'The Bachelor' Arie Luyendyk, Jr. shares his wisdom on modern dating

The current season of "The Bachelor" is winding down. Two-time Indy 500 winner Arie Luyendyk, Jr. has narrowed the playing field to his final three women, and the coming weeks will see him choose a life partner. For 22 seasons, we've tuned in to watch women vie for an eligible bachelor's attention. We've swooned over their romantic getaways, cringed at their awkward exchanges and relished their drama. "The Bachelor" most certainly makes great television but that doesn't mean that Arie doesn't experience the same fears and insecurities like the rest of us, except with dozens of cameras pointing at him. The former racer, who is now a successful real estate broker, stopped by BUILD Series NYC to share some of these nerve-racking experiences everyone can relate to when it came to picking his potential life partner for the second time on national television.

Despite waiting 6 years for Arie to be the next Bachelor after America had fallen in love with him from his previous season with Emily Maynard, Luyendyk was actually terrified when the season started. The next bachelor was rumored to be Peter Kraus, and Luyendyk feared he would disappoint both fans and the women on the show if he couldn't live up to Kraus' looks or reputation.

"For me, it was very nerve-racking, it was intimidating," he said. "I think some people expected a different bachelor, so I felt a little insecure in that way, but as the evening rolled through I got more and more comfortable."

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INDIANAPOLIS, IN - MAY 24: Arie Luyendyk Jr. attends the 2015 Indy 500 at Indianapolis Motorspeedway on May 24, 2015 in Indianapolis, Indiana. (Photo by Joey Foley/WireImage)
Arie Luyendyk, Jr. attends X Games Austin's 101X's X Games Austin Kick-Off Bash at The Belmont on June 4, 2014 in Austin, Texas. (Photo by Suzanne Cordeiro/Corbis via Getty Images)
DETROIT, MI - MAY 28: Speed Energy Stadium Super Truck Series driver and The Bachelorette TV Show contestant Arie Luyendyk Jr attends Grand Prix Street Fest at Campus Martius Park on May 28, 2014 in Detroit, Michigan. (Photo by Paul Warner/Getty Images)
INDIANAPOLIS, IN - MAY 26: Arie Luyendyk, Jr. attends the 2013 Indianapolis 500 at Indianapolis Motorspeedway on May 26, 2013 in Indianapolis, Indiana. (Photo by Robin Marchant/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - DECEMBER 03: Arie Luyendyk, Jr. attends KIIS FM's Jingle Ball 2012 at Nokia Theatre LA Live on December 3, 2012 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/FilmMagic)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 22: TV personality Arie Luyendyk Jr. attends the 2012 iHeartRadio Music Festival pool party at the Wet Republic pool at the MGM Grand Hotel/Casino on September 22, 2012 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Bryan Steffy/Getty Images for Clear Channel)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 22: TV personality Arie Luyendyk Jr. attends the 2012 iHeartRadio Music Festival pool party at the Wet Republic pool at the MGM Grand Hotel/Casino on September 22, 2012 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Bryan Steffy/Getty Images for Clear Channel)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 21: Television personality Arie Luyendyk Jr. poses in the press room at the iHeartRadio Music Festival at the MGM Grand Garden Arena September 21, 2012 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Steven Lawton/Getty Images)
CENTURY CITY, CA - AUGUST 10: Arie Luyendyk and Jr. arrives at the 12th Annual Harold Pump Foundation Gala at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza on August 10, 2012 in Century City, California. (Photo by Araya Diaz/WireImage)
CENTURY CITY, CA - AUGUST 10: TV personality Arie Luyendyk, Jr attends the 12th Annual Harold Pump Foundation Gala at the Hyatt Regency Century Plaza on August 10, 2012 in Century City, California. (Photo by Tiffany Rose/WireImage)
INDIANAPOLIS - MAY 29: Arie Luyendyk, Kim Kardashian, Arie Luyendyk Jr and Kris Jenner visit the Indianapolis Motor Speedway on May 29, 2010 in Indianapolis, Indiana. (Photo by Michael Hickey/WireImage)
FONTANA, CA - FEBRUARY 3: IndyCar driver Arie Luyendyk Jr. during the annual Indycar Series pre-season 'Test in the West' on February 3, 2003 at the California Speedway in Fontana, California. (Photo by Jonathan Ferrey/Getty Images)
THE BACHELORETTE - 'The Bachelorette: After the Final Rose' - Emotions ran high as Emily sat down with Chris Harrison, live, to talk about her final two bachelors. She took viewers back to those final days in exotic Cura�o when she was conflicted about being in love with two men. Emily discussed her relationships with Arie and Jef and the heart-wrenching decision that changed all of their lives forever. Both men returned to share the bombshell outcome of the series. It was the emotional ending to Emily's heartfelt journey to find true love, live, on 'The Bachelorette: After the Final Rose,' SUNDAY, JULY 22 (10:01-11:00 p.m., ET). (Photo by Rick Rowell/ABC via Getty Images) EMILY MAYNARD, ARIE LUYENDYK
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The best part of the show was when Arie got totally real and answered questions that many of the show's audience were dying to know. Does this experience really work? Could he see why people are inclined to be the next Bachelor or Bachelorette?

"It can work and you definitely fall in love," he explained of the experience. "I think it's navigating the post-show stuff afterward, and keeping a good head on your shoulders and staying humble. Enjoy the ride but also know that there is real-world stuff to take care of when you get home."

Arie also got candid on his close relationship with Sean and Catherine, who actually encouraged him to be on the show, and gushed over how they are a real example of a couple who made it work post glitz and glamour of the show.

"The Bachelor" airs on Mondays at 8 p.m. EST on ABC.

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