Frank Borg’s family noticed changes in his memory a few years ago. But even in the two years since his dementia diagnosis and relocation to hospice care, Frank hasn’t forgotten about the deep love he has for his wife, Sue Borg. Instead, his memory of their love seems to be one thing that keeps him going — so much so, that he asked that they get remarried.
As part of the Mosaic Dreams program at Azura Memory Care in Eau Claire, Wisconsin, Frank was asked about what his best day would be in order for the facility to make it a reality. Immediately, he told caretakers that his dream was to relive his wedding day with his wife. On Wednesday, they recreated that very day that was over five decades ago.
“Frank is one of the most romantic guys you could ever meet. His love for Sue started in his teens and is still incredibly evident even after 54 years of marriage,” Paula Gibson from Azura Memory Care tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “When [Sue] walks into a room his eyes light up and you can just see the love and respect he continues to have for her. It’s truly breathtaking!”
Among the many things that Frank continues to forget as a result of his dementia, Gibson explains that Sue has never been one of them. Although every time Sue walks into the room, Gibson says that Frank seems to fall in love all over again.
“[Sue] visits at least once per day and every time, it’s like he has seen her for the first time and falls in love at first sight,” Gibson says. “While he forgets much of everything else, she is his constant and always on his mind.”
Frank’s strong feelings for his wife inspired the exact recreation of his and Sue’s special day, down to her bouquet and the couple’s cake. Now, the couple has two memories of the life-changing day to last them beyond their own lifetimes.
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The wrong meds
While not getting enough sleep may cause memory problems, taking prescription and over-the-counter sleep aids may cause symptoms that mimic dementia. "There are some medications that can cause confusion and make dementia worse," says Mollie Scott, PharmD, Regional Associate Dean at the University of North Carolina's Eshelman School of Pharmacy. Common medications that do this are medicines with anticholinergic properties—many prescription and over-the-counter medications have these properties, including those that treat incontinence and COPD as well as some antihistamines, sleep medications, and antidepressants, says Scott. One common offender is diphenhydramine, which is found in Benadryl and over-the-counter sleep aids such as ZzzQuil and Unisom. "Older adults often use these without realizing that they can negatively affect memory, cause constipation, and cause urinary retention," says Scott. "I recently saw a woman in her 70s who was very worried about her memory, but it turns out she couldn't sleep and was taking 50 mg of diphenhydramine at bedtime. Once she discontinued the medication, her symptoms improved." Learn how too much sleep can also increase your dementia risk.
Urinary tract infections
The typical symptoms of a urinary tract infection (UTI)—fever, pain, and urgency—are often missed in older people and if left untreated can cause symptoms that mimic dementia such as delirium, confusion, agitation, and hallucinations. "In nursing homes and hospitals, UTIs are rampant and a lot of patients are thought to have a sudden onset of dementia," says James. "If they are given an antibiotic, the symptoms will go away, but unless you are a nurse or medical professional, you will not necessarily know this, and if left untreated, you could have an infection." Fever along with the other side effects people experience when their bodies are fighting off infections, such as Lyme disease, meningitis, and encephalitis, can also cause dementia-like symptoms.
A number of recent studies have shown a link between hearing loss and dementia, and some experts believe that interventions such as professionally fitted hearing aids could potentially delay or prevent dementia. One study found that hearing loss is associated with accelerated cognitive decline in older adults and that seniors with hearing loss are more likely to develop dementia over time than those who retain their hearing, while another study revealed a link between hearing loss and accelerated brain tissue loss. "You 'hear' with your brain, not your ears," says Carole Rogin, President of the Hearing Industries Association (HIA). Unaddressed hearing loss not only affects the listener's ability to perceive the sound accurately, but it also affects higher-level cognitive function, explains Rogin. Specifically, it interferes with the listener's ability to accurately process the auditory information and make sense of it. "The latest research tells us that even with mild hearing loss, there may be a cognitive brain drain that could be taking resources away from remembering what you heard," says Rogin. Here are some more habits that cut your risk of dementia.
Water on the brain
Normal-pressure hydrocephalus (NPH), the accumulation of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) that causes the ventricles in the brain to become enlarged, can cause walking problems, urinary difficulty, and memory loss. According to the Hydrocephalus Association, more than 700,000 Americans have NPH, but less than 20 percent receive an appropriate diagnosis, leading them to be misdiagnosed with Alzheimer's or Parkinson's disease. "Referred to as water on the brain, the condition is a buildup of cerebral fluid that causes pressure, and that pressure is exerted on the brain tissue and causes problems," says James. "If left untreated it can cause long-term dementia, but if doctors can use a shunt system and remove the fluid, the person's symptoms can improve."
