Meg Ryan says she's in no rush to get married to John Mellencamp

Meg Ryan is loving being engaged.

For InStyle's 25th anniversary September issue, the 57-year-old actress reflects on her life since her first time covering the magazine back in 1997. In those 22 years, Ryan has raised two children, 15-year-old Daisy and 27-year-old Jack Quaid, gone through a public divorce with Jack's dad, Dennis Quad, and just last year, she got engaged to musician John Mellencamp. After all the ups and downs, Ryan is pretty content at this stage in her life, with her focus remaining on her family, work and happiness.

"I’m focused on producing. I’m also teeing myself up to direct, and I’m working on a fun e-commerce project with some of my friends. But most of all, what I’m ambitious for in the 12 hours a day that I’m awake is my kids' happiness. I just am," she tells the magazine. " I’m either figuring out how to provide for them, figuring out how to say it right, figuring out all those mom things. I want them to be happy."

As for when she plans on tying the knot with Mellencamp, Ryan notes, "And today I’m happy too. Yes, I’m going to get married at some point. But for now this engagement thing is a state of grace."

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HOLLYWOOD, CA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala And 30th Anniversary Screening Of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal arrive at the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala And 30th Anniversary Screening Of 'When Harry Met Sally' - Arrivals at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Joe Scarnici/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - APRIL 11: Rob Reiner, Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala And 30th Anniversary Screening Of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - APRIL 11: Rob Reiner, Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala And 30th Anniversary Screening Of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CALIFORNIA - APRIL 11: Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal attend the 2019 TCM Classic Film Festival Opening Night Gala and 30th Anniversary Screening of 'When Harry Met Sally' at TCL Chinese Theatre on April 11, 2019 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Rachel Luna/WireImage)
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Ryan also shares with the magazine what she learned from her divorce from Quaid in 2001. By the time she was featured on her second InStyle cover in 2003, the Sleepless in Seattle star says that "all of my expectations about everything had been blown up," a fact she considers to be "a good thing."

"People think they should be this by the time they’re 20 and this by the time they’re 30 and accomplished by the time they’re 40," she notes. "I was in my early 40s at the time of the cover shoot. And I said in the interview that I thought assignment of age was arbitrary. I stand by that -- especially now when it’s all about pivoting, recreating, and having multiple careers."

Her third cover came in 2008, and, with it, still questions about if she was lovable.

"I said I had an inability to accept myself as lovable. That was harsh. I think it stemmed from starting over after my marriage ended. Divorce is hard," she recalls. "I wasn’t easy on myself around then. I retreated. But that tough time was necessary. I became a better person after all of that. And I grew up a lot."

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NEW YORK, NY - NOVEMBER 12: Meg Ryan attends the Friar's Club Honors Billy Crystal with their Entertainment Icon Award at The Ziegfeld Ballroom on November 12, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Manny Carabel/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - NOVEMBER 12: Actress Meg Ryan attends the Friar's Club Entertainment Icon Award at The Ziegfeld Ballroom on November 12, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Jim Spellman/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - OCTOBER 31: Meg Ryan seen out for Halloween on October 31, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - OCTOBER 31: Meg Ryan is seen on October 29, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Team GT/GC Images)
LOCARNO, SWITZERLAND - AUGUST 04: Actress, Meg Ryan attends a conversation with the public during the 71st Locarno Film Festival on August 4, 2018 in Locarno, Switzerland. (Photo by Pier Marco Tacca/Getty Images)
LOCARNO, SWITZERLAND - AUGUST 03: Meg Ryan receives Leopard Club Award during the 71st Locarno Film Festival on August 3, 2018 in Locarno, Switzerland. (Photo by Pier Marco Tacca/Getty Images)
LOCARNO, SWITZERLAND - AUGUST 03: Meg Ryan attends the Leopard Club Award during the 71st Locarno Film Festival on August 3, 2018 in Locarno, Switzerland. (Photo by Pier Marco Tacca/Getty Images)
CULVER CITY, CA - JUNE 09: Meg Ryan (L) and Gwyneth Paltrow attend the In goop Health Summit at 3Labs on June 9, 2018 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Neilson Barnard/Getty Images for goop)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 30: Meg Ryan is seen in Tribeca on May 30, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Gotham/GC Images)
BENTONVILLE, AR - MAY 05: Meg Ryan attends the 4th Annual Bentonville Film Festival Awards on May 5, 2018 in Bentonville, Arkansas. (Photo by Phillip Faraone/Getty Images for Bentonville Film Festival)
BENTONVILLE, AR - MAY 05: Meg Ryan speaks onstage during the 'Geena & Freinds' panel at the 4th Annual Bentonville Film Festival - Day 5 on May 5, 2018 in Bentonville, Arkansas. (Photo by Phillip Faraone/Getty Images for Bentonville Film Festival)
BENTONVILLE, AR - MAY 04: (L-R) Busy Philipps, Meg Ryan, Wendy Guerrero, and Geena Davis attend the 4th Annual Bentonville Film Festival - Day 4 on May 4, 2018 in Bentonville, Arkansas. (Photo by Phillip Faraone/Getty Images for Bentonville Film Festival)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 10: Meg Ryan seen out and about in Manhattan on April 10, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
THE GRAND MASONIC LODGE, NEW YORK, UNITED STATES - 2018/02/10: Meg Ryan attends Christian Siriano 10 years anniversary Autumn/Winter 2018 runway show at The Grand Masonic Lodge. (Photo by Lev Radin/Pacific Press/LightRocket via Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 10: (L-R) Laverne Cox, Whoopi Goldberg, Meg Ryan, Molly Shannon, Cardi B, and Brad Walsh attend the Christian Siriano fashion show during New York Fashion Week at the Grand Lodge on February 10, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Desiree Navarro/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 10: Actress Meg Ryan attends the Christian Siriano fashion show during New York Fashion Week at the Grand Lodge on February 10, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Desiree Navarro/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 01: Meg Ryan is seen in Soho on February 1, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Raymond Hall/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - DECEMBER 25: John Mellencamp, Meg Ryan and Jack Quaid attend the New York Knicks Vs Philadelphia 76ers game at Madison Square Garden on December 25, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - JUNE 08: Actress Meg Ryan attends the AFI Life Achievement Award gala at Dolby Theatre on June 8, 2017 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
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Ryan previously opened up about her engagement to 67-year-old Mellencamp in a February interview with The New York Times Magazine

"What’s great about now is that John and I are so free to have fun," Ryan said. "Maybe that freedom is about being a million years old. But I sometimes think relationships are for aliens. Who does it? Who can do it? I don’t know how any of us ever do."

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