Michelle Obama discusses Malia and Sasha's 'different' personalities

Different daughters! Michelle Obama opened up about Malia and Sasha‘s unique personality traits during an interview with Duchess Meghan for the upcoming issue ofBritish Vogue.

“Malia and Sasha couldn’t be more different,” the former first lady, 55, admitted to the royal, 37. “One speaks freely and often, one opens up on her own terms. One shares her innermost feelings, the other is content to let you figure it out. Neither approach is better or worse, because they’ve both grown into smart, compassionate and independent young women, fully capable of paving their own paths.”

While her daughters are independent now, the Becoming author admitted that she has had to learn how to “let go” over the years. “Try as we [moms] might, there’s only so much we can control,” the Chicago native said. “And, boy, have I tried – especially at first. As mothers, we just don’t want anything or anyone to hurt our babies. But life has other plans. Bruised knees, bumpy roads and broken hearts are part of the deal. What’s both humbled and heartened me is seeing the resiliency of my daughters.”

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ATLANTA, GEORGIA - MAY 11: Former First Lady Michelle Obama attends 'Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama' at State Farm Arena on May 11, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images)
ATLANTA, GEORGIA - MAY 11: Former First Lady Michelle Obama attends 'Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama' at State Farm Arena on May 11, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images)
Former US First Lady Michelle Obama talks about her autobiography 'Becoming' as she sits on stage at the Ziggo Dome in Amsterdam on April 17, 2019. (Photo by Remko de Waal / ANP / AFP) / Netherlands OUT (Photo credit should read REMKO DE WAAL/AFP/Getty Images)
ATLANTA, GEORGIA - MAY 11: Former First Lady Michelle Obama attends 'Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama' at State Farm Arena on May 11, 2019 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images)
Former US First Lady Michelle Obama during a book tour for her memoir, Becoming, at the London O2 Arena. (Photo by Kirsty O'Connor/PA Images via Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - APRIL 14: Michelle Obama on stage as part of her "Becoming: An Intimate Conversation With Michelle Obama" tour at The O2 Arena on April 14, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Mike Marsland/WireImage)
Former US first lady Michelle Obama gestures on stage of the Royal Arena in Copenhagen on April 9, 2019 during a tour to promote her memoir 'Becoming'. (Photo by Martin Sylvest / Ritzau Scanpix / AFP) / Denmark OUT (Photo credit should read MARTIN SYLVEST/AFP/Getty Images)
Former US first lady Michelle Obama gestures on stage of the Royal Arena in Copenhagen on April 9, 2019 during a tour to promote her memoir 'Becoming'. (Photo by Martin Sylvest / Ritzau Scanpix / AFP) / Denmark OUT (Photo credit should read MARTIN SYLVEST/AFP/Getty Images)
Former US first lady Michelle Obama speaks on stage of the Royal Arena in Copenhagen on April 9, 2019 during a tour to promote her memoir 'Becoming'. (Photo by Martin Sylvest / Ritzau Scanpix / AFP) / Denmark OUT (Photo credit should read MARTIN SYLVEST/AFP/Getty Images)
TACOMA, WASHINGTON - MARCH 24: Michelle Obama (L) speaks with Jimmy Kimmel live onstage about her book 'Becoming' at the Tacoma Dome on March 24, 2019 in Tacoma, Washington. (Photo by Jim Bennett/Getty Images)
TACOMA, WASHINGTON - MARCH 24: Michelle Obama speaks live onstage with Jimmy Kimmel (not shown) about her book 'Becoming' at the Tacoma Dome on March 24, 2019 in Tacoma, Washington. (Photo by Jim Bennett/Getty Images)
TACOMA, WASHINGTON - MARCH 24: Michelle Obama speaks live onstage with Jimmy Kimmel (not shown) about her book 'Becoming' at the Tacoma Dome on March 24, 2019 in Tacoma, Washington. (Photo by Jim Bennett/Getty Images)
TACOMA, WASHINGTON - MARCH 24: Michelle Obama (L) greets members of a local book group to discuss her book 'Becoming' at the Tacoma Public Library main branch on March 24, 2019 in Tacoma, Washington. (Photo by Jim Bennett/Getty Images)
TACOMA, WASHINGTON - MARCH 24: Michelle Obama (C) speaks with Lestraundra Alfred (R) and other members of a local book group about her book 'Becoming' at the Tacoma Public Library main branch on March 24, 2019 in Tacoma, Washington. (Photo by Jim Bennett/Getty Images)
AUSTIN, TEXAS - FEBRUARY 28: Former First Lady Michelle Obama attends 'Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama' at the Frank Erwin Center on February 28, 2019 in Austin, Texas. (Photo by Rick Kern/WireImage)
AUSTIN, TEXAS - FEBRUARY 28: Former First Lady Michelle Obama attends 'Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama' at the Frank Erwin Center on February 28, 2019 in Austin, Texas. (Photo by Rick Kern/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - DECEMBER 19: Former first lady Michelle Obama discusses her book 'Becoming' at Barclays Center on December 19, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - DECEMBER 19: Former first lady Michelle Obama (L) discusses her book 'Becoming' with Sarah Jessica Parker at Barclays Center on December 19, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - DECEMBER 19: Former first lady Michelle Obama discusses her book 'Becoming' at Barclays Center on December 19, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 14: Former First Lady Michelle Obama speaks during her 'Becoming' book tour stop at the SAP Center in San Jose, Calif., on Friday, Dec. 14, 2018. Obama's memoir was released on November 13th. (Anda Chu/Digital First Media/The Mercury News via Getty Images)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 14: Former First Lady Michelle Obama, left, speaks with moderator Michelle Norris during her 'Becoming' book tour stop at the SAP Center in San Jose, Calif., on Friday, Dec. 14, 2018. Obama's memoir was released on November 13th. (Anda Chu/Digital First Media/The Mercury News via Getty Images)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 14: Former First Lady Michelle Obama, left, waves to the crowd as moderator Michelle Norris looks on during her 'Becoming' book tour stop at the SAP Center in San Jose, Calif., on Friday, Dec. 14, 2018. Obama's memoir was released on November 13th. (Anda Chu/Digital First Media/The Mercury News via Getty Images)
