Tori Spelling's marriage 'in shambles' as she deals with 'non-stop chaos' at home, source says (Exclusive)

Despite appearances on social media that she's doing just fine, Tori Spelling continues to struggle with issues with her husband Dean McDermott, a source tells ET.

“Tori and Dean’s marriage is in shambles despite having a sit down last week to try to make it work. They made an attempt to use the tools given to them by their therapist to create a healthy environment for the kids but it isn’t working,” the source says. “One of Tori’s main issues with Dean is he isn't helping with the kids as much as she feels he should. He used to do everything but has stepped away and started taking more time for himself.”

Spelling married McDermott in 2006, and the couple have five children together. As for McDermott, the source says that he’s just trying to keep the peace as much as he can.

"Dean is trying to be calm and handle things," the source says. "He doesn't want to raise his voice or say anything that she could misconstrue to the police."

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CULVER CITY, CA - DECEMBER 03: Actress Tori Spelling (R) and actor Dean McDermott arrive at the VH1 Big In '05 Awards held at Stage 15 on the Sony lot on December 3, 2005 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Stephen Shugerman/Getty Images)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott (Photo by Michael Bezjian/WireImage for Spin Shoppe PR)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott (Photo by L. Cohen/WireImage for Rabin Rodgers Inc.)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott (Photo by KMazur/WireImage for People Magazine)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott during 14th Annual Elton John AIDS Foundation Oscar Party Co-hosted by Audi, Chopard and VH1 - Inside at Pacific Design Center in Hollywood, California, United States. ***Exclusive*** (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott during 'The Godfather - The Game' Launch Party - Arrivals at Privilege in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Mark Sullivan/WireImage)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott during Human Rights Campaign Los Angeles Gala Dinner Honoring Al Franken with Guest Speaker Al Gore - March 25, 2006 at Hyatt Regency in Century City, CA, United States. (Photo by John Shearer/WireImage for PMK/HBH)
HOLLYWOOD - MARCH 28: Actress Tori Spelling (L) and fiance Dean McDermott (R) attend the VH1 'So NoTORIous' Screening Party at Jimmy's Lounge on March 28, 2006 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Michael Buckner/Getty Images for VH1)
'American Idol' Season 5 - Dean McDermott, guest and Tori Spelling *EXCLUSIVE* ***Exclusive*** (Photo by Ray Mickshaw/WireImage for Fox Television Network)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - APRIL 26: Actors Tori Spelling and fiance Dean McDermott attend the US Weekly Hot Hollywood Awards party held at the Republic restaurant and lounge on April 26, 2006 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images)
'American Idol' Season 5 - Tori Spelling (right) , Dean McDermott , and guests *EXCLUSIVE* ***Exclusive*** (Photo by Ray Mickshaw/WireImage for Fox Television Network)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott (Photo by John Shearer/WireImage)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott during 2006 American Music Awards - Arrivals at Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic)
PASADENA, CA - JANUARY 10: (L-R) Actress Tori Spelling and actor Dean McDermott for the Oxygen Channel attend the 2007 Winter TCA Press Tour at the Ritz Carlton Hotel on January 10, 2007 in Pasadena, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott at Silpada Designs (Photo by Maury Phillips/WireImage for Silpada Designs)
(EXCLUSIVE, Premium Rates Apply) Dean McDermott, Tori Spelling and son Liam Aaron McDermott (Photo by Elizabeth Messina/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JULY 14: Actress Tori Spelling and actor Dean McDermott arrive at the 'Much Love Animal Rescue Benefit' at the Playboy Mansion on July 14, 2007 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/WireImage)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott pictured at a book signing for Tori Spelling's new book 'sTori Telling' in New York City on July 30, 2008. - - 48431 (Photo by Dennis Van Tine/Photoshot/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS - AUGUST 01: ***EXCLUSIVE**** Actors Tori Spelling, left, and Dean McDermott dine at Social House prior to attending Christian Audigier The Nightclub at Treasure Island on August 1, 2008 in Las Vegas, NV. (Photo by Chris Weeks/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - SEPTEMBER 21: Actress Tori Spelling (L) and her husband Dean McDermott attend TV Guide's Sixth Annual Emmy Awards After Party at The Kress on September 21, 2008 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)
