Barack Obama has 3 simple questions to tell if your partner is 'the one'

How do you know if the partner you've picked is the perfect companion for a lifelong union?

Well, if you look at each other the way Barack Obama looks at Michelle, there's a good chance that you're in the right relationship.

But don't leave it to chance. The former president has three simple questions that he believes gets rid of the guesswork.

According to Dan Pfeiffer, who served as Obama's communications director, the then-commander-in-chief shared those questions with him when he was about to move in with his now-wife.

"Here's the advice I give everyone about marriage — is she someone you find interesting?" Pfeiffer quoted Obama in an excerpt from his new book ("Yes We Still Can: Politics in the Age of Obama, Twitter and Trump") that was recently shared on social media.

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1. Secret Service agents avert their eyes as the Obamas share a private moment on Inauguration Day 2009.

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2. Dancing at the White House during the Governors Ball in February 2009.

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3. Holding hands while heading to Camp David for the first time in March 2009.

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4. In the White House's Red Room with adviser Valerie Jarrett in March 2009.

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5. Watching fireworks on the roof of the White House on July 4, 2009.

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6. ​Posing for their first holiday portrait at the White House.

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7. ​Sharing a kiss after the State of the Union address in 2010.

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8. ​President Obama chats with Michelle as they walk the White House Colonnade in Sept. 2010.

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9. The Obamas visit the Flight 93 crash site on the 10th anniversary of the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks.

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10. ​Barack whispers something to Michelle during a break between events at the 2011 UN General Assembly.

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11. Obama jokes with Michelle after she says Dr. Jill Biden is her "favorite person in the room."

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12. ​The First Couple shares a private dance before a May 2012 concert at the White House.

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13. ​The First Lady greets Barack Obama on the tarmac at JFK in June 2012.

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14. ​The Obamas look out over their hometown skyline in Chicago on June 15, 2012.

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15. ​At Valerie Jarrett's daughter's Chicago wedding in June 2012.

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16. ​The First Couple smooches for the KissCam during a timeout at an Olympic basketball exhibition game in 2012.

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17. The Obamas made history with this August 2012 hug -- this became the most tweeted photo of all time after Obama sent it out to his followers on election night.

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18. ​Barack gives Michelle a kiss during the inaugural parade.

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19. ​The Obamas giggle as they ride in the inaugural parade in Washington, D.C., Jan. 21, 2013.

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21. ​The President sings 'Happy Birthday' to Michelle in the Blue Room of the White House. The First Lady's new hairstyle attracted a lot of attention from this photo.

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22. ​The Obamas arrive for an official dinner at the Presidential Palace in Dakar, Senegal, June 27, 2013.

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25. ​The Obamas and their pets Sunny and Bo, wait to greet visitors in the Blue Room during a White House tour.

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27. ​The Obamas hold hands during the event to commemorate the 50th Anniversary of Bloody Sunday and the Selma to Montgomery civil rights marches on March 7, 2015.

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28. The Obamas pose for a "Gimme Five" initiative photo in the East Room of the White House during the annual Easter Egg Roll, on April 6, 2015.

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29. The first lady snuggled against the president during a video taping for the 2015 World Expo in the Diplomatic Reception Room of the White House on March 27, 2015.

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30. ​The Obamas react to a child in a pope costume and mini popemobile as they welcomed children during a Halloween event on the South Lawn of the White House.

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While query No. 1 might seem overly simple, Obama broke it down for him.

"You will spend more time with this person than anyone else for the rest of your life, and there is nothing more important than always wanting to hear what she has to say about things," he explained.

As for questions No. 2 and 3, they didn't really require explanations at all.

"Does she make you laugh? And I don't know if you want kids, but if you do, do you think she will be a good mom?" he continued.

Being able to say yes to all three of those questions is, evidently, all it takes.

"Life is long," Obama told Pfeiffer. "These are the things that really matter over the long term."

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Candidate for the U.S. Senate Barack Obama (D-IL) (L) holding his daughter Malia with wife Michelle and youngest daughter Sasha (R) celebrate his victory with supporters over Repulican rival Alan Keyes November 2, 2004 in Chicago, Illinois. Obama was expected to easily defeat Keyes in this first ever senate race featuring two major-party African-American candidates.

