Kelly Rowland reveals 'the greatest gift that Destiny’s Child has ever given' her

"Kelly, can you handle this?"

That may as well have been the question that Beyoncé's mother, Tina Knowles, asked Kelly Rowland in the early days of Destiny's Child when she suggested that the singer go for a shorter hairstyle. Rowland recently revealed exclusively to AOL's Gibson Johns that the 'do, which would go on to become her signature look throughout Destiny's Child's heyday, was all Tina's idea.

"Tina was like, ‘Kelly I think you should do a short cut. A short cut would be amazing on you!'" she recalled with a smile. "So, she actually helped us really grow into that and find our look. [Our individuality] was embraced by our stylists. Bey was obsessed with her highlights. I remember, because her mom Tina worked at a salon, and there was this one woman in there with great highlights, so Bey wanted those."

She credits Tina, who owned a salon in their hometown of Houston and created many Destiny's Child's iconic costumes by hand, with helping to craft the group's cohesive look, while also allowing for personal expression and celebrating what they all individually brought to the table.

"Everything kind of fell into place," Rowland recalled of that time. "I feel like Tina really empowered me, and I was so proud to [play around with my look] after that. After that I was like, 'Can I try red hair? Can I try purple hair? Can I try blue hair?' It was just giving me the green light to express myself however I saw fit. It was amazing."

