All too often, we buy things we think we're supposed to, and whenever there's an emotional component involved, our tendency to overspend is even greater. Think funerals, weddings and engagement rings, just for starters.
Here's a look at some things we routinely spend way too much on, and painless ways to cut back:
According to the National Funeral Directors Association, the average cost of a funeral with viewing and burial was $7,181 in 2014, the last year for which statistics are available. With a vault (which is typically required by a cemetery) the median cost was $8,508. The cost does not take into account cemetery plot, monument or marker costs or miscellaneous cash-advance charges, such as for flowers or an obituary. That's a lot of cash.
The worst time to shop for a funeral is after a loved one dies, when grief can affect judgment. The single best way to avoid unnecessary costs is to be clear on your funeral wishes — or better still, make arrangements for your funeral — well in advance so your loved ones don't have to worry (which tends to lead to overspending). Either way, the costs can be far less than that average if you follow some tips:
Know your rights as a consumer: The Federal Trade Commission regulates "funeral providers" under The FTC Funeral Rule. The requirements mandate that funeral homes provide a list of prices, and that customers are not required to buy all funeral-related products from the home that is coordinating the funeral.
Shop around. Because the law allows you to BYOC (bring your own casket), shop around. Where? Try Costco. While the NFDA says a casket averages $2,395, you can get a casket from Costco for $950 — delivery to the funeral home included. But there are many other discount options online.
Get cremated. In 2015, 49 percent of deceased were cremated in the United States, compared with 45 percent who received traditional burials. (The other 6 percent were not accounted for.) That's up from a cremation rate of under 10 percent in 1980. The NFDA puts the average cost of a funeral with viewing and cremation at just over $6,000. But in reality, opting for cremation makes it possible to avoid many costs — including embalming, viewing and burial — as Everplans, an online service that helps people make estate and end-of-life arrangements, explains here. Moreover, the site points out, cremation makes it easy to hold the memorial at a later date, in a way that is affordable and convenient for family to come together.
Many people set out to be frugal, but fail once the planning gets underway — and the wedding industry gets its tentacles into them. So the first and single most important step to preventing overspending is to stop and think: What will make the occasion fun, memorable and meaningful for you and your guests — versus what is just a costly tradition or expectation? Then have a conversation about where you could better spend the thousands of dollars you save. Travel? Downpayment on a house? Or — if you're a parent who is ponying up the wedding costs for the couple — retirement? Setting aside the option of eloping, there are any number of ways to save:
Limit the floral arrangements: Flowers are nice, but they can run up a huge bill, and then they die.
Trim the guest list: Remember, the costs of food, decorations, drinks, table arrangements goes up as you add guests. So keep the wedding numbers down. You can always throw a huge barbecue for everyone you know later.
DIY DJ: The Knot survey says a reception band will cost about $3,000, while a disc jockey will run almost $1,000. You can simply program your favorite music on an iPods and then hire someone (or even asking a friend) to push the right buttons at the right time. Search online for "DJing your wedding," and you'll find all kinds of detailed advice.
Cut the cake. Specialty cakes can run into the hundreds of dollars. But really, how many weddings have you been to where everyone raved about the cake? Skip the specialty baker and buy your cake from your local grocery chain.
You'll notice we didn't mention engagement and wedding rings in the Weddings section. That's because jewelry is an overspending category unto itself — and diamonds may be the most marked-up item on this list. But like funerals and weddings, buying diamonds is fraught with danger because it's yet another emotional purchase. If we try too hard to save money, we feel like we're being cheap.
But here's a secret: Diamond prices are often negotiable, even at major chains like Zales and Kay Jewelers. So while it's important to know the four C's of diamonds — carat, color, clarity and cut — the biggest lesson you can learn is to haggle. If your local jeweler or national retailer won't come down on price, they'll often be willing to upgrade the setting for a discount or even free.
Money Talks News founder Stacy Johnson lives in a beautiful house on the water, and there's a 30-foot boat docked out back. But he's never, ever bought a new car. This is what he says:
When it comes to buying cars, the vast majority of people I've known over the years approach the subject with no imagination at all. They simply do what the commercials tell them to and what their friends do: trudge down to the nearest dealer and buy a new car.
