Why Britney Spears is 'living her best life yet’ with Sam Asghari

Britney Spears would prefer to keep to herself. She’s known for being friendly to fans (though she does like to be asked before being hugged). But behind the scenes, the pop sensation is actually “very sensitive,” Spears confessed to the Associated Press in May. “Sometimes I just want to run away because I’m very shy.” That fear instantly disappears when she steps on stage. “I think it’s an escape because honestly with how shy I really am, I don’t think it’s healthy,” she continued, adding that performing “is a boost to my confidence. It’s like an alter-ego type thing. Something clicks and I go and turn into this different person. I think it’s kind of a gift to be able to do that.”

Off stage, she’s found that same confidence boost in boyfriend of nearly two years Sam Asghari. Since the Grammy winner, 36, and the 24-year-old Iranian model got serious, “he’s become a stabilizing force in Britney’s life, without stifling her or trying to make her into someone she’s not,” says a Spears source. “He accepts her for who she is, which has been a struggle for Britney in the past.”

More importantly, the fitness guru makes the mom of sons Sean Preston, 12, and Jayden James, 11 (with ex Kevin Federline), want to be better. Adds the insider, “Britney’s relationship with Sam has truly given her a purpose and a joy she never had with any other man in her life. She’s living her best life yet.”

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LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Sean Federline, Jayden James Federline, Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Sean Federline, Jayden James Federline, Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
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BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 16: Singer Britney Spears attends Art Hearts Fashion LAFW Fall/Winter 2017 - Day 3 at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on March 16, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 16: Singer Britney Spears attends Art Hearts Fashion LAFW Fall/Winter 2017 - Day 3 at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on March 16, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 16: Singer Britney Spears attends Art Hearts Fashion LAFW Fall/Winter 2017 - Day 3 at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on March 16, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 16: Singer Britney Spears attends Art Hearts Fashion LAFW Fall/Winter 2017 - Day 3 at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on March 16, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/Getty Images)
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Spears and Asghari met by chance in 2016. Filming her sensual “Slumber Party” music video together, “their chemistry was just off the charts,” says the insider. “She was actively flirting with him during the shoot.” And unlike in her last romances — with agent Jason Trawick and law firm associate David Lucado — the connection was an organic one. “Britney didn’t have anyone setting her up,” says the source. “David and Jason weren’t necessarily Britney’s type.” This time, she took matters into her own hands. “She gave Sam her phone number and told him she expected a phone call,” says the source. “Sam called her that night and they talked on the phone for more than two hours.”

Their 12-year age gap has hardly been an issue. “It’s never concerned Britney,” says the source. “Sam makes her feel so young.” His easygoing vibe has given her a sense of comfort she thought she’d never find. “Sam is a great influence on Britney,” says the Spears confidant. “He’s stable and positive. She didn’t think she’d find her soul mate, but Sam is indeed just that.”

Their relationship has proven to be literally her healthiest yet. Thanks to the personal trainer, “she’s in the best physical shape of her life,” says the first source. Spears has had an influence on his health, also. Once overweight, the 6-foot-2 model dropped more than 100 pounds in just six months back in 2013. Today, according to the source, Britney “inspires Sam on a daily basis.” Chalk their happiness up to a quieter lifestyle. “She’s really simplified her life and is glad to be out of the spotlight,” says the source. “She loves being just outside of L.A., where it’s calm and quiet. She’s very happy.”