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US Democratic presidential candidate Senator Barack Obama (D-IL) is seen with his wife Michelle in a family snapshot from their October 18, 1992 wedding day released by Obama's US presidential campaign, February 4, 2008.

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Senator Barack Obama and Michelle Robinson during The 36th Annual NAACP Image Awards - Arrivals at Dorothy Chandler Pavilion in Los Angeles, California, United States.

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Sen. Barack Obama (D-IL) and his wife Michelle wave during a rally in front of the old historic State Capitol building February 10, 2007 in Springfield, Illinois. Obama announced to the crowd that he would seek the Democratic nomination for President.

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Candidate for the U.S. Senate Barack Obama (D-IL) sits with his wife Michelle and daughters Sasha (L) and Malia (R) in a hotel room as they wait for election returns to come in November 2, 2004 in Chicago, Illinois. Obama is expected to win easily against the Republican candidate Alan Keyes.

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Democratic candidate for the United States Senate in Illinois, Barack Obama and his wife Michelle Obama wave to the crowd at the Democratic National Convention at the Fleet Center in Boston, Massachusetts, Tuesday, July 27, 2004.

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President elect Barack Obama and his wife Michelle wave to their supporters after Obama gave his victory speech during an election night gathering in Grant Park on November 4, 2008 in Chicago, Illinois. Obama defeated Republican nominee Sen. John McCain (R-AZ) by a wide margin in the election to become the first African-American U.S. President elect.

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US Democratic presidential candidate Illinois Senator Barack Obama and wife Michelle cast their votes in the 2008 presidential elections in Chicago, Illinois, November 4, 2008.

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Democratic presidential nominee U.S. Sen. Barack Obama (D-IL) (L) kisses his wife Michelle Obama laugh at the end of the Town Hall Presidential Debate at Belmont University's Curb Event Center October 7, 2008 in Nashville, Tennessee. Tonight's debate is the second presidential debate of three, the only one being held in the town hall style with questions coming from audience members.

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US Democratic presidential candidate Illinois Senator Barack Obama and his wife Michelle embrace during an election day speech at the end of the 2008 Democratic Party primaries, at the Xcel Energy Center in St Paul, Minnesota, on June 3, 2008.

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Democratic presidential candidate US Senator Barack Obama stands with his wife Michelle during a primary results rally in Raleigh, North Carolina, May 06, 2008.

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Democratic presidential candidate Sen. Barack Obama of Illinois and his wife Michelle Obama acknowledge the crowd at the Roberts Stadium, April 22, 2008 in Evansville Indiana. Late exit polls showed Obama losing the Pennsylvania primary to rival Sen. Hillary Clinton of New York by ten percentage points.

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Democratic presidential candidate US Senator Barack Obama and his wife Michelle during a rally at University of Pittsburgh in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, April 21, 2008. Pennsylvania will hold its primary vote on April 22.

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Surrounded by his family and supporters, Democratic presidential hopeful Sen. Barack Obama and wife Michelle Obama proclaim a resounding victory in the South Carolina Democratic primary, Saturday, January 26, 2008, in Columbia, South Carolina.

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Nobel Peace Prize laureate, US President Barack Obama (R) and First Lady Michelle Obama greet the torch parade from the balcony of the Grand Hotel in Oslo on December 10, 2009. US President Barack Obama today accepted the Nobel Peace Prize, uncomfortably acknowledging his role as a leader at war while insisting that conflict can be morally justified.

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First lady Michelle Obama (L) and President Barack Obama walk to the North Portico of the White House to await the arrival of the Indian Prime Minister November 24, 2009 in Washington, DC. U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama hosted their first State Dinner for Prime Minister Manmohan Singh and his wife Gursharan Kaur of India.

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US President Barack Obama and his wife first lady Michelle Obama walk from Marine One on the south lawn after arriving back at the White House on October 2, 2009 in Washington, DC. President Obama later spoke to the media about his trip to Copenhagen to lend support to Chicago to host the 2016 Summer Olympics games which was announced today to be held in Rio de Janeiro instead.