Instead, he's bought used cars for as little as $5,000. How? He avoids car lots. "A few years ago I bought a 1994 Cadillac Fleetwood Brougham from a 91-year-old lady," he recalls. He suggests asking around — friends of friends seem to value a fair price and honesty. He also consults websites like Kelley Blue Book or Edmunds to establish a value. And finally, he gets the car inspected by a local mechanic. It might cost $50, but it can "save a ton of headaches and bills down the road," he says.
But if you're dead-set on a new car, consider more than the price. Also take into account resale value, fuel efficiency, repair record and the cost of insurance.
So you don't cook much or well, and you don't have the time or space to grow your own fruits and vegetables. You can still save money on food. Here are three quick and easy suggestions:
Eat smart when eating out. Of course, the unhealthiest food is often the cheapest. So if you're both healthy and price-conscious, skip the soup and salad — they're not only expensive for what you get, they're not nearly as good for you as you think.
Buy smart when eating in. If you don't like to cook, at least make meals with healthy ingredients that are easy to handle. Here are 11 ideas, from beans to brown rice to frozen whole turkey.
Don't be bored/scared of cooking. You can save big and still eat well. If you can read, you can cook.
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Kanye West made headlines a few years ago, not for releasing a new album, but also for selling his own clothing line that featured a $120 white T-shirt. Guess what? He sold a lot of them. The fact is that we've all overpaid for clothes because we liked the label. So there's a good starting point for saving on clothes: Don't buy brands, unless you're absolutely certain you're getting the quality you're paying for. For more, check out: "10 Tips for Saving on Clothes."
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7. Private school
Of all the items on this list, none is harder for scoring a deal than private schools for your K-12 kids. First, you need to find one close to home. Then you need to figure out the best way to compare prices and services. Finally, you want to pursue financial aid. Here are three good places to start:
The National Association of Independent Schools. It represents 1,700 institutions nationwide — including religious and boarding schools — and it has a Parents' Guide with tips for everything from visiting the school to landing financial aid.
PrivateSchools.com. This website is about financial aid, plus details on scholarships, loans and vouchers. It also has a search function for nearly 30,000 schools.
Time magazine and The Week. In 2007, Time published a controversial story about a study that disputed whether private schools are really any better than pubic schools. In 2013, The Week did the same. Read them before you decide to spend thousands a year in tuition for something you can get free.
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While experts offer all kinds of conflicting college advice, they seem to agree on one thing: Spending more than you can afford to attend a big-name school isn't smart. Like buying clothes, you need to look beyond the pricey labels. Start by checking out the U.S. Department of Education's College Affordability and Transparency Center and the College Scorecard, tools introduced by President Barack Obama in 2015.
You can easily spend $100 on a pair of name-brand leggings to wear at the gym. And it's possible that the hype is correct — they make your butt look cute. But you could instead buy a very similar pair of leggings at Ross Dress for Less, Kohl's or other discount clothing stores for a fraction of the price. (I just got a very nice pair for ten bucks at the discount Grocery Outlet in my neighborhood.) And, really, at the end of the day, it's the workout that will make your butt look cute. You won't need a pair of overpriced pants to do that.
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10. Insurance and warranties
We've all heard the expression "Better safe than sorry." But you can spend a lot of money insuring yourself against any possibility, and insurers prey on fear. But many things that can go wrong can be fixed for less than the premiums. For example, cellphone insurance: There are often cheaper alternatives.
The same goes for extended warranties. Consumer Reports has always been skeptical of them, pointing out that your credit card may already provide an extended warranty.
This item has the potential to rack up big savings with just a few minutes of your time. But too many of us sign up for a few credit cards and never look back, paying high interest on a balance or a large annual fee. Or we cut them up because we think those pieces of plastic got us mired in debt.
But credit cards, wisely used, can help you claw your way out of debt. Reward points are like free money, and balance transfer offers can reduce your interest rate to zero for many months. The problem is finding the right card. A good place to start comparing rates and benefits is the Credit Card section of our Solutions Center.
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