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PARIS, FRANCE - AUGUST 27: Britney Spears is seen in Paris ahead of her two 'Piece of Me' tour dates on August 27, 2018 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/Getty Images for BCU)
THE TONIGHT SHOW STARRING JIMMY FALLON -- Episode 0903 -- Pictured: (l-r) Jimmy Fallon as Sara, Britney Spears as Abby during 'Ew!' on July 26, 2018 -- (Photo by: Andrew Lipovsky/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
BRIGHTON, ENGLAND - AUGUST 04: Britney Spears performs on stage during the Britney Spears 'Piece Of Me' Summer Tour - Brighton Pride at Preston Park on August 4, 2018 in Brighton, England. (Photo by Dave Hogan/BCU18/Getty Images for BCU)
LONDON, ENGLAND - AUGUST 24: Britney Spears on stage during the 'Piece Of Me' Summer Tour at the O2 Arena on August 24, 2018 in London, England. (Photo by Gareth Cattermole/BCU18/Getty Images for BCU)
NATIONAL HARBOR, MD - JULY 12: Britney Spears performs on stage during her 'Piece of Me' Summer Tour Opener at The Theater at MGM National Harbor on July 12, 2018 in National Harbor, Maryland. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/BCU18/Getty Images for BCU)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - APRIL 12: (EDITORS NOTE: Recrop of image number 945532332) Honoree Britney Spears (L) and Sam Asghari attend the 29th Annual GLAAD Media Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on April 12, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by J. Merritt/Getty Images for GLAAD)
NATIONAL HARBOR, MD - JULY 12: Britney Spears performs on stage during her 'Piece of Me' Summer Tour Opener at The Theater at MGM National Harbor on July 12, 2018 in National Harbor, Maryland. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/BCU18/Getty Images for BCU)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - APRIL 12: Britney Spears attends the 29th Annual GLAAD Media Awards - Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on April 12, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by David Crotty/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - APRIL 12: Honoree Britney Spears accepts the Vanguard Award onstage at the 29th Annual GLAAD Media Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on April 12, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by J. Merritt/Getty Images for GLAAD)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - APRIL 12: Vanguard Award recipient Britney Spears poses backstage at the 29th Annual GLAAD Media Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on April 12, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by J. Merritt/Getty Images for GLAAD)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - FEBRUARY 24: Britney Spears attends the 4th Hollywood Beauty Awards on February 25, 2018 in Hollywood, California.(Photo by JB Lacroix/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 25: Singer Britney Spears attends the 4th Hollywood Beauty Awards at Avalon Hollywood on February 25, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Sean Federline, Jayden James Federline, Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Britney Spears and Sam Asghari attend a basketball game between the Los Angeles Lakers and the Golden State Warriors at Staples Center on November 29, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - NOVEMBER 04: Singer Britney Spears speaks during the grand opening of the Nevada Childhood Cancer Foundation Britney Spears Campus on November 4, 2017 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Gabe Ginsberg/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - NOVEMBER 04: Singer Britney Spears (L) and talent manager Larry Rudolph listen to Clark County Commissioner Steve Sisolak's speech during the grand opening of the Nevada Childhood Cancer Foundation Britney Spears Campus on November 4, 2017 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Gabe Ginsberg/Getty Images)
DISNEY CHANNEL PRESENTS THE 2017 RADIO DISNEY MUSIC AWARDS - Entertainment's brightest young stars turned out for the 2017 Radio Disney Music Awards (RDMA), music's biggest event for families, at Microsoft Theater in Los Angeles on Saturday, April 29. 'Disney Channel Presents the 2017 Radio Disney Music Awards' airs Sunday, April 30 (7:00 p.m. EDT). (Image Group LA/Disney Channel via Getty Images) BRITNEY SPEARS, JAMIE LYNN SPEARS
DISNEY CHANNEL PRESENTS THE 2017 RADIO DISNEY MUSIC AWARDS - Entertainment's brightest young stars turned out for the 2017 Radio Disney Music Awards (RDMA), music's biggest event for families, at Microsoft Theater in Los Angeles on Saturday, April 29. 'Disney Channel Presents the 2017 Radio Disney Music Awards' airs Sunday, April 30 (7:00 p.m. EDT). (Image Group LA/Disney Channel via Getty Images) BRITNEY SPEARS
TAIPEI, CHINA - JUNE 13: American singer Britney Spears performs during her concert at TWTC Nangang Exhibition Hall on June 13, 2017 in Taipei, Taiwan of China. (Photo by VCG/VCG via Getty Images)
DISNEY CHANNEL PRESENTS THE 2017 RADIO DISNEY MUSIC AWARDS - Grammy Award-winning pop superstar Britney Spears was honored with the 2017 RDMA 'Icon' Award in recognition a career and music that has been loved by generations of Radio Disney fans. 'Disney Channel Presents the 2017 Radio Disney Music Awards' airs Sunday, April 30 (7:00 p.m. EDT). (Image Group LA/Disney Channel via Getty Images) BRITNEY SPEARS