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US President Barack Obama winks at the First Lady Michelle Obama as they wait to welcome leaders to the G20 dinner at the Phipps Conservatory on September 24, 2009 in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

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US President Barack Obama kisses First Lady Michelle Obama prior to speaking at Hradcany Square near Prague Castle in Prague, Czech Republic, on April 5, 2009. The world must deliver 'a strong international response' to North Korea's launch of a rocket, US President Barack Obama said in a speech in Prague on Sunday.

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US President Barack Obama (R) and First Lady Michelle Obama (L) dance during their visit to the Western Inaugural Ball on January 20, 2009 at the Washington Convention Center in Washington, DC.

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President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle walk the Inaugural Parade route following Obama being sworn in as 44th US president January 20, 2009 in Washington, DC. Obama and Michelle twice stepped from of their limousine and out onto Pennsylvania Avenue to walk down the route taking them to the White House.

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President-elect Barack Obama (L) and his wife Michelle Obama arrive at 'We Are One: The Obama Inaugural Celebration At The Lincoln Memorial' January 18, 2009 in Washington, DC. The event includes a diverse array of talent featuring both musical performances and historical readings and an appearance by U.S. President-elect Barack Obama.

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U.S. President Barack Obama (R) looks at his wife, first lady Michelle Obama (L), as she speaks during a reception in honor of International Women�s Day at the East Room of the White House March 8, 2010 in Washington, DC. The reception honored women from around the world and their achievements.

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First lady Michelle Obama (L) stands with her husband U.S President Barack Obama, as they wait for Mexican President Felipe Calderon and his wife Margarita Zavala to arrive for a State Dinner at the White House on May 19, 2010 in Washington, DC. President Obama welcomed President Calderon to the White House today for an official state visit that is taking place amid tension over immigration politics and Mexico's deadly drug war.

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US President Barack Obama (L) and First Lady Michelle wave from Air Force One as they departure in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, March 21, 2011 to Santiago, Chile after two days of visits in Brazil.

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama chat as they walk to the White House in Washington, DC, on December 14, 2011 upon returing from Fort Bragg, North Carolina, where they met US troops. Obama on December 14, honored America's nearly nine years of 'bleeding and building' in Iraq, hailing the 'extraordinary achievement' of a war he once branded 'dumb.'

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First Lady Michelle Obama kisses US President Barack Obama after introducing him during a signing ceremony for a bill which provides tax credits to companies to put veterans back to work November 21, 2011 in the South Court Auditorium, next to the White House in Washington, DC.

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U.S. President Barack Obama (R), first Lady Michelle Obama (2nd R), former President George W. Bush walk past the North Pool of the 9/11 Memorial during the tenth anniversary ceremonies of the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks at the World Trade Center site, September 11, 2011 in New York City. New York City and the nation are commemorating the tenth anniversary of the terrorist attacks on lower Manhattan which resulted in the deaths of 2,753 people after two hijacked planes crashed into the World Trade Center.

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama arrive for the Congressional Picnic on the South Lawn of the White House in Washington, DC, June 15, 2011.

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama wait to greet Britain's Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip, the Duke of Edinburgh, for a reciprocal dinner at the Winfield House in London, on May 25, 2011. Obama and his wife Michelle enjoyed a regal welcome from Queen Elizabeth II, who has met every US president but one since the 1950s. Obama's visit, the second stop on a European tour, comes as Britain seeks to prove its staying power despite fading military might and Washington looks to retool its decades-old alliance with Europe as a catalyst for global action.

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US President Barack Obama (C) waves as and First Lady Michelle Obama applauds during the Kennedy Center Honors event at the Kennedy Center in Washington, DC, on December 4, 2011.

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Sasha, First Lady Michelle Obama, President Barack Obama and Malia wave to the crowd at the 2012 Democratic National Convention on September 6, 2012 in Charlotte, North Carolina.

