Jon Gosselin recalls ‘volatile’ visit with his eight kids

Daddy dearest. Jon Gosselin is beginning to make strides with some of his children — but it hasn’t always been so easy.

The Jon & Kate Plus 8 alum, 41, attended WE tv’s Real Love panel in L.A. on Tuesday, December 11, where he spoke exclusively with Us Weekly about his struggle navigating fatherhood amid a tumultuous relationship with his ex-wife, Kate Gosselin.

Jon admitted that it’s been about a year since he saw all eight of his children together and told Us their last meeting was “not good,” adding, “It was just volatile and a lot going on. It was just not a good time. Like, forced custody and all that kind of stuff.”

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Had a good weekend visit with Collin at home!
This was yesterday! Feels like school never ended...and they’re already back! #SeniorYear 😳😳 #EighthGrade #ProudMom ❤️
My adult😳 daughters: @mady.gosselin and @cara.gosselin (FYI: these are their ONLY official IG accounts) #SoProud What a fun memory filled day we had together today!!😘😘
My beautiful 'little girls' .... they keep reminding me how many days until they turn 14. Today it was '12 days til we turn 14, Mom.' HOW'S THAT EVEN POSSIBLE?! I told Leah that she's too small to turn 14. She said 'Yeah, true. Are you sure I'm not turning 11 or 12?' 😂😂I'm positive. I gave birth to you. They'll always be my babies....I love them so very much! ♥️♥️♥️
fall family pictures🍂🎃 #tradition #7/8reunion🧡
Glad I could celebrate my son Collin’s 14th birthday with him and his sister!
Bday dinner with Hannah. Happy Birthday!!!
Happy 14th Birthday to Hannah, Leah, Alexis, Joel, Aaden and Collin!!! I can’t believe it’s been this long!!! Whew that when fast!!! Daddy loves you all very much!!!
Happy Birthday Hannah!!! 14 already. Bday breakfast with my daughter before the bus stop!!!
Happy 17th Birthday Mady and Cara!!! Love you, Dad
Happy New Year!!! 2017!!! Let's do this!!!!
Found this old pic from Hawaii, 2008!!! Kids were 4!
Happy 16th Bday to Mady and Cara!!! ❤️❤️👭🎂🎂October 8, 2000 seems forever ago.
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CELEBRITY WIFE SWAP - 'Kate Gosselin / Kendra Wilkinson' - Season Two of 'Celebrity Wife Swap' kicks off with reality television mom Kate Gosselin ('Kate Plus 8') and former Playboy Magazine cover girl Kendra Wilkinson (ABC's 'Splash'), TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 26 (8:00-9:00 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. (Photo by Donna Svennevik/ABC via Getty Images) KATE GOSSELIN, JOEL KEVIN GOSSELIN, COLLIN THOMAS GOSSELIN, MADELYN 'MADY' KATE GOSSELIN, AADEN JONATHAN GOSSELIN, CARA NICOLE GOSSELIN, LEAH HOPE GOSSELIN, ALEXIS FAITH GOSSELIN, HANNAH JOY GOSSELIN