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 16: Singer Britney Spears attends Art Hearts Fashion LAFW Fall/Winter 2017 - Day 3 at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on March 16, 2017 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 11: Britney Spears arrives at the Pre-GRAMMY Gala and Salute to Industry Icons Honoring Debra Lee on February 11, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
ORLANDO, FL - MARCH 13: (EDITORS NOTE: Image has been retouched.) Britney Spears enjoys a family outing with Jayden Federline, Maddie Aldridge and Sean Federline at Planet Hollywood Disney Springs on March 13, 2017 in Orlando, Florida. (Photo by Gerardo Mora/Getty Images for Planet Hollywood Observatory)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 11: Britney Spears attends Pre-GRAMMY Gala and Salute to Industry Icons Honoring Debra Lee at The Beverly Hilton on February 11, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/WireImage)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 03: Singer Britney Spears performs during the Now! 99.7 Triple Ho Show 7.0 at SAP Center on December 3, 2016 in San Jose, California. (Photo by C Flanigan/FilmMagic)
SAN JOSE, CA - DECEMBER 03: Singer Britney Spears performs during the Now! 99.7 Triple Ho Show 7.0 at SAP Center on December 3, 2016 in San Jose, California. (Photo by C Flanigan/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 02: Britney Spears performs at 102.7 KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2016 at Staples Center on December 2, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 02: Britney Spears performs at 102.7 KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2016 at Staples Center on December 2, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES , CA - DECEMBER 02: Britney Spears performs on stage during the 102.7 KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2016 on December 02, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by JB Lacroix/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 02: (L-R) KIIS FM Assistant Program Director/Music Director Beata Czechowski, recording artist Britney Spears, and radio personality Sisanie attend 102.7 KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2016 presented by Capital One at Staples Center on December 2, 2016 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jonathan Leibson/Getty Images for iHeartMedia)
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LONDON, ENGLAND - SEPTEMBER 28: Britney Spears seen at BBC Radio One on September 28, 2016 in London, England. (Photo by Neil Mockford/GC Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - SEPTEMBER 27: Britney Spears performs during Apple Music Festival at The Roundhouse on September 27, 2016 in London, England. (Photo by Dave J Hogan/Dave J Hogan/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 24: Britney Spears performs onstage during the 2016 iHeartRadio Music Festival - night 2 held at T-Mobile Arena on September 24, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Michael Tran/FilmMagic)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 24: Rapper G-Eazy (L) and singer Britney Spears perform at the 2016 iHeartRadio Music Festival at T-Mobile Arena on September 24, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Ethan Miller/WireImage)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 24: Recording artist Britney Spears performs onstage at the 2016 iHeartRadio Music Festival at T-Mobile Arena on September 24, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Kevin Winter/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 01: Britney Spears performs her Piece Of Me show at the Axis Theatre Planet Hollywood Resort on September 06, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada. PHOTOGRAPH BY Barcroft Images London-T:+44 207 033 1031 E:hello@barcroftmedia.com - New York-T:+1 212 796 2458 E:hello@barcroftusa.com - New Delhi-T:+91 11 4053 2429 E:hello@barcroftindia.com www.barcroftimages.com (Photo credit should read Barcroft Images / Barcroft Media via Getty Images)
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NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 29: (EXCLUSIVE COVERAGE) Britney Spears Visits Music Choice on August 29, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Music Choice)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 28: Rapper G-Eazy (L) and singer Britney Spears arrive at the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards at Madison Square Garden on August 28, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Allen Berezovsky/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 28: Britney Spears and G-Eazy perform onstage during the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards at Madison Square Garden on August 28, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 28: Recording artist Britney Spears attends the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards at Madison Square Garden on August 28, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 28: Britney Spears performs onstage during the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards at Madison Square Garden on August 28, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
Singer Britney Spears arrives for the 2016 MTV Video Music Awards August 28, 2016 at Madison Square Garden in New York. / AFP / Angela Weiss (Photo credit should read ANGELA WEISS/AFP/Getty Images)
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