NEW YORK CITY - APRIL 15: (L-R) Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott sighting at Mommywood book party on April 15, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Justin Campbell/BuzzFoto/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - APRIL 17: Actress/Writer Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott promote Spelling's new book ''Mommywood'' at Borders Columbus Circle on April 17, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Duffy-Marie Arnoult/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - APRIL 20: Tori Spelling with her husband Dean McDermott and daughter Stella Doreen attend a book signing of 'Mommywood' by Tori Spelling at Barnes & Noble - The Grove on April 20, 2009 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Michael Tran/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD - APRIL 30: Tori Spelling, Dean McDermott and Jack Montgomery arrive on the red carpet of the Los Angeles premiere of 'Star Trek' at the Grauman's Chinese Theater on April 30, 2009 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jeff Vespa/WireImage)
NEW YORK - JANUARY 27: Tori Spelling (L) and Dean McDermott celebrate Thomas Crapper Day at ABC Studios on January 27, 2010 in New York City. (Photo by George Napolitano/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 12: (L-R) Actor Harry Hamlin, actress Tori Spelling, actor Dean McDermott and actress Lisa Rinna attend the seventh anniversary of the Belle Gray Boutique on February 12, 2010 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD - SEPTEMBER 16: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott attend Lambda Legal's 18th annual Liberty Awards at the Egyptian Theatre on September 16, 2010 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Brian To/FilmMagic)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott attend the NBC Universal press tour all-star party at The Langham Huntington Hotel and Spa on January 13, 2011 in Pasadena, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott with children Stella McDermott and Liam McDermott attend CAAF's 17th annual Dream Halloween at Barker Hangar on October 30, 2010 in Santa Monica, California.
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 09: (L-R) Dean McDermott, Stella McDermott, Liam McDermott, Tori Spelling, Finn McDermott and Hattie McDermott attend as Tori Spelling signs copies of her new book 'Spelling It Like It Is' at Barnes & Noble bookstore at The Grove on November 9, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Rodrigo Vaz/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JULY 05: Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling as seen on July 6, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GT/Star Max/FilmMagic)
THOUSAND OAKS, CA - FEBRUARY 28: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott partner with Valspar Paint to launch the Valspar Color Project video series benefitting Habitat for Humanity on February 28, 2013 in Thousand Oaks, California. (Photo by Araya Diaz/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 12: Dean McDermott, Stella McDermott, Liam McDermott, Tori Spelling, Finn McDermott and Hattie McDermott attend the Disney On Ice Presents 'Rockin' Ever After' Los Angeles Premiere at Staples Center on December 12, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by JB Lacroix/WireImage)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - JUNE 08: Tori Spelling, Dean McDermott and children attend the premiere of 'Inside Out' at the El Capitan Theatre on June 8, 2015 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
CULVER CITY, CA - AUGUST 22: Tori Spelling, Finn Davey McDermott, Stella Doreen McDermott, Hattie Margaret McDermott,Liam Aaron McDermott and Dean McDermott attend the LG Electronics host LG 'Fam To Table' series at The Washbow on August 22, 2015 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Araya Diaz/WireImage)
CULVER CITY, CA - OCTOBER 25: Actress Tori Spelling (L) and actor Dean McDermott arrive at The Elizabeth Glaser Pediatric AIDS Foundation's 26th A Time For Heroes Family Festival at Smashbox Studios on October 25, 2015 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/WireImage)
ANAHEIM, CA - JANUARY 23: Actors Tori Spelling (L) and Dean McDermott attend Monster Energy Supercross Celebrity Night at Angel Stadium of Anaheim on January 23, 2016 in Anaheim, California. (Photo by Michael Kovac/Getty Images for Feld Entertainment)
INGLEWOOD, CA - MARCH 12: Actors Tori Spelling (L) and Dean McDermott attend Nickelodeon's 2016 Kids' Choice Awards at The Forum on March 12, 2016 in Inglewood, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - NOVEMBER 14: Tori Spelling with Dean McDermott and their family arrive at the AFI FEST 2016 presented by Audi - world premiere of Disney's 'Moana' held at the El Capitan Theatre on November 14, 2016 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Michael Tran/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - AUGUST 05: (L-R) Actress Tori Spelling, husband Dean McDermott, and children Finn Davey McDermott, Hattie Margaret McDermott, and Stella Doreen McDermott attend 'The Lion King' sing-along screening at The Greek Theatre on August 5, 2017 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Rodin Eckenroth/WireImage)
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"She panics every time he is out," the source also alleges. "If she doesn't know exactly where he is, her anxiety goes through the roof. She seems to live in fear he will cheat again.

