Should Prince Harry invite his ex-girlfriend to the royal wedding?

People are whispering about the guest list for Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s May wedding, particularly whether one person will make the cut: Harry’s ex-girlfriend Chelsy Davy.

“Both will be going through the list carefully,” a source told Us Weekly on Tuesday of the engaged couple. “Don’t expect to see Cressida invited — the two didn’t remain friends — but do not be surprised if Chelsy shows up with a date. The two have remained friends long after ending their relationship and still keep in touch to this day.”

The source added, “She congratulated him the minute the engagement news was announced. Meghan would have no problem with her being there and Chelsy was on the preliminary list of friends to invite.”

See one of Prince Harry's ex-girlfriends, Cressida Bonas:

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Cressida's bohemian style is quite different from Kate's and if she becomes part of the Royal Family, we'll be interested to see how much of this boho style she holds on to.
A definite plus when it comes to sister-in-law rivalries, Cressida's blonde locks will keep her from trying to beat Kate's beyond-perfect brunette tresses. 
We're not sure if beanies quite make it onto the top of every royal's must-wear list, but we're digging the leather jacket.
Well we know she's already in with the family! After all, Harry's cousin Princess Eugenie, pictured, is the one who introduced the duo.
At a pre-Wimbledon party just this past June, Cressida posed with her sister Isabella in a floral dress with a sparkly jacket.
Hmm, we're all for recycling clothes (and so is Duchess Kate!) but three days later, Cressie? She wore the same sparkly jacket to attend a friend's wedding on June 23rd, 2013. 
While attending the summer 2013 Glastonbury Music Festival, Cressida rocked neon sunglasses and distressed overalls. We can't help but see Queen Elizabeth II cringing a little bit.

We repeat: Grandma-in-law may not approve of this look!

Cressida wore a blue dress, black coat with leather sleeves and a flower crown to attend a friend's wedding.
In March 2014, Cressida looked casual at the We Day Celebration, where she cozied up to Prince Harry.
One of the first times the couple showed any PDA, they seemed cozy at the We Day event.
Shortly after her split from Harry earlier this year, Cressida hit the town with Princess Beatrice.
Cressida attended the Art Antiques London Gala Evening in aid of Children In Crisis at Kensington Gardens in June.
Cressida wears an LBD and jean jacket as she and her sister Isabella attend an after party following a performance in London.
Oh boy, more Glastonbury outfits.
Hopefully if she does, someday, become part of the royal family she won't lose her fun, boho vibe!
Casual while out and about in London.
Cressida attended Prince Harry's Invictus Games closing ceremony looking polished in a grey wool coat.
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The prince dated Davy, 32 a former law student, from 2004 to 2011 and broke up reportedly due to Davy’s reluctance to embrace the royal lifestyle. According to the U.K. Sun, during their relationship, Davy met the Queen at a wedding and was invited to Prince Charles’ 60th birthday party at Highgrove House. And Davy even scored an invite to Prince William and Kate Middleton’s 2011 wedding.

The source also told US Weekly of Markle and the prince, “With the wedding, they both want to do things their way. While they will always be mindful of traditions and the views of their elders, the day is ultimately about them and what they want to do. The day of the wedding itself will certainly hold a few unconventional surprises. Don’t expect a royal wedding by numbers. They want to involve their friends and family as much in as much as possible throughout the day.”

People invite ex-partners to their weddings for all sorts of reasons — you have the same friends or coworkers, you share young children together, or you simply feel nostalgic — but according to Bethany Marshall, PhD., a Beverly Hills-based psychoanalyst, the gesture carried unintended consequences.

“Weddings are a template for how couples make decisions and problem-solve and the decision to invite an ex should be carefully considered among both people,” Marshall tells Yahoo Lifestyle.