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SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - FEBRUARY 04: Kelly Rowland arrives at Bondi Icebergs on February 04, 2019 in Sydney, Australia. (Photo by Hanna Lassen/WireImage)
WESTWOOD, CA - JANUARY 28: Kelly Rowland arrives for Paramount Pictures' 'What Men Want' Premiere held at Regency Village Theatre on January 28, 2019 in Westwood, California. (Photo by Albert L. Ortega/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA - JANUARY 17: Kelly Rowland attends Rose Inc. x Beautycon POP Intimate Dinner With Rosie Huntington-Whiteley on January 17, 2019 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Presley Ann/Getty Images for Beautycon)
LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA - JANUARY 09: Kelly Rowland and guests attend Kelly Rowland Celebrates the Launch of her Capsule Collection for Fabletics at Casita Hollywood on January 09, 2019 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Randy Shropshire/Getty Images for Fabletics)
THE VOICE -- 'Live Finale Results' Episode 1519B -- Pictured: Kelly Rowland -- (Photo by: Tyler Golden/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 16: Kelly Rowland attends Spotify's 2nd annual Secret Genius Awards at The Theatre at Ace Hotel on November 16, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Phillip Faraone/FilmMagic)
CULVER CITY, CA - NOVEMBER 10: Kelly Rowland attends the 2018 Baby2Baby Gala Presented by Paul Mitchell at 3LABS on November 10, 2018 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
CULVER CITY, CA - NOVEMBER 10: (L-R) Eloise Broady DeJoria, John Paul DeJoria, Julie Bowen, Baby2Baby Co-President Kelly Sawyer Patricof, honoree Amy Adams, Baby2Baby Co-President Norah Weinstein, Kelly Rowland, Leslie Mann, and Jennifer Garner pose at the 2018 Baby2Baby Gala Presented by Paul Mitchell at 3LABS on November 10, 2018 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Stefanie Keenan/Getty Images for Baby2Baby)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 11: Singer Kelly Rowland attends the City Of Hope Gala on October 11, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Paul Archuleta/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 20: Kelly Rowland teams up with T.J.Maxx to host a workshop and announce the launch of The Maxx You Project How To courses - encouraging women to embrace their individuality together at The High Line Hotel on September 20, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Dave Kotinsky/Getty Images for T.J.Maxx)
NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 09: Kelly Rowland attends front row at the Prabal Gurung fashion show during New York Fashion Week at Spring Studios on September 9, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Jared Siskin/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 8: La La Anthony, Kelly Rowland attend the women's final on day 13 of the 2018 tennis US Open on Arthur Ashe stadium at the USTA Billie Jean King National Tennis Center on September 8, 2018 in Flushing Meadows, Queens, New York City. (Photo by Jean Catuffe/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 07: Kelly Rowland attends the 2018 Harper's Bazaar ICONS Party at The Plaza Hotel on September 7, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Taylor Hill/FilmMagic)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - AUGUST 08: Kelly Rowland attends the Premiere Of Focus Features 'BlackkKlansman' at Samuel Goldwyn Theater on August 8, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Earl Gibson III/FilmMagic)
CHICAGO, IL - JULY 25: Kelly Rowland attends �Refinery29�s 29Rooms: Turn it Into Art,� on July 25, 2018 in Chicago, Illinois. (Photo by Daniel Boczarski/Getty Images for Refinery29)
GOLD COAST, AUSTRALIA - JULY 01: Kelly Rowland arrives at the 60th Annual Logie Awards at The Star Gold Coast on July 1, 2018 in Gold Coast, Australia. (Photo by Chris Hyde/Getty Images)
SANTA MONICA, CA - JUNE 25: Kelly Rowland poses in the backstage photo room during the 2018 NBA Awards Show at Barker Hangar on June 25, 2018 in Santa Monica, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
MAY 16, 2018: SYDNEY, NSW - (EUROPE AND AUSTRALASIA OUT) Singer and 'The Voice' coach Kelly Rowland poses during a photo shoot in Sydney, New South Wales. (Photo by Dylan Robinson/Newspix/Getty Images)
SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - MAY 16: Kelly Rowland attends the Nine All Stars Event on May 16, 2018 in Sydney, Australia. (Photo by Don Arnold/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 14: Kelly Rowland is seen in Soho on February 14, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Alo Ceballos/GC Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - NOVEMBER 30: Singer Kelly Rowland attends Billboard Women In Music 2017 at The Ray Dolby Ballroom at Hollywood & Highland Center on November 30, 2017 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 19: Singer/actress Kelly Rowland arrives at the 2017 American Music Awards at Microsoft Theater on November 19, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
CULVER CITY, CA - NOVEMBER 11: Kelly Rowland attends the 2017 Baby2Baby Gala on November 11, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by JB Lacroix/ WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 03: Musician Kelly Rowland attends RIchard Lawson and Tina Knowles' Lawnson's grand opening at WACO Theater Center on November 3, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Brandon Williams/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 23: Kelly Rowland arrive at the 3rd Annual InStyle Awards at The Getty Center on October 23, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Kelly Rowland performs during RNB Fridays Live at nib Stadium on October 14, 2017 in Perth, Australia.
SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - OCTOBER 11: Kelly Rowland poses during the Channel Nine Upfronts 2018 event on October 11, 2017 in Sydney, Australia. (Photo by Don Arnold/WireImage)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - SEPTEMBER 17: Kelly Rowland arrives to VH1's Hip Hop Honors: The 90's Game Changers at Paramount Studios on September 17, 2017 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Gabriel Olsen/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - AUGUST 13: Kelly Rowland attends the 5th annual Beautycon festival at Los Angeles Convention Center on August 13, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 31: Kelly Rowland, Grammy award-winning recording artist and heart health advocate, teams up with Burlington Stores and WomenHeart to educate women about the importance of their heart health, as heart disease is the leading cause of death in women, at Burlington Stores in Union Square on January 31, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Bennett Raglin/Getty Images for Burlington)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 31: (L-R) Young M.A., Pusha T, La La Anthony, and Kelly Rowland attend the Big Sean 'I Decided' Album Listening Event at Garage on January 31, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 01: Kelly Rowland is seen at LAX on February 01, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by starzfly/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 26: Cardi B and Kelly Rowland attend VIP Event Hosted By Migos on January 26, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Shareif Ziyadat/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - JANUARY 25: Kelly Rowland visits 'Extra' at their New York studios at the Hard Rock Cafe in Times Square on January 25, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - JANUARY 23: Kellee Stewert, Meagan Good, Keri Hilson and Kelly Rowland attend the screening and panel for Lifetime's 'Love By The 10th Date' at The London West Hollywood at Beverly Hills on January 23, 2017 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Araya Diaz/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 12: Kelly Rowland attends the premiere of Magnolia Pictures 'I Am Not Your Negro' at LACMA on January 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Tibrina Hobson/Getty Images)
FLORENCE, ITALY - JANUARY 09: Kelly Rowland walks the red carpet of Firenze4ever 14th Edition Party hosted by LuisaViaRoma on January 9, 2017 in Florence, Italy. (Photo by Stefania D'Alessandro/Getty Images for LuisaViaRoma)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - DECEMBER 09: Kelly Rowland attends the 2016 March of Dimes Celebration of Babies at the Beverly Wilshire Four Seasons Hotel on December 9, 2016 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - DECEMBER 09: (L-R) President of the March of Dimes Foundation Stacey D. Stewart, singer Kelly Rowland, honoree Jennifer Hudson and reverend Jesse Jackson attend 2016 March of Dimes Celebration of Babies at the Beverly Wilshire Four Seasons Hotel on December 9, 2016 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Michael Kovac/Getty Images for March of Dimes )
WESTWOOD, CA - DECEMBER 07: Singer Kelly Rowland attends the premiere of Paramount Pictures' 'Office Christmas Party' at Regency Village Theatre on December 7, 2016 in Westwood, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images for Fashion Media)
WESTWOOD, CA - DECEMBER 07: Singer Kelly Rowland arrives at the Los Angeles Premiere of 'Office Christmas Party' at Regency Village Theatre on December 7, 2016 in Westwood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 08: Kelly Rowland attends the GQ Men of the Year party at Chateau Marmont on December 8, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - DECEMBER 01: Singer Kelly Rowland attends 2016 Ebony Power 100 Gala at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on December 1, 2016 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/WireImage)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - NOVEMBER 17: Singer Kelly Rowland arrives at Variety and WWD 2nd Annual StyleMakers Awards at Quixote Studios West Hollywood on November 17, 2016 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 18: Kelly Rowland is seen on November 18, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by wowcelebritytv/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
CULVER CITY, CA - NOVEMBER 12: Singer Kelly Rowland arrives at the 5th Annual Baby2Baby Gala at 3LABS on November 12, 2016 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
CULVER CITY, CA - NOVEMBER 12: Kelly Rowland arrives at the 5th Annual Baby2Baby Gala at 3LABS on November 12, 2016 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - NOVEMBER 7 - (L-R) Kelly Rowland and Hailey Baldwin,and Scott Studenberg attend the 13th Annual CFDA/Vogue Fashion Fund Awards at Spring Studios on November 7, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Rebecca Smeyne/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 24: Kelly Rowland arrives at the 23rd Annual ELLE Women In Hollywood Awards at Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills on October 24, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
LAS VEGAS, NV - NOVEMBER 06: Singer Kelly Rowland arrives at Drai's Beach Club - Nightclub at The Cromwell Las Vegas on November 6, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Gabe Ginsberg/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - OCTOBER 31: Kelly Rowland attends 2016 Costume Couture Party at TAO on October 31, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Shareif Ziyadat/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 14: Kelly Rowland is seen on October 14, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by BG001/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
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15 years after releasing their last album, "Destiny Fulfilled," and 5 years after reuniting during Beyoncé's Super Bowl halftime show performance, Destiny's Child once again came back together this past spring at Coachella. During two consecutive weekends, Rowland, Beyoncé and Michelle Williams took the stage in Indio in front of over 100,000 people and, when AOL asked what Rowland remembers about those shows, she just started to laugh.