People with depression sometimes get a condition called pseudodementia, a type of cognitive impairment that mimics dementia but is actually caused by mental health conditions (such as depression) rather than those of the central nervous system. "The brain is the last explored frontier and not everything is understood in the medical community about the link between dementia and depression," says James. What is known is that studiesshow that the condition, which is typically seen in older adults, can be reversed if the depression is treated. "Depression can make the brain less efficient, and cause cognitive clouding and confusion, and difficulty with decision-making," says Dylan Wint, MD, director of education in Neurodegenerative Disorders and director of fellowship in Cognitive Disorders for Cleveland Clinic Lou Ruvo Center for Brain Health. "There is also evidence that important memory structures in the brain can shrink during episodes of depression. It is unclear what causes this shrinkage, but the structures seem to recover once the episode of depression is resolved."
"Stroke, head injury, concussion, anything that physically happens to the brain is a risk factor for dementia because it affects the physical structure of the brain tissue," says James. Head injuries caused by sports or car accidents in younger adults and those caused by falls, especially in the elderly, can cause subdural hematomas (bleeding between the surface of the brain and the covering over the brain) and can cause dementia-like symptoms such as memory loss and confusion. While some traumas can lead to permanent brain damage, research shows that these symptoms can be reversed with medication or surgery. Learn the everyday habits of people with exceptional memory.
Most of us get sufficient amounts of vitamin B-12 from the foods we eat—dairy, eggs, meat, and fish—but some people have a vitamin B-12 deficiency caused by a rare condition, called pernicious anemia, that if left untreated can cause symptoms that mimic dementia. People with this condition are not able to absorb vitamin B-12 from the foods they eat and the deficiency can lead to confusion, irritability, and apathy. Luckily, regular B-12 injections can cure the deficiency and relieve the symptoms. Other deficiencies that can cause symptoms of dementia include dehydration, not getting enough of B-1 or B-6 vitamins, or getting too little or too much sodium or calcium. Researchhas also shown a link between insufficient amounts of vitamin D and dementia. "In the United States, these deficiencies are most commonly caused by having a diet that is poor in variation and/or quality, such as eating junk food all the time," says Wint. "This can result from lack of knowledge, psychiatric disturbance, substance use, or other circumstances." These are the symptoms of a vitamin B-12 deficiency you need to know.
Heart and lung problems
Poor cardiovascular health such as arteriosclerosis (often called 'hardening of the arteries') or anything that is preventing good blood flow or too much blood flow to the brain (mini strokes) can put people at increased risk for memory impairment and dementia, says James. "If you have good cardiovascular health you are more likely to have good cognitive health." Following a heart healthy diet such as the Mediterranean diet has been shown to slow cognitive decline and lower the risk of getting Alzheimer's disease. In addition, another study shows that impaired lung function and chronic lung disease such as chronic obstructive pulmonary disorder (COPD), which can restrict oxygen levels to the brain, can cause an increased risk for memory loss and dementia. Early intervention and treatment of COPD, however, may help delay or even prevent the onset of dementia. Here's why the Mediterranean diet is so good for aging brains.
According to the Centers for Disease Control, more than 29.1 million people in the United States have diabetes. Diabetes causes the body's blood glucose (sugar) levels to rise higher than normal (also called hyperglycemia), and when these levels get too high or too low (hypoglycemia), studies have shown that people with the condition can experience memory loss and other dementia-like symptoms. In many cases, adjusting sugar levels can reverse the problem, but having diabetes can increase the risk of developing long-term memory problems and it has been linked to Alzheimer's disease. "Alzheimer's disease is often referred to as 'Type III' diabetes," says James. This is the difference between dementia and Alzheimer's.
While alcohol abuse destroys brain cells in areas critical for memory, decision-making, and balance, people who abuse alcohol may experience dementia-like symptoms because they are suffering from a vitamin deficiency. (Are you drinking too much? Here's how to recognize the safest amount of alcohol to drink.) Thiamine (B-1) helps brain cells produce energy, but when levels fall too low, brain cells cannot generate enough energy to function properly—the result is called Korsakoff syndrome. "Thiamine is depleted in people who abuse alcohol, explains James, and thiamine deficiency leads to memory loss, confusion, and other cognitive challenges." While giving up drinking won't auto-correct the situation, says James, in some cases the effects can be reversed or avoided all together if one maintains a healthy lifestyle. "It is estimated that up to one-third of dementia risk can be avoided by regular physical exercise, maintaining an active mental life, preventing diabetes, avoiding smoking, eliminating high blood pressure, treating depression, and using alcohol minimally or moderately (1-2 drinks per day)," says Wint. These are the daily habits that increase your risk of dementia.