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US actress and fiancee of Britain's Prince Harry Meghan Markle (L) and Britain's Prince Harry (R) stand together as they wait to see off Britain's Queen Elizabeth II after attending the Royal Family's traditional Christmas Day church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk, eastern England, on December 25, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / Adrian DENNIS (Photo credit should read ADRIAN DENNIS/AFP/Getty Images)
The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry leave the Christmas Day morning church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk. (Photo by Joe Giddens/PA Images via Getty Images)
KING'S LYNN, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 25: Prince Charles; Prince of Wales Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend Christmas Day Church service at Church of St Mary Magdalene on December 25, 2017 in King's Lynn, England. (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images)
KING'S LYNN, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 25: (L-R) Prince William, Duke of Cambridge, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend Christmas Day Church service at Church of St Mary Magdalene on December 25, 2017 in King's Lynn, England. (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images)
TOPSHOT - (L-R) US actress and fiancee of Britain's Prince Harry Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry arrive to attend the Royal Family's traditional Christmas Day church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk, eastern England, on December 25, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / Adrian DENNIS (Photo credit should read ADRIAN DENNIS/AFP/Getty Images)
(L-R) US actress and fiancee of Britain's Prince Harry Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry arrive to attend the Royal Family's traditional Christmas Day church service at St Mary Magdalene Church in Sandringham, Norfolk, eastern England, on December 25, 2017. / AFP PHOTO / Adrian DENNIS (Photo credit should read ADRIAN DENNIS/AFP/Getty Images)
Terms of release, which must be included and passed-on to anyone to whom this image is supplied: USE AFTER 31/05/2018 must be cleared by Kensington Palace. This photograph is for editorial use only. NO commercial use. NO use in calendars, books or supplements. Use on a cover, or for any other purpose, will require approval from Art Partner and the Kensington Palace Press Office. There is no charge for the supply, release or publication of this official photograph. This photograph must not be digitally enhanced, manipulated or modified and must be used substantially uncropped. Copyright in the photographs is vested in Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle. Publications are asked to credit the photograph to Alexi Lubomirski. WINDSOR, UNITED KINGDOM - DECEMBER: (EDITOR'S NOTE: Image was shot in black and white. Colour version not available.) In this handout photo provided by Kensington Palace, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle pose for one of two official engagement photos at Frogmore House in December, 2017 in Windsor, United Kingdom. (Photo by Alexi Lubomirski via Getty Images)
NO SALES. Terms of release, which must be included and passed-on to anyone to whom this image is supplied: USE AFTER 31/05/2018 must be cleared by Kensington Palace. This photograph is for editorial use only. NO commercial use. NO use in calendars, books or supplements. Use on a cover, or for any other purpose, will require approval from Art Partner and the Kensington Palace Press Office. There is no charge for the supply, release or publication of this official photograph. This photograph must not be digitally enhanced, manipulated or modified and must be used substantially uncropped. Copyright in the photographs is vested in Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle. Publications are asked to credit the photograph to Alexi Lubomirski. WINDSOR, UNITED KINGDOM - DECEMBER: In this handout photo provided by Kensington Palace, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle pose for one of two official engagement photos at Frogmore House in December, 2017 in Windsor, United Kingdom. (Photo by Alexi Lubomirski via Getty Images)
NO SALES. Terms of release, which must be included and passed-on to anyone to whom this image is supplied: USE AFTER 31/05/2018 must be cleared by Kensington Palace. This photograph is for editorial use only. NO commercial use. NO use in calendars, books or supplements. Use on a cover, or for any other purpose, will require approval from Art Partner and the Kensington Palace Press Office. There is no charge for the supply, release or publication of this official photograph. This photograph must not be digitally enhanced, manipulated or modified and must be used substantially uncropped. Copyright in the photographs is vested in Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle. Publications are asked to credit the photograph to Alexi Lubomirski. WINDSOR, UNITED KINGDOM - DECEMBER: (EDITOR'S NOTE: Image was shot in black and white. Colour version not available.) In this handout photo provided by Kensington Palace, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle pose for one of two official engagement photos at Frogmore House in December, 2017 in Windsor, United Kingdom. (Photo by Alexi Lubomirski via Getty Images)
Prince Harry and Meghan Markle arriving for the Queen's Christmas lunch at Buckingham Palace, London. (Photo by Jonathan Brady/PA Images via Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 20: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Prince Harry and Meghan Markle arrive for the Queen's Christmas lunch at Buckingham Palace on December 20, 2017 in London, England. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 01: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle go on a walk about at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle in May 2018. (Photo by Samir Hussein/Samir Hussein/WireImage)
NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 01: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle go on a walk about at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle in May 2018. (Photo by Samir Hussein/WireImage)
NOTTINGHAM, UNITED KINGDOM - DECEMBER 01: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Prince Harry and Meghan Markle attend a Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor in May 2018. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 01: Prince Harry and fiancee Meghan Markle attend the Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor Castle in May 2018. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
