Women like to be hugged on the first date, think more than two drinks is too many, and reach their sexual peak at 66, according to a new survey

First dates make everyone nervous. If you're meeting someone from a dating app, it's especially hard becuase you barely know anything about the person you're about to spend time with.

Everyone has different boundaries, so it can be difficult to work out what someone else wants from the first date. Luckily, thanks to a survey by Match.com, we could have some answers.

In its seventh annual Singles in America Study, dating site Match.com asked over 5,000 singles in the US about dating rituals, the impact of social media, and their attitudes about love, sex, and relationships.

According to the results, the number one thing women want on a first date is to feel comfortable. 79% said this was their priority, followed by 35% wanting to be happy, and 27% wanting to be liked.

Valentine's Day cocktails you'll fall in love with
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Valentine's Day cocktails you'll fall in love with

Ültra Violet Rain

Created by Rael Petit, Delilah


  • 2 oz Jägermeister and Red Brussel Sprout Extract
  • 1 oz Champagne
  • ½ oz Vodka
  • ½ oz Fresh Lemon Juice
  • ½ oz Ginger Syrup


  1. Build lemon juice, ginger syrup and vodka into shaker.
  2. Shake and strain into coupe glass.
  3. Top with champagne.
  4. Float Jägermeister and red Brussel sprout extract on the top of the drink.
  5. When combined with the citrus, the extract changes from blue to ultraviolet.

Red Brussel sprout and Jägermeister Extract:

  1. In a pan, place two lbs of red Brussels sprouts and 100 mL of water and cook on high for 15 minutes.
  2. After 15 minutes, place into another container and top with saran wrap. Let sit for a half hour.
  3. After half hour, strain out the water.
  4. Add one tablespoon of baking soda and that will turn the water from purple to blue.
  5. Add 80 mL of water mix with 40 mL of Jägermeister.
  6. Put the container in the freezer.

Basil Cranberry Fix

Created by Willy Shine, Brand Meister


  • 1 part Jägermeister
  • 1 part Bourbon
  • ¾ part Lemon Juice
  • 6-8 Aromatic Mint & Basil Leaves Muddled
  • 4-5 Cranberries
  • ¾ part Spiced Simple Syrup
  • Glass: Frozen 11 oz Old Fashioned Glass
  • Ice: Crushed ice
  • Garnish: Mint Sprig/Cranberries & Powdered Sugar


  1. Muddle mint and basil leaves in a rocks glass and add ice.
  2. In a separate glass combine Jägermeister, Bourbon, Lemon Juice, and Spiced Simple Syrup.
  3. Shake and strain over muddled mint and basil leaves.
  4. Garnish with a mint sprig, cranberries and powdered sugar.

Love of a Lifethyme

Created by Lucinda Sterling, Middle Branch


  • 1 oz Patrón Silver
  • .5 oz lemon juice
  • .25 oz pomegranate syrup
  • .25 oz honey
  • 2 dashes Peychaud’s bitters
  • Prosecco
  • Absinthe


  1. Shake first five ingredients with ice.
  2. Then strain into an absinthe-rinsed coupe, top with a float of Prosecco and garnish with a fresh thyme sprig.
Rosa is Red


  • 5 oz. Rosa Regale
  • 1 oz. London Dry Gin
  • ¾ oz. Lemon juice
  • ¾ oz. Lavender simple syrup*
  • ½ oz. Blood orange juice
  • 1 Strawberry, sliced
  • 1 Orange peel, to garnish


  1. Combine gin, lemon, blood orange and lavender simple syrup into shaking tin and fill halfway with ice.
  2. Shake for 2 seconds and strain into a wine glass with ice.
  3. Top wine glass with Rosa Regale. Drop strawberries into glass and garnish with orange peel.
  4. *Lavender Simple Syrup: Bring one cup of water to a boil with 1 tablespoon lavender sprigs. Add 1 cup of sugar and stir until dissolved. Take off heat and let cool. Strain out lavender and refrigerate up to one week.

NOLET’S Silver Red Red Rose(mary)


  • 1.25 oz. NOLET’S Silver Dry Gin
  • .75 oz. Meyer Lemon Syrup
  • 1oz. Meyer Lemon Juice
  • Raspberries and Rosemary


  1. Pour ingredients into a mixing glass with ice.
  2. Shake well. Strain into a coupe glass.
  3. Garnish with a fresh rosemary sprig and fresh raspberries.

Ever Thine, Ever Mine 

Created by Pamela Wiznitzer of Seamstress NYC


  • 1.5oz Kerrygold Irish Cream Liqueur
  • .75oz Pama Liqueur
  • 1.5oz Koskenkorva Vodka


  1. Pour in a coupe glass and garnish with raspberries.

Breakfast in Bed 

Created by Natasha David of Nitecap


  • 2 oz Carpano Antica Formula
  • 0.75 oz Lemon Juice
  • 0.5 oz simple syrup
  • 1 tsp. Brancamenta
  • 1 barspoon Orange Marmalade


  1. Shake, strain
  2. Double rocks glass with crushed ice
  3. Garnish with a lavish mint bouquet

Diamond District 

Created by Max Green of Amor y Amargo


  • 1 oz Sancho Infused Wild Turkey 101 Rye
  • 2 oz Carpano Antica Formula
  • 2 dashes Scrappy’s Lime Bitters