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CELEBRITY WIFE SWAP - 'Kate Gosselin / Kendra Wilkinson' - Season Two of 'Celebrity Wife Swap' kicks off with reality television mom Kate Gosselin ('Kate Plus 8') and former Playboy Magazine cover girl Kendra Wilkinson (ABC's 'Splash'), TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 26 (8:00-9:00 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. (Photo by Donna Svennevik/ABC via Getty Images) JOEL KEVIN GOSSELIN, COLLIN THOMAS GOSSELIN, AADEN JONATHAN GOSSELIN, LEAH HOPE GOSSELIN, ALEXIS FAITH GOSSELIN, HANNAH JOY GOSSELIN
CELEBRITY WIFE SWAP - 'Kate Gosselin / Kendra Wilkinson' - Season Two of 'Celebrity Wife Swap' kicks off with reality television mom Kate Gosselin ('Kate Plus 8') and former Playboy Magazine cover girl Kendra Wilkinson (ABC's 'Splash'), TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 26 (8:00-9:00 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. (Photo by Donna Svennevik/ABC via Getty Images) KATE GOSSELIN, GOSSELIN CHILDREN
CELEBRITY WIFE SWAP - 'Kate Gosselin / Kendra Wilkinson' - Season Two of 'Celebrity Wife Swap' kicks off with reality television mom Kate Gosselin ('Kate Plus 8') and former Playboy Magazine cover girl Kendra Wilkinson (ABC's 'Splash'), TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 26 (8:00-9:00 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. (Photo by Donna Svennevik/ABC via Getty Images) JOEL KEVIN GOSSELIN, COLLIN THOMAS GOSSELIN, AADEN JONATHAN GOSSELIN, LEAH HOPE GOSSELIN, HANNAH JOY GOSSELIN, ALEXIS FAITH GOSSELIN
TODAY -- Pictured: (l-r) Kate Gosselin and John Gosselin talk about their twin daughters and sextuplets on NBC News' 'Today' on October 2, 2007 -- Photo by: Heidi Gutman/NBC NewsWire
NEW YORK - APRIL 23: From 'Jon + Kate Plus 8' Kate Gosselin (L) and her children with President and CEO of TLC Angela Shapiro (R) speaking at the Discovery Upfront event at Jazz at Lincoln Center on April 23, 2008 in New York City. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images for Discovery)
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He and the Kate Plus 8 star, 43, were married for a decade before splitting in 2009. Originally they were awarded shared physical custody of their children, with Kate granted full legal custody of their now 14-year-old sextuplets Collin, Hannah, Leah, Alexis, Joel and Aaden and now 18-year-old twins Cara and Mady. But things changed this year when Hannah began living with her dad in February and Jon was awarded sole custody of Collin on December 4. “She wanted her brother to come home,” he said of Hannah’s relationship with Collin, who has been in a residential program for kids with behavioral problems and is due to leave soon.

