Jennifer Garner reflects on raising kids with Ben Affleck in the public eye

A new kind of normal. When Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleckstarted a family, they had to adapt to life with little privacy.

The Peppermint actress, 46, reflected on raising three children with ex-husband Affleck, also 46, in the public eye in a piece for WSJ Magazine’s March Women’s Style Issue.

“How do you adapt to your career? That’s a big question. Being someone who is well known requires an enormous adaption. Who am I now? How do I go through the world? Then there’s having children and, in my case, a career that’s a very selfish one,” Garner, who shares Violet, 13, Seraphina, 10, and Samuel, 6, with the Justice League actor, wrote. “The combination of those things is the largest adaption of all. When I had kids, I started considering how jobs worked for my family. How much am I going to ask of my partner and kids? What’s worth it and what isn’t?”

The 13 Going on 30 star and the Gone Girl actor learned to shield their children from the spotlight to the best of their abilities. “Something Ben and I used to say to each other all the time is, ‘We have to adapt.’ We were surrounded by paparazzi,” Garner explained. “There were so many things you wouldn’t expect. We’d be left alone at Disneyland and then we would be at a park in Santa Monica. But if you love something, you’ll do whatever you need to do.”

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Argo director Ben Affleck kisses his wife actress Jennifer Garner after winning the Oscar for Best Movie at the 85th Annual Academy Awards on February 24, 2013 in Hollywood, California. AFP PHOTO/Robyn BECK (Photo credit should read ROBYN BECK/AFP/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 10: Actors Jennifer Garner (L) and Ben Affleck attend the John Varvatos 10th Annual Stuart House Benefit presented by Chrysler, Kids Tent by Hasbro Studios, at John Varvatos Los Angeles on March 10, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Donato Sardella/Getty Images for John Varvatos)
LONDON, ENGLAND - FEBRUARY 09: Ben Affleck (L) and Jennifer Garner attend the Charles Finch and Chanel Pre-BAFTA cocktail party and dinner at Annabel's on February 9, 2013 in London, England. (Photo by Dave M. Benett/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 27: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner attend the 19th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 27, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/WireImage) 23116_016_1209.jpg
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 08: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on November 08, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 04: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 04, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - SEPTEMBER 30: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on September 30, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JUNE 02: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on June 02, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Stav/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 27: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on February 27, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 03: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on February 03, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 27: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on January 27, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - APRIL 30: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on April 30, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - APRIL 16: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on April 16, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 13: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on November 13, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 06: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on March 06, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Stone-e/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 05: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on October 05, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 03: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on October 03, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - MARCH 02: Actor/director Ben Affleck (L) and wife actress Jennifer Garner attend the 2014 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Graydon Carter on March 2, 2014 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 18: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen holding hands on February 18, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 06: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen with their daughter, Seraphina Affleck on February 06, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 18: Actors Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck attend the 20th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 18, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Christopher Polk/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 29, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - November 07: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 07, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JULY 16: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on July 16, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE -- 'Ben Affleck' Episode 1641 -- Pictured: (l-r) Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck during the monologue on May 18, 2013 -- (Photo by: Dana Edelson/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 30: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 30, 2012 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - OCTOBER 05: Actors Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner attend Variety's 4th Annual Power of Women Event Presented by Lifetime at the Beverly Wilshire Four Seasons Hotel on October 5, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/WireImage)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - OCTOBER 04: Actors Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner arrive at the premiere of Warner Bros. Pictures' 'Argo' at AMPAS Samuel Goldwyn Theater on October 4, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 07: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck attends 'Argo' Post Premiere Party - 2012 Toronto International Film Festival on September 7, 2012 in Toronto, Canada. (Photo by Sonia Recchia/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 04: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 04, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JUNE 02: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on June 02, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Stav/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JUNE 02: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on June 02, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 28: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 28, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 19: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on November 19, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 13: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on November 13, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 04: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 04, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG004/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
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Garner and Affleck announced their separation in June 2015 and finalized their divorce in October 2018. The Argo director briefly dated Playboy model Shauna Sexton in the summer of 2018, while Garner has since moved on with businessman John Miller.

Us Weekly broke the news in October that the Camping actress had been seeing the Cali Group CEO for several months. “They are more in love than ever,” a source exclusively told Us in January, noting that Garner “admires John because he is just normal.”

Added the insider: “No one would be surprised if they got engaged by summer. John has discussed marrying Jen.”

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