13, 2107. REUTERS/Yves Herman
French President Emmanuel Macron (R) tours Marechal Foch's Tomb with US President Donald Trump (C) and First Lady Melania Trump (L) at Les Invalides museum in Paris, France, July 13, 2017. REUTERS/Ian Langsdon/Pool
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump board Air Force One as they depart Joint Base Andrews in Maryland, U.S., enroute to Paris July 12, 2017. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump visits the Necker Hospital for children in Paris, France, July 13, 2017. REUTERS/Philippe Wojazer TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump is greeted by Hamburg mayor Olaf Scholz during a G20 leaders spouses event at the townhall during the G20 summit in Hamburg, Germany July 8, 2017 REUTERS/Jens Buettner, Pool
U.S. President Donald Trump and his wife Melania Trump attend a concert at the Elbphilharmonie Concert Hall during the G20 summit in Hamburg, Germany, July 7, 2017. REUTERS/Kay Nietfeld,Pool
Hamburg mayor Olaf Scholz, U.S. First Lady Melania Trump, the husband of the German Chancellor Joachim Sauer and U.S. President Donald Trump stand together after a family photo of the participants of the G20 summit and their spouses prior a concert at the Elbphilharmonie in Hamburg, Germany, July 7, 2017. REUTERS/Ludovic Marin/POOL
U.S. President Donald Trump and his wife Melania attend a concert at the Elbphilharmonie Concert Hall during the G20 summit in Hamburg, Germany July 7, 2017. REUTERS/Christian Charisius,Pool
First Lady of the U.S. Melania Trump waves as she, U.S. President Donald Trump, Polish President Andrzej Duda and Polish First Lady Agata Kornhauser-Duda leave after Trump's public speech at Krasinski Square, in Warsaw, Poland July 6, 2017. REUTERS/Laszlo Balogh
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump arrive aboard Air Force One at Warsaw military airport in Warsaw, Poland July 5, 2017. REUTERS/Laszlo Balogh
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump arrive for the G20 leaders summit in Hamburg, Germany July 6, 2017. REUTERS/Axel Schmidt
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump welcome South Korean President Moon Jae-in and his wife Kim Jeong-sook to the White House in Washington, U.S., June 29, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
President Donald Trump concludes his remarks while First Lady Melania Trump applauds as they welcome military families who have gathered for a Fourth of July picnic on the South Lawn of the White House prior to a fireworks display, in Washington, U.S., July 4, 2017. REUTERS/Mike Theiler
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump wave as India's Prime Minister Narendra Modi leaves the White House after a visit, in Washington, U.S., June 26, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
First lady Melania Trump listens with Vice President Mike Pence (2ndL) and Secretary of State Rex Tillerson during a joint news conference between U.S. President Donald Trump and Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi in the Rose Garden of the White House in Washington, U.S., June 26, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
U.S. President Donald Trump (C) and first lady Melania Trump meet with Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi in the Oval Office at the White House in Washington, U.S., June 26, 2017. REUTERS/Carlos Barria
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump greets schoolchildren as she tours the holiday decorations with reporters at the White House in Washington, U.S., November 27, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst
U.S. President Donald Trump waves as he walks with First Lady Melania Trump and their son Barron on the South Lawn of the White House upon their return to Washington, U.S., after a Thanksgiving vacation in Florida, November 26, 2017. REUTERS/Yuri Gripas
U.S. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania Trump visit a U.S. Coast Guard Station Lake Worth Inlet in Riviera Beach, Florida, U.S., November 23, 2017. REUTERS/Eric Thayer
U.S. President Donald Trump speaks as his son Barron and first lady Melania Trump listen during the 70th National Thanksgiving turkey pardoning ceremony in the Rose Garden of the White House in Washington, U.S., November 21, 2017. REUTERS/Jim Bourg
U.S. President Donald Trump and U.S. first lady Melania visit the Forbidden City with China� President Xi Jinping in Beijing, China, November 8, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst
FILE: First Lady Melania Trump listens as U.S. President Donald Trump, not pictured, speaks to members of the media before boarding Marine One on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, D.C., U.S., on Friday, Oct. 13, 2017. The one year anniversary of U.S. President Donald Trump's inauguration falls on Saturday, January 20, 2018. Our editors select the best archive images looking back over Trumps first year in office. Photographer: Al Drago/Bloomberg via Getty Images
U.S. President Donald Trump, first lady Melania Trump and their son Barron step from Air Force One upon their arrival at Joint Base Andrews in Maryland, U.S., January 15, 2018. REUTERS/Kevin Lamarque
U.S. President Donald Trump and first lady Melania Trump, with their son Barron, arrive for a New Year's Eve party at his Mar-a-Lago club in Palm Beach, Florida, U.S. December 31, 2017. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
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In the meantime, she has turned her attention toward other projects, such as the nation’s opioid crisis ― especially its effect on children and families.