ET previously confirmed that McDermott called police on March 7 to do a welfare check on his wife at a location in Thousand Oaks, California. The source claims that prior to the call, the two fought, and she threatened not to come back from a doctor's appointment with one of their kids.

“She lost it again, she flipped out again and threatened him," the source claims. "That was the reason the police had to go to the doctor’s office. Dean was worried Tori would take their kid and not return."

"Dean doesn't want the mother of his children to get arrested, he just wants to show Tori he is serious about watching her behavior and the children,” the source adds. "Close friends only see this getting worse. Things don't look good. It is causing total unrest in the home because the kids are present during her outbursts and threats.”

Though Spelling has since returned to work after the police visit, the source says that the troubles have persisted.

"There is non-stop chaos in their home and in their marriage," the source says. "Friends are talking about a possible intervention of sorts before things get even worse."

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UNITED STATES - JANUARY 22: THE LOVE BOAT - Season Six - 1/22/83, Tori Spelling (Sarah) in the 'Doc's Big Case' episode of ABC's 'The Love Boat.', (Photo by ABC Photo Archives/ABC via Getty Images)
Candy Spelling and Tori Spelling at the Beverly Hilton Hotel in Beverly Hilton, California (Photo by Ron Galella/WireImage)
HOTEL - 'Barriers' - Airdate: March 11, 1987. (Photo by ABC Photo Archives/ABC via Getty Images) L-R: SHARI BELAFONTE;TORI SPELLING;CONNIE SELLECCA
Tori Spelling, 1988. (Photo by Michael Ochs Archives/Getty Images)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
SAVED BY THE BELL -- Pictured: (l-r) Tori Spelling as Violet Anne Bickerstaff, Dustin Diamond as Screech Powers (Photo by Alice S. Hall/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES - 1990: Actress Tori Spelling poses for a portrait in 1990 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Harry Langdon/Getty Images)
Brian Austin Green and Tori Spelling (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
Jason Priestley, Tori Spelling, Aaron Spelling, Shannen Doherty and Luke Perry at the Universal Studios in Universal City, California (Photo by Ron Galella/WireImage)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
Tori Spelling & Brian Austin Green (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
THE TONIGHT SHOW WITH JAY LENO -- Episode 647 -- Pictured: (l-r) Actress Tori Spelling during an interview with host Jay Leno on March 7, 1995 -- (Photo by: Margaret Norton/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Jim Smeal/WireImage)
Tori Spelling at the Mann's Village Theater in Westwood, California (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
Tori Spelling during Planet Hollywood Beverly Hills Grand Opening at Planet Hollywood in Beverly Hills, California, United States. (Photo by Jim Smeal/WireImage)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Steve Granitz Archive 1/WireImage)
Brian Austin Green, Gabrielle Carteris, Joe E. Tata, Vincent Young, Ian Ziering, Jennie Garth, Luke Perry & Tori Spelling (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic, Inc)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Jim Smeal/WireImage)
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Tori Spelling during Women With Heart Auction At Christies at Christie's in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Iris/WireImage)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Tony Barson/WireImage)
Tori Spelling during 'Sol Goode' DVD Release Party at Club 1650 in Hollywood, California, United States. (Photo by Jean-Paul Aussenard/WireImage)
Jamie Kennedy & Tori Spelling during Jamie Kennedy Book Release Party at Shelter in West Hollywood, California, United States. (Photo by Barry King/WireImage)
