Wedding gift etiquette: Here’s how much the average person spends as a wedding guest

Whether you’ve been a B-list invite, a best man or the bride herself, chances are you know weddings tend to be expensive. But come warmer months, when the season is in full swing, you might be surprised by just how much you end up shelling out for festivities — especially if you have more than one to attend.

For starters, guests spend an average of $116 on gifts for weddings of close friends or family when they’re not in the bridal party, according to a new Bankrate report released Wednesday. Individuals who are members of the wedding crew tend to gift even more — an average of $153 per person.

To reach these numbers, Bankrate commissioned an online questionnaire from YouGov, which surveyed 2,228 people representative of U.S. adults.

RELATED: Affordable gowns

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Reformation

"Eliana" wedding dress, $598, Reformation

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Theia

"Blake" gown, $900, Theia available at BHLDN

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Melissa Sweet

Style MS251178, tiered chiffon a-line wedding dress, $758, Melissa Sweet available at David's Bridal

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Lace & Liberty

"Glamour" wedding dress with high neckline and sheath skirt silhouette, $860, Lace & Liberty

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Alfred Angelo

Style 2586, Venise lace and tulle wedding dress with tip-of-the-shoulder straps, $995, Alfred Angelo

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Morilee by Madeline Gardner

"Marisol" wedding dress, $849, Blu Collection from Morilee by Madeline Gardner

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Badgley Mischka

Draped jersey gown, Badgley Mischka Collection available at Shopbop

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Simply Val Stefani

Style S2012, short sleeve Alençon lace bridal crop top, $399; Style S2022, tulle bridal skirt, $315, Simply Val Stefani

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White by Vera Wang

Textured organza wedding dress, $898, White by Vera Wang available at David's Bridal

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Willowby

"Reagan" gown, $975, Willowby by Watters available at BHLDN

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Jenny Yoo

"Stella" luxe chiffon wedding dress, $600, Jenny Yoo

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Dreamers & Lovers

"Holly" lace off-the-shoulder dress, $925, Dreamers & Lovers

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Lillian West

Style 6467, lace and chiffon a-line wedding dress, $899, Lillian West

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Morilee by Madeline Gardner

"Maybelle" wedding dress, $698, Voyage Collection from Morilee by Madeline Gardner

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Moonlight Bridal

Style T768, tulle drop-waist mermaid wedding dress, Moonlight Tango

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David's Bridal

Style WG3829, Lace sweetheart wedding ball gown, $549, David's Bridal

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Sincerity Bridal

Style 3983, off-the-shoulder lace gown, $999, Sincerity Bridal

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Morilee by Madeline Gardner

"Melody" wedding dress, $698, Voyage Collection from Morilee by Madeline Gardner

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Jay Godfrey

"Clarke" gown, $540, Jay Godfrey available at Revolve

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Mignon

"Naomi" gown, $800, Mignon available at BHLDN

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Lace & Liberty

"Athena" chiffon wedding dress with beaded and sequined sleeves, $950, Lace & Liberty

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Lillian West

Style 6446, chiffon gown with keyhole neck and open long sleeves, $949, Lillian West

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Jenny Yoo

"Vivienne" luxe chiffon wedding dress, $600, Jenny Yoo

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Galina

Style WG3817, wedding dress with lace sleeves, Galina available at David's Bridal

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Simply Val Stefani

Style S2011, sleeveless net re-embroidered lace halter bridal top, $315; Style 2012, crepe satin trumpet bridal skirt, $440, Simply Val Stefani

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Alfred Angelo

Style 2208, draped all-over lace wedding dress, $750, Alfred Angelo

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The Stone Cold Fox

"Moss" sleeveless gown with spaghetti straps, $410, The Stone Cold Fox

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Tadashi Soji

"Marivana" lace gown, $650, Tadashi Soji available at BHLDN

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Sincerity Bridal

Style 3945, soft tulle and lace a-line wedding dress, Sincerity Bridal

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Morilee by Madeline Gardner

"Marine" wedding dress, $949, Blu Collection from Morilee by Madeline Gardner

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Galina Signature

Style SWG761, limited-edition cap sleeve crepe wedding dress with plunge bodice, Galina Signature available at David's Bridal

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Moonlight Bridal

Style T763, Mikado sleeveless ball gown with pleats and side pockets, $630, Moonlight Bridal

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Badgley Mischka

"Heather" gown, $850, Badgley Mischka available at BHLDN

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Needle & Thread

Style 670477, embellished satin-crepe and tulle gown, $700, Needle & Thread available at Net-A-Porter

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Adrianna Papell

V-neck sleeveless lace dress with mermaid skirt, $220, Adrianna Papell

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Katie May

"Collette" ivory dress, $895, Noel and Jean by Katie May available at Shopbop

Courtesy of Shopbop/From Brides

Monsoon

"Isabella" bridal dress, $875, Monsoon

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Phase Eight

"Cathlyn" wedding dress, $890, Phase Eight

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Reformation

"Poppy" wedding dress, $388, Reformation

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ASOS

Lace Applique Mesh Midi Dress, $226, ASOS

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The findings revealed that the most financially taxing commitment above all is being part of the wedding party: Between the bachelor or bachelorette celebrations and showers, those who accept the honorable role of bridesmaid or groomsman can anticipate spending an average of $728 in total (that includes gifts, travel, attire and then some). For those party members living in the Northeast U.S., the average total exceeds $1,000.