Despite the time that has passed, the separation within the family has been tough on the kids — and Jon admitted that some of them continue to keep their distance from him. “[Leah, Alexis, Joel and Aaden] aren’t talking to me, but they’re talking to Hannah. I don’t get involved now with what the kids … it’s what the kids want to do. If they don’t want to talk to me, that’s fine, as long as they keep up with their sibling connections,” he said at the event, held at the Paley Media Center. “Eventually, if they come around and they want to talk to me, that’s cool.”

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ATLANTIC CITY, NJ - MAY 30: DJ Jon Gosselin performs at The Pool After Dark at Harrah's Resort on Saturday May 30, 2015 in Atlantic City, New Jersey. (Photo by Tom Briglia/FilmMagic)
ATLANTIC CITY, NJ - MAY 30: DJ Jon Gosselin along with DJ Noah perform at The Pool After Dark at Harrah's Resort on Saturday May 30, 2015 in Atlantic City, New Jersey. (Photo by Tom Briglia/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 31: Jon Gosselin attends Talent Resources Sports presents Maxim 'Big Game Weekend' sponsored by AQUAhydrate, Heavenly Resorts, Wonderful Pistachios, Patron Tequila, Touch by Alyssa Milano and Philippe Chow at ESPACE on January 31, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by Anna Webber/Getty Images for Maxim)
ATLANTIC CITY, NJ - MAY 30: DJ Jon Gosselin along with DJ Noah perform at The Pool After Dark at Harrah's Resort on Saturday May 30, 2015 in Atlantic City, New Jersey. (Photo by Tom Briglia/FilmMagic)
TEANECK, NJ - JUNE 27: Jon Gosselin attends a press conference on Tax Deductible Marriage Counseling at Bergen Marriage Counseling & Psychotherapy on June 27, 2012 in Teaneck, New Jersey. (Photo by Dave Kotinsky/Getty Images)
TEANECK, NJ - JUNE 27: Jon Gosselin attends a press conference on Tax Deductible Marriage Counseling at Bergen Marriage Counseling & Psychotherapy on June 27, 2012 in Teaneck, New Jersey. (Photo by Dave Kotinsky/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Television personality Jon Gosselin attends Toasting the 2012 NFL Draft Class kick-off at the Bounce Sporting Club on April 24, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Bobby Bank/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Television personality Jon Gosselin attends Toasting the 2012 NFL Draft Class kick-off at the Bounce Sporting Club on April 24, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Bobby Bank/WireImage)
PHILADELPHIA, PA - APRIL 04: Jon Gosselin attends the Launch Party for Virgin America's First Flight from Los Angeles to Philadelphia at the Hotel Palomar on April 4, 2012 in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. (Photo by Michael Buckner/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 29: Jon Gosselin attends the 2nd annual 'Night of a Billion Reality Stars' bash at SupperClub Los Angeles on March 29, 2012 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JUNE 16: Jon Gosselin arrives at THQ's E3 'Take No Prisoners' event at The Standard Hotel Downtown on June 16, 2010 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Angela Weiss/Getty Images)
PARK CITY, UT - JANUARY 22: Jon Gosselin attends The Sky Suite at Sky Lodge on January 22, 2010 in Park City, Utah. (Photo by Jerritt Clark/WireImage)
NEW YORK - NOVEMBER 09: Television personality Jon Gosselin tapes 'The Insider' in Father Duffy Square on November 09, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Ray Tamarra/Getty Images)
NEW YORK - NOVEMBER 01: Television personality Jon Gosselin meets with Rabbi Shmuley Boteach at the West Side Jewish Center on November 01, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Ray Tamarra/Getty Images)
NORRISTOWN, PA. - OCTOBER 26: Television reality star Jon Gosselin (C) speaks with the media as he leaves Montgomery County Courthouse after a hearing regarding his divorce from wife Kate Gosselin, October 26, 2009 in Norristown, Pennsylvania. Kate did not attend the hearing. (Photo by William Thomas Cain/Getty Images)
NORRISTOWN, PA. - OCTOBER 26: Television reality star Jon Gosselin speaks with the media as he leaves Montgomery County Courthouse after a hearing regarding his divorce from wife Kate Gosselin, October 26, 2009 in Norristown, Pennsylvania. Kate did not attend the hearing. (Photo by William Thomas Cain/Getty Images)
NEW YORK - OCTOBER 08: Television personality Jon Gosselin leaves his Manhattan apartment to pick up his daughters on October 08, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Ray Tamarra/Getty Images)
Jon Gosselin arrives at Los Angeles International Airport on October 6, 2009 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Leandro DiCapua/BuzzFoto/FilmMagic)
Jon Gosselin launches his milkshakes at Millions Of Milkshakes on October 3, 2009 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jean Baptiste Lacroix/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 03: TV personality Jon Gosselin launches his milkshake at Millions Of Milkshakes on October 3, 2009 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Angela Weiss/Getty Images)
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Asked if he has a relationship with his twins, who are headed to college, Jon responded, “I don’t know. I hope so. You never know.”

Jon isn’t giving up hope of mending fences and makes it clear that he is just a phone call away when it comes to all of his children. “[In a perfect world] I’d have just like, a normal relationship with my children, meaning, just communication. It wouldn’t have to be all lovey-dovey. Just like, ‘How you guys doing? Where are you going to college?’ Maybe call me for advice. Like, hey, I’m thinking about going to this school, college, whatever. With Madelyn and Cara, because when I think back, like, I was part of their life a little, and then all of a sudden there was nothing, you know what I mean? And just with the other four, just like, ‘Hey, you guys wanna go bowling or something?’ So we can spend time all together,” he tells Us, before adding, “Just to start off small.”

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