It’s unusual for a first lady not to have clearly defined initiatives at this point of her husband’s presidency, according to Kate Andersen Brower, author of First Women: The Grace and Power of America’s Modern First Ladies, and First in Line, an upcoming book about vice presidents.

Yet overall, Trump “has been, in her way, the best version of the first lady that she can,” given that she is dealing with “an impossible situation,” Brower said. And in distancing herself from her husband, she may be further reinventing the role of first lady and subverting public expectations of her, even in otherwise traditional tasks.

Trump has mostly adhered to ceremonial duties, such as hosting the first White House state visit of her husband’s presidency last month, with the Trumps’ French counterparts, Emmanuel and Brigitte Macron.

She has also responded to tragedies as a “consoler in chief,” Brower noted, such as visiting with hurricane survivors and representing her husband’s administration at former first lady Barbara Bush’s funeral last month.

These settings provide opportunities for Trump to “really be empathetic and sympathize with people, in the way that her husband can’t,” Brower said.

She also seems to contrast herself with her husband in the way she avoids publicly engaging in attacks, personal or political. As many political observers have noted, she notably has not responded to her husband’s many personal scandals, including his alleged extramarital affairs with porn star Stormy Daniels and Playboy model Karen McDougal. A rare exception was during his campaign, after the October 2016 release of the infamous “Access Hollywood” tape, when Trump defended her husband bragging about sexual assault as “boy talk.”

“I think she has been very smart to try to stay above the fray,” Brower said. “She’s learning the best thing to do is just focus on these bipartisan, non-controversial issues, do the state dinner, go about her business as best you can.”

Like previous first ladies, Trump has been subject to scrutiny and speculation over her fashion and personal life. Her marriage to the president in particular has sparked fascination and mystery, and her body language during their interactions is closely analyzed.

Brower attributed it to the way Trump remains a “cipher,” unlike some of her predecessors, who were more accessible to the press.

Curiously, Trump has drawn sympathy from unlikely places, particularly in pop culture depictions and social media memes.

In recurring segments on late-night host Stephen Colbert’s show, actress Laura Benanti portrays Trump as both desperate and defiant.

