Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque 'lived separately' before sexual misconduct scandal, source says

Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque were spending time apart even before the former Today show host was fired for "inappropriate sexual behavior" last Wednesday, a source tells ET.

“Matt and Annette lived separately, with Matt spending many nights in his Manhattan apartment," the source says. 

According to the source, the two have a home in the Hamptons, and it is believed that Lauer has been been living there since his shocking firing.

Lauer was snapped on Monday morning in New York, still wearing his wedding ring.

Matt Lauer still wearing his wedding ring
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Meanwhile, a source at NBC says staff members are still shocked at Lauer's firing. A lot of the staff knew that Lauer had "a wandering eye," the source claims, but "no one ever thought he was a predator." 

Lauer and Roque have been married since 1998 and share three children together. The two were last seen publicly with each other in September, smiling during a lunch date in NYC.

Still, their 19-year marriage hasn't been without issues, including tabloid rumors of Lauer allegedly engaging in extramarital affairs, which he has denied. Roque also reportedly filed for divorce against her husband in September 2006, before eventually withdrawing the documents and reconciling, according to The New York Daily News. According to paperwork first obtained by the National Enquirer, in the filing, Roque accused Lauer of "cruel and inhumane acts," reportedly also claiming that Lauer was controlling about "even the smallest decisions," and alleging that he showed "extreme anger and hostility" towards her.

