Michael Kerr, an international business speaker and author of "The Humor Advantage," says there's one question in particular you should never ask during a job interview: "Did I get the job?"
"Now is simply not the time to ask this question," he explains. "Yes, it's good to demonstrate you are enthusiastic, but there is a line that can make you appear desperate, and asking this question definitely crosses that line."
"If you don't, the interviewer will assume you are either insecure, don't have an appropriate answer for the question being asked, or are being deceptive. Does that mean it's true? No, but perception is everything in a job interview."
Reiman said smiling demonstrates confidence, openness, warmth, and energy.
"It also sets off the mirror neurons in your listener, instructing them to smile back. Without the smile, an individual is often seen as grim or aloof," she explained.
This may give the interviewer the impression that you're bored or uninterested in the conversation. Instead, keep your hands on the desk or table, and don't fidget.
In their book "Crazy Good Interviewing," John B. Molidor, Ph.D., and Barbara Parus suggest showing your palms during an interview — since the gesture indicates sincerity — or pressing the fingertips of your hands together to form a church steeple. which displays confidence, reports Business Insider's Shana Lebowitz.
"People don't realize that the job interview begins in the waiting room, but it does. So don't slouch in the chair in the reception area," she advised. "In order to be perceived as confident, you must sit or stand tall, with your neck elongated, ears and shoulders aligned, and chest slightly protruding."
This position changes the chemicals in our brain to make us feel stronger and more confident, and it gives the outward appearance of credibility, strength, and vitality, she explained.
Playing with your hair, touching your face, or any other kind of fidgeting can be a major distraction for your interviewer. It also demonstrates a lack of power, said Reiman.
This gesture will tell the interviewer you're not comfortable or you're closed off.
"When we touch our faces or hair, it is because we need self soothing,"Reiman explained.
Is that the message you want to send to your interviewer
A weak handshake may tell the interviewer that you're nervous, shy, and that you lack confidence, explains Colin Shaw, CEO of Beyond Philosophy, a customer experience consultancy, in a LinkedIn post.
Ideally, your handshake should be firm, but not overbearing. "The secret to a great handshake is palm-to-palm contact," Wood told Business Insider. You want to slide your hand down into the web of theirs, and make palm-to-palm contact. Lock thumbs, and apply an equal amount of pressure.
"It's okay to use your hands to illustrate a few important points," writes Lebowitz. "In fact, research suggests that staying too still can give the impression of coldness.
"But relying too much on hand gestures can be distracting, according to Molidor and Parus."
She says you should remember you're in a job interview, not a theater audition.
People tend to show their dominating personality by gripping the interviewer's hand and palming it down, but this tells the interviewer that you need to feel powerful, Reiman explained. "Instead, the handshake should be more natural: thumbs in the upward position and two to three pumps up and down."
As the applicant, you should always wait for the interviewer to extend their hand first, she added.
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Plus, it puts the interviewer on the spot. "Hiring managers may find this question rude," Kerr adds. "Almost nobody is in a position to make a firm offer until they've finished interviewing everyone and have followed up on references, and asking this question reveals a lack of empathy for the interviewers' challenges and a lack of respect and understanding for the entire interview process."
Depending on the tone you use when asking this question, it might also make you appear either under-confident and needy, or overconfident with a certain air of entitlement. "Keep in mind, more and more companies are hiring for attitude and emotional intelligence, and asking this question might raise a red flag in both of these areas," he explains.
Kerr says similar questions some candidates are tempted to ask are: "How did I do?" "Do you have any hesitations about me?" "What do you really think of me?" and, "Could you imagine me working here?"
"Again, this in not the time and place for these types of question," he says. "The place to ask for genuine feedback is when the company has contacted you with their decision."
Instead, look for signs that might indicate whether or not you'll be getting an offer, and ask questions like: "Is there anything else I can provide to help you make your decision?" or "Can you tell me what steps need to be completed before your company can generate an offer?" or "What's your timeline for making a decision, and when can I expect to hear back from you?"
"They key is to end the interview by making a good impression," Kerr concludes, "so don't leave them thinking you're impatient or immature."
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