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WASHINGTON, DC - In the White House Kitchen Garden, First Lady Melania Trump plants and harvests vegetables with children from the Boys & Girls Club of Greater Washington on the White House grounds in Washington DC Friday September 22, 2017. (Photo by Melina Mara/The Washington Post via Getty Images)
WASHINGTON, DC - In the White House Kitchen Garden, First Lady Melania Trump plants and harvests vegetables with children from the Boys & Girls Club of Greater Washington on the White House grounds in Washington DC Friday September 22, 2017. (Photo by Melina Mara/The Washington Post via Getty Images)
PARIS, FRANCE - JULY 13: United States First Lady Melania Trump speaks with children as she visits Necker Hospital for children on July 13, 2017 in Paris, France. The United States of America President Donald Trump and his wife are on a 2 days visit to Paris. (Photo by Aurelien Meunier/Getty Images)
US President Donald Trump (R), Barron Trump (C), and US first lady Melania Trump board Air Force One before departing from Andrews Air Force Base in Maryland on June 30, 2017. Trump is heading to Bedminster, New Jersey to spend the weekend at his golf club. / AFP PHOTO / MANDEL NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP/Getty Images)
WASHINGTON, D.C. - JUNE 11: (AFP-OUT) U.S. President Donald Trump, first lady Melania Trump and their son Barron Trump arrive at the White House June 11, 2017 in Washington, DC. According to reports, Melania and Barron will soon be moving from Trump Tower in New York City to the White House. (Photo by Chris Kleponis-Pool/Getty Images)
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U.S. first lady Melania Trump visits the Queen Fabiola Children's University hospital in Brussels, Belgium, May 25, 2017. REUTERS/Hannah Mckay
US First Lady Melania Trump (C) meets patients as she visits the Queen Fabiola children's hospital, on the sidelines of the NATO (North Atlantic Treaty Organization) summit, on May 25, 2017, in Brussels. US President Donald Trump meets NATO and EU leaders for the first time with the US president set to press nervous allies to do more on terrorism after the Manchester bombing. / AFP PHOTO / Aurore Belot (Photo credit should read AURORE BELOT/AFP/Getty Images)
TOPSHOT - US First Lady Melania Trump (R) poses for a selfie as she visits the Queen Fabiola children's hospital, on the sidelines of the NATO (North Atlantic Treaty Organization) summit, on May 25, 2017, in Brussels. US President Donald Trump meets NATO and EU leaders for the first time with the US president set to press nervous allies to do more on terrorism after the Manchester bombing. / AFP PHOTO / Aurore Belot (Photo credit should read AURORE BELOT/AFP/Getty Images)
First Lady Melania Trump visits the American International School in the Saudi capital Riyadh on May 21, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / GIUSEPPE CACACE (Photo credit should read GIUSEPPE CACACE/AFP/Getty Images)
First Lady Melania Trump visits the American International School in the Saudi capital Riyadh on May 21, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / GIUSEPPE CACACE (Photo credit should read GIUSEPPE CACACE/AFP/Getty Images)
US First Lady Melania Trump takes part in an activity with children during the opening ceremony for the Healing Garden at the Children's National Medical Center on April 28, 2017 in Washington, DC. / AFP PHOTO / Mandel Ngan (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP/Getty Images)
US First Lady Melania Trump takes part in an activity with children during the opening ceremony for the Healing Garden at the Children's National Medical Center on April 28, 2017 in Washington, DC. / AFP PHOTO / MANDEL NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP/Getty Images)
Barron Trump waves while standing with US First Lady Melania Trump and US President Donald Trump during the Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House April 17, 2017 in Washington, DC. / AFP PHOTO / Brendan Smialowski (Photo credit should read BRENDAN SMIALOWSKI/AFP/Getty Images)
WASHINGTON, USA - JANUARY 20: Melania Trump, wife of President-elect Donald Trump, smooths the tie of her son, Barron, during the 58th U.S. Presidential Inauguration where her husband will be sworn in as the 45th President of the United States of America and she will become the First Lady in Washington, USA on January 20, 2017. (Photo by Samuel Corum/Anadolu Agency/Getty Images)
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump reads a book to children during the annual Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, D.C., U.S., on Monday, April 17, 2017. President Donald Trump and First Lady Melania presided over their first Easter Egg Roll, a 139-year-old White House tradition. Photographer: Olivier Douliery/Pool via Bloomberg
U.S. first lady Melania Trump smiles with children holding U.S. and China flags as she visits Beijing Zoo in Beijing, China, November 10, 2017. REUTERS/Thomas Peter TPX IMAGES OF THE DAY
U.S. first lady Melania Trump talks to children during her visit to Beijing Zoo in Beijing, China, November 10, 2017. REUTERS/Thomas Peter
U.S. first lady Melania Trump visits Beijing Zoo in Beijing, China, November 10, 2017. REUTERS/Thomas Peter
US First Lady Melania Trump (R) and China's First Lady Peng Liyuan (L)are surrounded by students after a cultural performance during a visit to Banchang Primary School in Beijing on November 9, 2017. REUTERS/Greg Baker/Pool
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump and China's First Lady Peng Liyuan visit a fashion class during their visit to the Banchang Primary School in Beijing, China, November 9, 2017. REUTERS/Ng Han Guan/Pool
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump (C) and China's First Lady Peng Liyuan (L) are escorted by a student after a cultural performance during a visit to Banchang Primary School in Beijing on November 9, 2017. REUTERS/Greg Baker/Pool
U.S. First Lady Melania Trump (C) and China's First Lady Peng Liyuan (R) listen as a student speaks in an architecture class during a visit to Banchang Primary School in Beijing on November 9, 2017. REUTERS/ Greg Baker/Pool
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Over the weekend, “Saturday Night Live” showcased the Stormy Daniels scandal, showing the first lady, played by Cecily Strong, as gleeful about the possibility of testifying against the president in his legal debacles.

In real life, Trump’s “silence” on Daniels and “refusal to stand by her husband” shows how much she has defied expectations as first lady, according to Brower. 

“I think that, in a way, that’s a feminist thing to do, to not do what’s expected of her,” Brower said. And, like many women who are judged by their appearance, “people underestimate her,” she added.

“She has rejected a lot of what is expected of her, and doesn’t seem to care about what we as a country expect of her,” Brower said. “I just don’t see that with her, and I think that’s kind of refreshing.”

  • This article originally appeared on HuffPost.
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