Michelle Obama acknowledges the crowd at the Royal Festival Hall in London during her visit to the UK to publicise her memoir Becoming, which tells of her personal journey to becoming First Lady and her time in the White House. (Photo by Yui Mok/PA Images via Getty Images)
DENVER, CO - DECEMBER 13: Former First Lady of the United States, Michelle Obama, left, and actress Reese Witherspoon have a laugh together on stage during Becoming: An Intimate Conversation at the Pepsi Center December 13, 2018. (Photo by Andy Cross/The Denver Post via Getty Images)
Michelle Obama (left) in conversation with writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie at the Royal Festival Hall in London during her visit to the UK to publicise her memoir Becoming, which tells of her personal journey to becoming First Lady and her time in the White House. (Photo by Yui Mok/PA Images via Getty Images)
Former US first lady Michelle Obama greets well-wishers after speaking to an audience during a visit to Elizabeth Garrett Anderson School in London on December 3, 2018, to discuss education issues during her tour to promote her memoir, 'Becoming'. - Former US first lady Michelle Obama's book, 'Becoming,' sold more than two million copies in North America in its first 15 days. She said Sunday she was canceling book tour visits to Paris and Berlin to attend the funeral of former president George H.W. Bush, who died Friday aged 94. (Photo by Ben STANSALL / AFP) (Photo credit should read BEN STANSALL/AFP/Getty Images)
Former US first lady Michelle Obama (L) share's a stage with executive headteacher Jo Dibb (not pictured) and Nusrath Hassan (R) a girls' education activist and public speaker during a visit to Elizabeth Garrett Anderson School in London on December 3, 2018, to discuss education issues during her tour to promote her memoir, 'Becoming'. - Former US first lady Michelle Obama's book, 'Becoming,' sold more than two million copies in North America in its first 15 days. She said Sunday she was canceling book tour visits to Paris and Berlin to attend the funeral of former president George H.W. Bush, who died Friday aged 94. (Photo by Ben STANSALL / AFP) (Photo credit should read BEN STANSALL/AFP/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - DECEMBER 01: Former first lady Michelle Obama and Executive Director for the 'Let's Move!' campaign Sam Kass visit The Lower Eastside Girls Club to meet and greet the members and discuss her new book 'Becoming' on December 01, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Roy Rochlin/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NEW YORK - DECEMBER 01: Former first lady Michelle Obama visits The Lower Eastside Girls Club to meet and greet the members and discuss her new book 'Becoming' on December 01, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Roy Rochlin/Getty Images)
BOSTON, MA - NOVEMBER 24: Former First Lady Michelle Obama and moderator Michelle Norris address the crowd at the TD Garden before conversing about Obama's new book, Becoming on November 24, 2018.
BOSTON, MA - NOVEMBER 24: Former First Lady Michelle Obama and moderator Michelle Norris address the crowd at the TD Garden before conversing about Obama's new book, Becoming on November 24, 2018.
BOSTON, MA - NOVEMBER 24: Michelle Obama discusses her new book 'Becoming' with Michelle Norris in front of a sold out audience of more than 20,000 people at TD Garden on November 24, 2018 in Boston, Massachusetts. (Photo by Paul Marotta/Getty Images)
INGLEWOOD, CA - NOVEMBER 15: Former First Lady and author Michelle Obama appears onstage at Becoming: An Intimate Conversation with Michelle Obama at the Forum on November 15, 2018 in Inglewood, California. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 14: Former First Lady Michelle Obama speaks during her "Becoming" book tour stop at the SAP Center in San Jose, Calif., on Friday, Dec. 14, 2018. Obama's memoir was released on November 13th. (Anda Chu/Digital First Media/The Mercury News via Getty Images)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 14: Former First Lady Michelle Obama speaks during her "Becoming" book tour stop at the SAP Center in San Jose, Calif., on Friday, Dec. 14, 2018. Obama's memoir was released on November 13th. (Anda Chu/Digital First Media/The Mercury News via Getty Images)
Former US First Lady Michelle Obama talks about her autobiography 'Becoming' as she sits on stage at the Ziggo Dome in Amsterdam on April 17, 2019. (Photo by Remko de Waal / ANP / AFP) / Netherlands OUT (Photo credit should read REMKO DE WAAL/AFP/Getty Images)
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Obama added, “Motherhood has taught me that, most of the time, my job is to give them the space to explore and develop into the people they want to be. Not who I want them to be or who I wish I was at that age, but who they are, deep inside. Motherhood has also taught me that my job is not to bulldoze a path for them in an effort to eliminate all possible adversity. But instead, I need to be a safe and consistent place for them to land when they inevitably fail; and to show them, again and again, how to get up on their own.”

