Woman shares heart-wrenching note with pregnancy test: 'I wish there were adequate words'
A woman has earned praise online for bravely sharing her negative pregnancy test on her Instagram after reportedly spending the previous 1,200 days trying to conceive.
33-year-old Tara Engelberg posted the photo along with a lengthy caption about her heart-breaking struggle with unsuccessfully conceiving.
"Another negative pregnancy test. Another period. Another reminder that for whatever reason, we cannot get pregnant," she wrote.
On the pregnancy test itself, Engelberg wrote: "It will be ok."
Infertility is described by the World Health Organization (WHO) as a "reproductive system defined by the failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse."
While infertility is common, it's rarely spoken about publicly. According to the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, 12 to 13 out of every 100 couples in the U.S. will have trouble getting pregnant. About 10 in 100 women in the U.S. between the ages of 15 to 44 will have difficulty becoming pregnant or staying pregnant.
But for Engelberg and her husband, their problems with infertility were a secretive burden for two years.
"We were shy and a little embarrassed by our struggle to conceive. No one was talking about infertility, and it was difficult for us to open up with others about it. It was a very isolating and lonely experience, and I hit rock bottom," Engelberg told Insider. "We hope our struggles will raise infertility awareness and help support others going through this incredibly difficult struggle as well."
For the last year, Engelberg has been documenting her struggles and process on Instagram. She has over 2,800 supportive followers.
"Don’t give up!! It will happen someday and you are too young to lose hope! After 3 years I’ve won my battle.... I’m sure it will be the same for you!" wrote one commenter.
"It took over 5 years and a miscarriage before we got our first, and another 3½ before we got our second. I hope all these stories give you strength to keep trying. Hang in there!" replied another.
"When I added this post to Instagram I hoped that somebody would resonate and find a connection with it, but I had no idea it would reach and touch the number of people that it has," Engelberg said. "There are so many ways to support people going through infertility, and I encourage everyone to learn more about the ways to help their loved ones this difficult journey."