Britain's Prince Harry and his fiancee, US actress Meghan Markle gesture during their visit to Nottingham Academy in Nottingham, central England, on December 1, 2017. Prince Harry and his American actress fiancee Meghan Markle were welcomed by hundreds of people on their first royal visit as a couple since announcing their engagement this week. / AFP PHOTO / POOL / Andy Stenning (Photo credit should read ANDY STENNING/AFP/Getty Images)
NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 01: Prince Harry and his fiancee US actress Meghan Markle pose for a photograph with the cast and crew of a hip hop opera performed by young people involved in the Full Effect programme at the Nottingham Academy school on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor in May 2018. (Photo by Matt Dunham - WPA Pool/Getty Images)
NOTTINGHAM, ENGLAND - DECEMBER 01: Prince Harry and his fiancee US actress Meghan Markle visit the Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair at Nottingham Contemporary on December 1, 2017 in Nottingham, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle announced their engagement on Monday 27th November 2017 and will marry at St George's Chapel, Windsor in May 2018. (Photo by Adrian Dennis - WPA Pool/Getty Images)
Britain's Prince Harry and his fiancee US actress Meghan Markle greet wellwishers on a walkabout as they arrive for an engagement at Nottingham Contemporary in Nottingham, central England, on December 1, 2017 which is hosting a Terrence Higgins Trust World AIDS Day charity fair. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle visited Nottingham in their first set of engagements together since announcing their engagement. / AFP PHOTO / Oli SCARFF (Photo credit should read OLI SCARFF/AFP/Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 27: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle attend an official photocall to announce their engagement at The Sunken Gardens at Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 27: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle attend an official photocall to announce their engagement at The Sunken Gardens at Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - NOVEMBER 27: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Prince Harry and Meghan Markle attend an official photocall to announce their engagement at The Sunken Gardens, Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
LONDON, UNITED KINGDOM - NOVEMBER 27: (EMBARGOED FOR PUBLICATION IN UK NEWSPAPERS UNTIL 24 HOURS AFTER CREATE DATE AND TIME) Prince Harry and Meghan Markle attend an official photocall to announce their engagement at The Sunken Gardens, Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Max Mumby/Indigo/Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 27: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle during an official photocall to announce the engagement of Prince Harry and actress Meghan Markle at The Sunken Gardens at Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Samir Hussein/Samir Hussein/WireImage)
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 27: Prince Harry and Meghan Markle during an official photocall to announce the engagement of Prince Harry and actress Meghan Markle at The Sunken Gardens at Kensington Palace on November 27, 2017 in London, England. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle have been a couple officially since November 2016 and are due to marry in Spring 2018. (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 30: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are seen at the Closing Ceremony on day 8 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 at the Air Canada Centre on September 30, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 30: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry are seen on day 8 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 on September 30, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend the Wheelchair Tennis on day 3 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 at Nathan Philips Square on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend the Wheelchair Tennis on day 3 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 at Nathan Philips Square on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend wheelchair tennis on day 3 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Samir Hussein/Samir Hussein/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend wheelchair tennis on day 3 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Samir Hussein/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Prince Harry (R) and Meghan Markle (L) attend a Wheelchair Tennis match during the Invictus Games 2017 at Nathan Philips Square on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images for the Invictus Games Foundation )
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Meghan Markle and Prince Harry attend the Wheelchair Tennis on day 3 of the Invictus Games Toronto 2017 at Nathan Philips Square on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada. The Games use the power of sport to inspire recovery, support rehabilitation and generate a wider understanding and respect for the Armed Forces. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 25: Prince Harry (R) and Meghan Markle (L) attend a Wheelchair Tennis match during the Invictus Games 2017 at Nathan Philips Square on September 25, 2017 in Toronto, Canada (Photo by Chris Jackson/Getty Images for the Invictus Games Foundation)
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It’s 100 percent possible to feel nothing but platonic love and fondness for an ex, but your partner could have a different interpretation. He, he or she may feel awkward with that person meeting friends and family, distort your intentions, or not want to share an important day with someone who once held a place in your heart — or let’s be real — your bed.

At the same time, not inviting this person, especially if they are entwined in your life by way of business, family history, or co-parenting, could offend. “Weddings are almost never just about the bride and groom,” says Marshall. “And parents and in-laws often have expectations for what they consider a family event.”

If you’re uncertain about whether to extend an invite, really think about it: Why you want your ex to celebrate your marriage? And will his or her presence undermine your relationship?

And make the decision with your soon-to-be spouse. “Many people believe that when they marry, their problems end,” says Marshall, “but marriage is the first step toward figuring out how to be a couple.”

 

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