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Matt Lauer and Annette Roque together through the years
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Matt Lauer and Annette Roque together through the years
EAST HAMPTON, NY - AUGUST 12: Annette Roque and Matt Lauer attend Apollo in the Hamptons 2017: hosted by Ronald O. Perelman at The Creeks on August 12, 2017 in East Hampton, New York. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for The Apollo)
NEW YORK, NY - NOVEMBER 22: Annette Roque and Matt Lauer attend the 2013 Animal League America Celebrity gala at The Waldorf=Astoria on November 22, 2013 in New York City. (Photo by Desiree Navarro/WireImage)
BRIDGEHAMPTON, NY - SEPTEMBER 01: Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque Lauer attend the 38th Annual Hampton Classic Horse Show - Grand Prix Sunday on September 1, 2013 in Bridgehampton, New York. (Photo by Sonia Moskowitz/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 08: 'Today' host Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque attend 2013 Tribeca Ball at New York Academy of Art on April 8, 2013 in New York City. (Photo by Charles Eshelman/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - DECEMBER 03: Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque attend the 2008 UNICEF Snowflake Ball at Cipriani 42nd Street on December 3, 2008 in New York City. (Photo by Mike Coppola/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - MAY 15: TV personality Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque visit the 'Ye Waverly Inn' resturant on May 15, 2008 in New York City, New York. (Photo by Marcel Thomas/FilmMagic)
Actress Mary Tyler Moore, television journalist Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque attend the Fifth Annual ASPCA Bergh Ball on April 25, 2002 at The Plaza Hotel in New York City. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
NEW YORK CITY, NY - APRIL 23: Annette Roque and Matt Lauer attend ROGER VIVIER Cocktail Party Benefiting CENTRAL PARK CONSERVANCY at Roger Vivier on April 23, 2008 in New York City. (Photo by BILLY FARRELL/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
NEW YORK CITY, NY - MAY 8: Annette Roque and Matt Lauer attend TIME MAGAZINE'S 100 MOST INFLUENTIAL PEOPLE IN THE WORLD at Jazz @ Lincoln Center on May 8, 2008 in New York City. (Photo by JIMI CELESTE/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
NEW YORK CITY, NY - MAY 8: Matt Lauer and Annette Roque Lauer attend TIME Magazine's 100 Most Influential People 2007 at Jazz at Lincoln Center on May 8, 2007 in New York City. (Photo by PATRICK MCMULLAN/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
NEW YORK CITY, NY - NOVEMBER 28: Matt Lauer and Annette Roque Lauer attend Baccarat Presents the 2nd Annual UNICEF SNOWFLAKE BALL at Waldorf-Astoria Hotel on November 28, 2005 in New York City. (Photo by Jimi Celeste/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images)
Matt Lauer, Annette Roque Lauer during Bergdorf Goodman celebrates Madonna's new book at Bergdorf Goodman in New York, New York, United States. (Photo by M. Von Holden/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK - APRIL 19: NBC 'Today' show host Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque arrive for Time Magazine Celebrates New 'Time 100' list of Most Influential People In The World at the Time Warner Center on April 19, 2005 in New York City. (Photo by Paul Hawthorne/Getty Images)
Annette Roque Lauer and Matt Lauer during Escada and InStyle Host Benefit for the U.S. Fund for UNICEF at ESCADA Fifth Avenue in New York City, New York, United States. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/WireImage)
Matt Lauer, Annette Roque Lauer during Bette Midler Receives the Medal of Distinction by Lenox Hill Hospital at 2002 Autumn Ball at Waldorf Astoria in New York, New York, United States. (Photo by Sylvain Gaboury/FilmMagic)
Matt Lauer and Annette Roque during 5th Annual ASPCA Bergh Ball at Plaza Hotel in New York City, New York, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
NEW YORK CITY - APRIL 25: Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque attend ASPCA Bergh Ball Honoring Roger A. Caras on April 25, 2001 at the Plaza Hotel in New York City. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
370677 06: Today Show Host Matt Lauer with his wife Annette Roque Lauer attend The Fresh Air Fund Benefit, June 8, 2000 in New York City. The Fresh Air Fund is an independent, not for profit agency which has provided free summer vacations to more than 1.7 million disadvantaged New York City children since 1877. The annual event is held at Tavern On The Green in New York City. (Photo By George De Sota/Liaison)
Television journalist Matt Lauer and wife, model Annette Roque, at book party for Al Roker. (Photo by Marion Curtis/DMI/The LIFE Picture Collection/Getty Images)
NEW YORK CITY - OCTOBER 21: Matt Lauer and wife Annette Roque attend Third Annual GQ Men of the Year Awards on October 21, 1998 at Radio City Music Hall in New York City. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
Nyc 10/21/98 Gq Magazine Honors 'Men Of The Year' At Radio City Music Hall. Matt Lauer & New Bride Annette Roque (Photo By Evan Agostini/Getty Images)
UNITED STATES - OCTOBER 03: NBC 'Today' show host Matt Lauer and model Annette Roque leave Bridgehampton Presbyterian Chuch on Long Island after their wedding. (Photo by John Roca/NY Daily News Archive via Getty Images)
NANTUCKET - JUNE 19: Nantucket Film Festival. Matt Lauer and then-fianc� Annette Roque at Bob and Suzanne Wright?s party at the Nantucket Film Festival, Nantucket, MA June 19, 1998 (Photo by Lindsay Brice/Getty Images)
Matt Lauer & Annette Roque during 1997 Lexus Challenge After Party at La Quinta Resort & Club in La Quinta, California, United States. (Photo by SGranitz/WireImage)
Annette Roque and Matt Lauer during 'Anchors Aweigh' Benefit for Muscular Dystrophy Association at Aboard Spirit of New York in New York City, New York, United States. (Photo by Ron Galella, Ltd./WireImage)
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Meanwhile, Lauer's ex-wife, Nancy Alspaugh, who was married to Lauer from 1981 to 1988, only had good things to say about the embattled newsman when ET spoke with her last week.

"I never saw him as a power monger or somebody who would abuse his position in any way," Alspaugh said. "That’s why it’s so shocking, I think, for the people that really know him and really love him and they want to get the good stuff out."

"I want to get out the fact that he made a contribution to my nonprofit, that he helped me when my husband died," she added. "The selfless, giving part of him, which people tend to forget whenever this kind of a situation comes up. He would give you the shirt off his back if you really needed it. He did that for everybody. From the lowest person on set to, you know, the highest powers."

On Thursday, Lauer broke his silence on the scandal one day after being fired. 