Yet guests who aren’t part of the wedding party still have to dig deep into their pockets: They spend an average of $628 on everything leading up to and including the big day, at least when they consider themselves close with the bride or groom.

So what’s a not-rich party person to do when there are a half a dozen save-the-dates stuck to the fridge and wedding season is creeping up? Deep breath — there are several smart ways to save.

Opening a dedicated savings account to which you deposit $20 to $50 a month can help you prepare ahead of those big registry purchases, as Sarah Berger of Bankrate previously suggested to Mic. With the right account, you can even earn a bit of interest to boot.

RELATED: Who to tip

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Officiant: If your officiant is a member of the clergy, you may not be able to tip him or her directly, but you can make an additional donation to the house of worship. For nonclergy, tip around $50.

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Photographer and Videographer: As a general rule, it’s not necessary to tip the owner of the company (which wedding photographers often are), though you could tip $100 or more if you feel so inclined. If there is an assistant, tip the assistant $50 to $75.

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Caterer and Waitstaff: Gratuity (or a service fee) is often included in your total bill. If not (or if you’d like to give a little more), $10 to $20 per person is a nice gesture. Unlike at a restaurant, the waitstaff at your wedding isn’t depending on tips for wages.

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Hair and Makeup: Like at the salon, tip around 15 to 20 percent of the service. You may provide this tip yourself if you’re paying for all of your bridesmaids’ services, or include a tip in the total that they each owe so they can make sure to have enough cash on hand.

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Delivery and Rental Staff: Talk to your vendors about how many people they’ll have on site for your wedding day, then plan to tip $10 to $20 per person.

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Wedding Planner, Baker, Stationer, and Florist: As business owners, these pros won’t be expecting a tip. However, if you really loved their work or felt they went above and beyond, consider putting cash or a check in the mail after the wedding, along with a thank-you card (especially because your planner is the only one of these vendors you’ll probably see on your wedding day). If your planner brought an assistant who did great work, be sure to send over a tip for her or him as well! 

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Planning ahead can be a major money-saver: If you’ll have to travel to the wedding, booking your flight a couple of months in advance or researching the best deal for a rental car can help to skim off some green. You might also consider foregoing a fancy hotel for a local bed and breakfast, Airbnb or a short-term room rental.

As for the present? Getting to the wedding registry early may give you the best opportunity to buy a great gift within your means — and pairing a more inexpensive on-registry gift with a separate off-registry gift can also help split the difference.

Finally, don’t be afraid to turn down a wedding invitation if you’re stressed about busting your budget: Sending along a thoughtful, warm-but-apologetic letter or greeting card and small gift — and making plans to see the couple on a different occasion — is classy and shows you care about your friendship.

RELATED: Iconic royal gowns 

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Marie-Chantal Miller and Prince Pavlos of Greece

The Valentino-designed gown cost $225,000 and took 25 people to make

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Prince Abdullah with Rania El-Yassin of Jordan

Rania's gown was designed by Bruce Oldfield and featured rich gold embroidery

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Prince Carl Philip and Sofia Hellqvist of Sweden

The former reality TV star got hitched in a stunning Ida Sjöstedt dress that was decorated with handmade lace from Jose Maria Ruiz. 

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Queen Soraya and Shah Mohamed Reza Pahlevi of Iran

Queen Soraya donned a custom Christian Dior gown for her 1951 wedding

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Prince William and Kate Middleton of England

The now-Duchess of Cambridge's stunning wedding dress was designed by Alexander McQueen

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Prince Felix and Claire Lademacher of Luxembourg

Princess Claire dazzled in an Elie Saab gown with Chantilly lace flowers that came decked out with a 10-foot-long train

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Prince Guillaume and Stephanie De Lannoy of Luxembourg 

Princess Stephanie was a total vision in an ivory Elie Saab gown

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Prince Charles and Diana Spencer of Whales

Princess Diana took our breath away in a massive David and Elizabeth Emanuel gown

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Prince Rainier and Grace Kelly of Monaco

Grace Kelly wore a long-sleeved gown made by costume designer to the stars, Helen Rose, that featured a jaw-dropping 25 yards of heavy taffeta, 25 yards of silk taffeta, 100 yards of silk net, and 300 yards of lace

Princess Victoria and Daniel Westling of Sweden

Princess Victorian wowed in an off-the-shoulder Pär Engsheden satin gown -- but can we talk about that stunning tiara?!

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Prince Felipe and Letizia Ortiz of Spain

The former journalist opted for a collared Manuel Pertegaz gown a 14-foot train

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Princess Madeleine and Christopher O'Neill of Sweden

Princess Madeleine was the epitome of perfection in a Valentino gown

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Princess Caroline and Philippe Junot of Monaco

The royal donned a '70s-style wedding dress designed by Marc Bohan

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Prince Haakon and Mette-Marit Tjessem Hoiby of Norway

Princess Mette-Marit opted for a custom-dyed ecru silk crêpe with a 6-foot train and a nearly 20-foot veil

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Prince Frederik and Mary Donaldson of Denmark

Princess Mary wore a Uffe Frank gown made of an ivory duchess satin with a scoop neckline, a slim-fit bodice and lily-like sleeves

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