Tori Spelling and Jason Priestley during 'Silver Spoon Dog and Baby Buffet Benefitting Much Love Animal Rescue - Day One at Private Residence in Beverly Hills, California, United States. (Photo by Jean-Paul Aussenard/WireImage for Silver Spoon (formerly The Cabana))
Tori Spelling, engaged to Charlie Shanian, shows her new ring at the Hollywood & Highland in Hollywood, California (Photo by Gregg DeGuire/WireImage)
Tori Spelling during CA Boom Opening Night Extravaganza at Santa Monica Civic Auditorium in Santa Monica, California, United States. (Photo by Chris Polk/FilmMagic)
Tori Spelling (r) and husband Charles Shanian during 16th Carousel of Hope Presented by Mercedes-Benz to Benefit the Barbara Davis Center for Childhood Diabetes - Arrivals at The Beverly Hilton in Beverly Hills, California, United States. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - FEBRUARY 05: Actress Tori Spelling attends the Ann Bowen Fall 2005 show during Olympus Fashion Week at Bryant Park February 5, 2005 in New York City. (Photo by Thos Robinson/Getty Images)
Tori Spelling during American Eagle Outfitters 'Live Your Life' Awards Celebration at American Eagle Outfitters Flagship Store in New York City, New York, United States. (Photo by Jemal Countess/WireImage)
Tori Spelling during VH1 Big in '05 - Red Carpet at Sony Studios in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Jeff Kravitz/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - MARCH 31: Tori Spelling (L) and Dean McDermott (R) attend Tori Spelling promoting her new VH1 scripted comedy 'So Notorious' at XL Lounge March 31, 2006 in New York City. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Getty Images)
Tori Spelling (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage)
Tori Spelling at Principessa during 2007 Silver Spoon Golden Globes Suite - Day 2 in Los Angeles, California, United States. (Photo by Matthew Simmons/WireImage for Silver Spoon (formerly The Cabana))
NEW YORK - NOVEMBER 09: Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott arrive at the 2007 Out 100 Awards at Cipriani Wall Street on Novemeber 9, 2007 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 09: Tori Spelling and daughter Stella at the launch of TotSpot.com sponsored by Little Tikes and benefiting Generation Rescue at the Treehouse Social Club. (Photo by Chris Polk/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - FEBRUARY 19: Actress Tori Spelling poses backstage at Christian Siriano Fall 2009 during Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week at The Salon in Bryant Park on February 19, 2009 in New York City. (Photo by Steve Mack/FilmMagic)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - FEBRUARY 27: Actress Tori Spelling arrives at the 19th Annual Elton John AIDS Foundation's Oscar viewing party held at the Pacific Design Center on February 27, 2011 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - JULY 16: Actress Tori Spelling attends the 29th annual Gay & Lesbian Film Festival's premiere of 'Hoarders: Untold sTORI' at John Anson Ford Amphitheatre on July 16, 2011 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - APRIL 21: Tori Spelling attends the 17th Annual Los Angeles Times Festival Of Books - Day 1 at USC on April 21, 2012 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jonathan Leibson/FilmMagic)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MAY 10: Actress Tori Spelling and children Finn Davey McDermott (L) and Hattie Margaret McDermott attend The Helping Hand of Los Angeles' Annual Mother's Day Luncheon at the Beverly Hills Hotel on May 10, 2013 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 24: Tori Spelling attends the 'Mystery Girls' Screening hosted by The Moms at Park Avenue Screening Room on June 24, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by John Lamparski/WireImage)
CULVER CITY, CA - AUGUST 22: Tori Spelling attends the LG 'Fam To Table' series at The Washbow on August 22, 2015 in Culver City, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
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-- Reporting by Adriane Schwartz

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