"Can I be honest?" she asked. "I don't remember what happened. I'm serious. I was so prepared and so excited and so in the moment, and I couldn't hear anything because my ear monitors were in. But, people loved it and I saw the look on everybody's faces."

There is one moment, however, that Rowland does actually remember that happened at their performance during the second weekend of Coachella, and it hit her with the realization of how special her decades-long journey with Beyoncé and Michelle has been.

"The best part -- I’ll never forget it -- was when we were walking back up to the big stage and, I don’t know how this was, but me and Bey had this choreography moment where we were like right, left, right, wave! [My son] Titan and [her daughter] Blue were at the bottom, and it was the sweetest thing. The only person that was missing was Michelle’s little one. That, to me, is what Destiny’s Child is. It was just so incredible that we were able to grow up together, get married and have kids and have families together. That’s the greatest gift that Destiny’s Child has ever given me."

It's also not lost on Rowland that they were able to come up without the burden of social media. She credits her experiences both in Destiny's Child and as a solo artist with giving her the necessary tools to succeed at this stage in her career and, in partnership with TJ Maxx's Maxx You Project, to share those tools with other women. 

"I didn't grow up with social media, which brings a consistent comparing [of oneself] to others," Rowland explained. "We need to let other women know that it's okay to express yourself and be loud and celebrate their individuality. That's why Maxx You says 'embrace your individuality -- together,' because when you do, you're able to recognize your light while also seeing it in someone else. When you don't quite see your own light, you don't know how to see someone else's."

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INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Jay-Z (L) and Beyonce Knowles perform onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Michelle Williams, Beyonce Knowles and Kelly Rowland of Destiny's Child perform onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Solange Knowles (L) and Beyonce Knowles perform onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles (L) and J Balvin perform onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Beyonce Knowles performs onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
INDIO, CA - APRIL 21: Michelle Williams and Beyonce Knowles of Destiny's Child perform onstage during the 2018 Coachella Valley Music And Arts Festival at the Empire Polo Field on April 21, 2018 in Indio, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Coachella)
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