"There are no words to express my sorrow and regret for the pain I have caused others by words and actions. To the people I have hurt, I am truly sorry," Lauer said in a statement. "As I am writing this I realize the depth of the damage and disappointment I have left behind at home and at NBC. Some of what is being said about me is untrue or mischaracterized, but there is enough truth in these stories to make me feel embarrassed and ashamed," he continued. "I regret that my shame is now shared by the people I cherish dearly. Repairing the damage will take a lot of time and soul searching and I’m committed to beginning that effort. It is now my full-time job."

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Nancy Alspaugh, Matt Lauer's ex-wife, through the years
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Nancy Alspaugh, Matt Lauer's ex-wife, through the years
SANTA MONICA - APRIL 3: Author Nancy Alspaugh signs autographs as she attends the book signing for 'Fearless Women' at Barnes and Nobles April 3, 2005 in Santa Monica, California. (Photo by Marsaili McGrath/Getty Images)
Nancy Alspaugh and John Farrar at the Private Residence in Hidden Hills, California (Photo by Amy Graves/WireImage)
CALABASAS, CA - MAY 02: (L-R) Antonio Sabato Jr., ACT Today! Executive Director, Nancy Alspaugh and Tom Bergeron attend the 2nd Annual 'Wyatt's Run' kick off party to benefit Autism Care and Treatment Today (ACT Today!) held at the lululemon athletica store on May 2, 2009 in Calabasas, California. (Photo by Michael Tran/FilmMagic)
HIDDEN HILLS, CA - OCTOBER 23: Actor Jillian Clare and Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson attend the 5th Annual Denim & Diamonds For Autism Benefit Fashion Show on October 23, 2010 in Hidden Hills, California. (Photo by Arun Nevader/FilmMagic)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - AUGUST 27: Dr. Doreen Granpeesheh (L) and Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson attend the ACT Today! 6th annual charity golf classic held at the North Ranch Country Club on August 27, 2012 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Tommaso Boddi/WireImage)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - AUGUST 27: Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson (L) and Joe Mantegna attend the ACT Today! 6th annual charity golf classic held at the North Ranch Country Club on August 27, 2012 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Tommaso Boddi/WireImage)
MALIBU, CA - NOVEMBER 03: Actor Joe Mantegna (L) and ACT Today Executive Director Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson arrive at the ACT Today!'s 7th Annual Denim & Diamonds For Autism Benefit on November 3, 2012 in Malibu, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/Getty Images)
MALIBU, CA - NOVEMBER 03: ACT Today Executive Director Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson arrives at the ACT Today!'s 7th Annual Denim & Diamonds For Autism Benefit on November 3, 2012 in Malibu, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/Getty Images)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - OCTOBER 06: Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson attends the 8th annual Denim & Diamonds for Autism at Fours Season Hotel on October 6, 2013 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Tibrina Hobson/WireImage)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - OCTOBER 06: Tom Bergeron and Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson attend the 8th annual Denim & Diamonds for Autism at Fours Season Hotel on October 6, 2013 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Tibrina Hobson/WireImage)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - OCTOBER 06: (L-R) Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson, Alan Thicke and Tanya Callau attend the 8th annual Denim & Diamonds for Autism at Fours Season Hotel on October 6, 2013 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Tibrina Hobson/WireImage)
ANAHEIM, CA - JANUARY 25: Executive Director of Act Today, Nancy Alspaugh-Jackson and 3-Time All-Star pitcher with the Los Angeles Angels of Anaheim, Jered Weaver pose before the 4th Annual Stars and Strikes Celebrity Bowling Tournment at Bowlmor Lanes at Anaheim Garden Walk on January 25, 2015 in Anaheim, California. (Photo by Doug Gifford/Getty Images)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - OCTOBER 22: (L-R) Nancy Alspaugh Jackson, Olivia Newton-John and Dr. Anna Guanche attend the 12th Annual Denim, Diamonds And Stars at Four Seasons Hotel Westlake Village on October 22, 2017 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Robin L Marshall/Getty Images)
WESTLAKE VILLAGE, CA - OCTOBER 22: Nancy Alspaugh Jackson and Edi Patterson attend the 12th Annual Denim, Diamonds And Stars at Four Seasons Hotel Westlake Village on October 22, 2017 in Westlake Village, California. (Photo by Robin L Marshall/Getty Images)
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