  1. Add all ingredients to the mixing glass, stir and strain into a chilled coup, garnish with a lemon twist.

Sunday Morning Hues 

Created by Lucinda Sterling of Middle Branch


  • 1 oz Crème Yvette
  • 1 oz Kerrygold Irish Cream Liqueur
  • 1 oz Caffè Borghetti
  • 1 oz Espresso
  • 1 oz Mascarpone


  1. Mix all ingredients except mascarpone with ice in an Irish Coffee mug.
  2. Top with mascarpone cheese and garnish with an orchid

Night Cap


  • 1.5 oz. Crystal Head Vodka
  • 0.5 oz. Caffè Borghetti
  • 1 freshly brewed espresso shot
  • Chocolate shavings or coffee beans


  1. Pour Crystal Head, coffee liqueur and espresso into a shaker filled with ice.
  2. Shake vigorously to create froth then strain into a martini glass.
  3. Garnish with chocolate shavings or finely crushed coffee beans.

Korbel Ruby Rose


  • ¾ oz. Chambord Black Raspberry Liqueur
  • 2 oz. cranberry juice
  • 4 oz. Korbel Brut Rosé
  • Strawberry Slice
  • Raspberries


  1. Pour Chambord Black Raspberry Liqueur and cranberry juice into a shaker with ice.
  2. Shake and strain into a wine glass.
  3. Top with Korbel. Garnish with a strawberry slice or raspberry.

Rose For A Rose


  • 1.25 oz. Tanqueray No. TEN
  • ½ teaspoon Rose Water
  • 3 oz. Fever-tree Elderflower Tonic


  1. Add all ingredients into a copa glass filled with crushed ice.
  2. Garnish: Rose petals, raspberries and strawberries

Rose Quartz 

Created by Ben Scorah


  • 1 oz. Tequila Don Julio Blanco Infused with Goji Berry and Rose Petals*
  • 8 oz. Sparkling Mineral Water
  • 1 small dash Rose Water
  • Rose Petals and Goji Berry Dust for Garnish


  1. Add infused Tequila Don Julio Blanco and Rose Water to the Highball Glass and stir.
  2. Add ice to a Collins glass.
  3. Add the Sparkling water to the glass.
  4. Stir gently to mix all the ingredients together.
  5. Garnish: Rose Petal and a pinch of Goji Berry Dust.

* Infusion Details:  Add one 750ml bottle of Tequila Don Julio Blanco, 6-8 Food Grade Rose Petals and 2 oz. of Goji Berries to a covered container, let sit in a cool place for between 2 days and a week.

Cherry Crush


  • 1.25  oz. Johnnie Walker Red Label
  • 1/4  oz.  Maraschino liqueur
  • 3/4 oz.  lemon juice
  • 1 ½ oz. fig puree*


  1. Add all the ingredients in a shaker with ice, shake and double stain into a rocks glass filled with crushed ice.
  2. Garnish: slice of a fig and a sage leaf
  3. *Ginger-Fig Sage Puree : Bring the sugar and water to a boil in a medium saucepan over medium-high heat, stirring to dissolve sugar. Add ginger, sage and figs bring to a simmer. Remove from heat, strain the herbs and let steep 30 minutes.  Strain the ginger and into a blender. 

Hibiscus Cocktail


  • Santa Margherita Prosecco Superiore
  • Whole hibiscus flowers, packed in syrup
  • 8 tsps of hibiscus syrup used to pack the flowers


  1. Place a whole hibiscus flower in the bottom of glass.
  2. Fill glass with Santa Margherita Prosecco Superiore to ¾” of the rim.
  3. Carefully spoon 2 tsps of the hibiscus syrup down the interior side of each glass.

Compliments aren't going out of style, with 94% of women saying they would want to be complimented by their date, and 90% said they would want their date to be waiting for them when they arrive.

After the date, 91% of women would approve of their date picking up the bill, but 45% wouldn't mind splitting.

The main turnoffs women reported were someone having more than two drinks on a first date (80%), being rude to waiting staff (38%), arriving over 15 minutes late, or asking to share their date's food.

As for appropriate physical contact, 82% were happy with being hugged, and 71% would expect a kiss on the cheek.

When it comes to sex, whether it's on a first date or not, 83% of singles want their partner to be caring and enthusiastic, 78% want good communication, and 76% think it's important that their partner is a good kisser.

Too much talking was an indication of bad sex, turning off 82% of singles, and bad kissing put off 62% of them.

Age also plays a part in getting it on — and according to the survey, single women have their best sex at 66 years old, and men are just slightly younger at 64, but the reasons for this are unclear. According to the Daily Mail, it could be because at this age, people know what they want physically and aren't timid about asking for it.

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"Americans are having long overdue conversations about people's diverse sexual lives, respect, pleasure, and consent," said Justin Garcia, a gender studies endowed professor and research scientist at The Kinsey Institute, and Scientific Advisor to Match.com.

"Singles of all ages, sexual orientations, races, ethnicities, and genders report that an enthusiastic, caring, and communicative partner are the key ingredients for a pleasurable sexual experience, which further emphasizes that affirmative consent and mutual respect and engagement is paramount to good sex."


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