She and her husband, former president Barack Obama, welcomed Malia and Sasha in 1998 and 2001, respectively. Had they been born boys, the Harvard Law School graduate told Meghan that she would have raised them “exactly the same.”

“When I was still in elementary school, my dad bought my brother a pair of boxing gloves, but when he came home from the store, he was carrying not one, but two pairs of gloves,” Michelle explained. “He wasn’t going to teach his son to punch without making sure his daughter could throw a left hook, too. Now, I was a little younger and a little smaller than my brother, but I kept up with him. I could dodge a jab just like he could, and I could hit just as hard as him, too. My father saw that. I think he wanted to make sure that my brother saw that as well.”

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LONDON, ENGLAND - JULY 14: Meghan, Duchess of Sussex attends "The Lion King" European Premiere at Leicester Square on July 14, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Samir Hussein/WireImage)
LONDON, ENGLAND - JULY 14: Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, bag detail, attends "The Lion King" European Premiere at Leicester Square on July 14, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Samir Hussein/WireImage)
LONDON, ENGLAND - JULY 14: Meghan, Duchess of Sussex attends "The Lion King" European Premiere at Leicester Square on July 14, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Samir Hussein/WireImage)
LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - JULY 14: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Meghan, Duchess of Sussex (handbag detail) attends "The Lion King" European Premiere at Leicester Square on July 14, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - MARCH 19: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Meghan, Duchess of Sussex visits New Zealand House to sign a book of condolence on behalf of The Royal Family following the recent terror attack which saw at least 50 people killed at a Mosque in Christchurch on March 19, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - MARCH 19: Meghan, Duchess of Sussex departs New Zealand House after signing the book of condolence following the recent terror attack which saw at least 50 people killed at a Mosque in Christchurch on March 19, 2019 in London, England. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
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