You swiped right because he had a great profile photo. (You can’t resist a cute guy in swim trunks walking a pug on the beach.) He seemed sweet and funny over text and on the phone. But now, eek: He wants to meet you in person for a drink. Or double eek: dinner.
Even if you’re the best judge of character in the universe, blind dates are tricky—especially if you don’t have any mutual friends to vouch for him. Is he really as cool, kind and funny as he seems? Or is he just a jerk in nice-guy clothing?
10 dating app tips
10 dating app tips
1. Write a bio
"We know this seems obvious, but many people's 'about me sections' are blank! If you don't put the minimum effort in to create an online dating profile, it shows you're not taking it too seriously and doesn't bode well for the kind of effort and attention you might put into a date or relationship," explained Amanda Bradford, founder of The League.
2. Include a diversity of photos and avoid anything controversial
"You don’t want all your photos to be party pics; you don’t want all your photos to be skiing. You want to look like you have a pretty well-balanced life. A dating profile is your chance to communicate what your life is like, and what it might be like to date you," explained Bradford.
Patti Stanger also suggests users to increase their chances by downloading multiple apps. "Three apps is really good, but if you have the downtime and you can afford to do five, go for it," she said. "You got to take every action you possibly can to find true love," she said according to ET.
7. Add a conversation starter to your bio
Tinder's sociologist Dr. Jess Carbino reveals men don't really know how to spark a conversation with women. On that note, she suggests including a question in your bio that people can answer in the first message to get the convo rolling.
8. Don't give up
According to the New York Post, a study revealed that sending another message to a person you've matched with the second time increases chances of "sparking a conversation." Double texting is normally a red flag, but if you matched with them again, "the mutual attraction is there."
9. Let him or her talk
Once you meet IRL, make sure the person you're on a date with has a chance to talk. You might be chatting away because of social anxiety, but it's not all about you. Ask the other person questions to open them up.
10. Don't be too arrogant, but don't be too modest
Find a balance! You want to sell yourself, but not in a narcissistic way.
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On your first date, try this 30-second trick to find out: Pay close attention to the way he treats the staff at the restaurant or bar. Does he thank the busboy who hands him a fork? Does he say “please” and “thank you” when he orders his burger? Does he push his chair in when he gets up to use the bathroom so the server won’t trip? If the answer is yes, he’s second-date material (provided you also click with him, of course).
If he ignores—or worse, insults—the staff, it doesn’t matter how nicely he treats you. This is a huge red flag that his nice-guy display is all an act. Better to cut your losses now, before it’s your Aunt Judy he’s treating rudely.
Don’t worry, there are other guys with pugs in the sea.