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US President Barack Obama (R) and First Lady Michelle Obama talk as they attends the memorial service for the late Senator Daniel Inouye at the National Memorial Cremetary of the Pacific in Honolulu, Hawaii, December 23, 2012.

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U.S. President Barack Obama, left, and first lady Michelle Obama host a kids' 'state dinner' at the White House in Washington, D.C., U.S., on Monday, Aug. 20, 2012. The luncheon, which featured a selection of healthy recipes from the Healthy Lunchtime Challenge, is part of the first lady's 'Let's Move' initiative to combat childhood obesity.

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US President Barack Obama and his wife, US First Lady Michelle Obama, are seen on a large screen during the Men's USA Basketball vs Brazil game at the Verizon Center in Washington, DC, July 16, 2012.

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U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama walk to the South Lawn of the White House on June 27, 2012 in Washington, D.D. The annual picnic was held for members of Congress.

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama kiss prior to Obama speaking to US troops at Third Infantry Division Headquarters at Fort Stewart in Hinesville, Georgia, on April 27, 2012, prior to Obama signing an Executive Order to help US service members and their families make informed decisions about education and to protect them from deceptive targeting by educational institutions.

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U.S. President Barack Obama, right, and first lady Michelle Obama wait to greet David Cameron, U.K. prime minister, and his wife Samantha Cameron on the North Portico of the White House in Washington, D.C., U.S., on Wednesday, March 14, 2012. Obama and Cameron showed a united front on finishing the war in Afghanistan and pressing for change in Iran and Syria, seeking to consolidate international support before a North Atlantic Treaty Organization meeting in May.

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U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama dance at the Commander in Chief's Ball in Washington, January 21, 2013.

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First lady Michelle Obama smiles as U.S. President Barack Obama speaks to military personnel during a Christmas day visit to Marine Corps Base Hawaii in Kaneohe, Hawaii December 25, 2013. Obama is on vacation with his family in nearby Kailua.

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U.S President Barack Obama hugs first lady Michelle as they watch the Diamond Head basketball game between Oregon State and Akron during their Christmas vacation in Honolulu, Hawaii, December 22, 2013.

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U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama applaud the national anthem, played by trumpeter Arturo Sandoval (not pictured), as they arrive in their box for the 2013 Kennedy Center Honors at the Kennedy Center in Washington December 8, 2013. Musicians Herbie Hancock, Billy Joel and Carlos Santana, as well as opera singer Martina Arroyo and actress Shirley MacLaine are being honored this year for their lifetime contributions to American culture through the performing arts.

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President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama participate in a candle lighting to remember the 20 children and 6 adult school employees killed in New Town one year ago. ISP pool. 

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama wave as they attend the The Congressional Black Caucus Foundation, Inc. (CBCF) Annual Phoenix Awards September 21, 2013 at the Washington Convention Center in Washington, DC.

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U.S. First Lady Michelle Obama smiles as U.S. President Barack Obama arrives with sacks of toys and gifts from the Executive Office of the President staff to donate to the Marine Corps Toys for Tots Campaign in Washington December 10, 2014.

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U.S. President Barack Obama kisses first lady Michelle Obama at the annual White House Easter Egg Roll on the South Lawn April 21, 2014 in Washington, DC. President Obama and the first lady hosted thousands of children for the annual White House event dating back to 1876 that features live music, sports courts, cooking stations, storytelling, as well as the Easter egg roll this year.

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US President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama arrive for the 2014 National Medal of Arts ceremony in the East Room of the White House on September 10, 2015 in Washington, DC.

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U.S. President Barack Obama greets daughter Malia (not seen) and first lady Michelle Obama on stage after delivering his farewell address at the McCormick Place, the largest convention center in North America, on January 10, 2017 in Chicago, United States.

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After musing over the questions for a moment, Pfeiffer replied that his partner was "incredibly interesting, funnier than I am and will be a phenomenal mom."

That's all it took to convince Obama that his pal was making a good choice.

"Sounds like she's the one," Obama said. "Lucky you."

And lucky him, too.

After all, this good advice comes from a man who's been with his bride for more than 25 years and clearly has no regrets.

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