Jennifer Lopez reveals the 'sexy AF' text message she got from Alex Rodriguez on their first date

Jennifer Lopez admits that had she refused to step out of her comfort zone, she might not be dating Alex Rodriguez.  

The power couple speaks withVanity Fair's Bethany McLean for the magazine's December issue, and recall how they came to connect after meeting 12 years earlier.

"It was just one of those things where you feel compelled to do something you wouldn’t normally do,” Lopez says, remembering when she spotted Rodriguez in Beverly Hills, California, when she was having lunch. "I could literally just have walked away, but I walk over and tap him on the shoulder and say ‘Hey.’"

The 48-year-old triple threat star notes that, at the time of "the tap," she was dressed as her Shades of Blue character, detective Harlee Santos, but despite her getup, Rodriguez told her, "'You look so beautiful.'"

It wasn't long before Lopez received a call from the former New York Yankees player and they agreed to have dinner, but neither of them was certain it was a date. 

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PARIS, FRANCE - JUNE 18: (L-R) Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are sighted on the 'Ile Saint Louis' near Notre-Dame-De-Paris cathedral on June 18, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/GC Images)
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Jennifer Lopez and her boyfriend Alex Rodriguez visit The Louvre in Paris, France, on June 17, 2017. (Photo by Mehdi Taamallah/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
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"He was sitting there in his white shirt, very confident and manly, but then he was just so talkative!” Lopez shares. "I don’t know if he thought it was a date. I thought it was a date. Then I knew he was nervous because he asked me if I wanted a drink. I said, ‘No, I don’t drink,’ and he asked if I minded if he had one. He was nervous, and it was really cute.”

Rodriguez admits that he felt "uneasy" about the meet-up until he learned that she was on the market. "She told me around the third or fourth inning that she was single,” he quips. “I had to get up and go re-adjust my thoughts. I went to the bathroom and got enough courage to send her a text.”

Lopez says the text read: "'You look sexy AF.'" 

“And then it took a turn,” she continues. “The fire alarm went off, and we had to evacuate. ...No, real­ly. The fire alarm went off!”

Needless to say, these two have been nearly inseparable ever since that first pseudo-date, with Rodriguez pointing out all their similarities. "We are very much twins,” he says. “We’re both Leos; we’re both from New York; we’re both Latino and about 20 other things."

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LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 15: Jennifer Lopez (L) and Alex Rodriguez attend ELLE's 25th Annual Women In Hollywood Celebration presented by L'Oreal Paris, Hearts On Fire and CALVIN KLEIN at Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills on October 15, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for ELLE Magazine)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 30: Alex Rodriguez (L) and Planet Hollywood headliner Jennifer Lopez on the red carpet following the finale performance of her record-breaking residency, 'JENNIFER LOPEZ: ALL I HAVE' on September 30, 2018 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Ethan Miller/Getty Images for Caesars Entertainment)
LAS VEGAS, NV - SEPTEMBER 30: Alex Rodriguez (L) and Jennifer Lopez attend the after party for the finale of the 'JENNIFER LOPEZ: ALL I HAVE' residency at MR CHOW at Caesars Palace on September 30, 2018 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Mindy Small/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 21: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attend Jennifer Lopez's MTV VMA's Vanguard Award Celebration at Beauty & Essex on August 21, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Andrew Toth/Getty Images for TAO Group)
NEW YORK, NY - SEPTEMBER 24: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attend the 33rd Annual Great Sports Legends Dinner, which raised millions of dollars for the Buoniconti Fund to Cure Paralysis at The New York Hilton Midtown on September 24, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images for Buoniconti Fund to Cure Paralysis )
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 20: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez attend the 2018 MTV Video Music Awards at Radio City Music Hall on August 20, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Nicholas Hunt/Getty Images for MTV)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 17: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez seen out and about in Manhattan on August 17, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 16: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leave NBC Studios at Rockefeller Center on August 16, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 02: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leave NBC Studios at Rockefeller Center on August 2, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 10: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez arrive at NBC studios on May 10, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Gotham/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 07: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez seen on the streets of Manhattan on May 07, 2018 in New York, NY. (Photo by Josiah Kamau/BuzzFoto via Getty Images) *** Local Caption *** Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 07: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attends the Heavenly Bodies: Fashion & The Catholic Imagination Costume Institute Gala at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 7, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Jackson Lee/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 07: Jennifer Lopez (L) and Alex Rodriguez attend the Heavenly Bodies: Fashion & The Catholic Imagination Costume Institute Gala at The Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 7, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Kevin Tachman/Getty Images for Vogue)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 07: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attend the Heavenly Bodies: Fashion & The Catholic Imagination Costume Institute Gala at The Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 7, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Frazer Harrison/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez attend the 2018 Time 100 Gala at Jazz at Lincoln Center on April 24, 2018 in New York City.� (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for Time)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez seen in Columbus Circle on their way to the 2018 Time 100 Gala on April 24, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
MIAMI, FL - JANUARY 15: Former New York Yankees third baseman Alex Rodriguez and recording artist Jennifer Lopez kiss during the basketball game between the Duke Blue Devils and the Miami Hurricanes at The Watsco Center on January 15, 2018 in Miami, Florida. (Photo by Eric Espada/Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - AUGUST 26: Actress Jennifer Lopez and former MLB player Alex Rodriguez attend the super welterweight boxing match between Floyd Mayweather Jr. and Conor McGregor on August 26, 2017 at T-Mobile Arena in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Christian Petersen/Getty Images)
EAST HAMPTON, NY - AUGUST 12: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez attend Apollo in the Hamptons 2017: hosted by Ronald O. Perelman at The Creeks on August 12, 2017 in East Hampton, New York. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/Getty Images for The Apollo)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 31: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez at the Guess Spring 2018 Campaign Reveal starring Jennifer Lopez on January 31, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Rachel Murray/Getty Images for Guess, Inc.)
NEW YORK, NY - MARCH 04: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez attend the 'Project Destined' Yankees Shark Tank Presentations at Yankee Stadium on March 4, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Mark Sagliocco/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 25: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez seen out and about together in Manhattan on August 25 , 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 08: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are seen on March 08, 2018 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by gotpap/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MARCH 04: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez attend 'Project Destined' Yankees Shark Tank Presentations at Yankee Stadium on March 4, 2018 in New York City. (Photo by Mark Sagliocco/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 23: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez seen on location for 'Shades of Blue' in Queens on August 23, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
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NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 30: Jennifer Lopez and boyfriend Alex Rodriguez seen leaving the Hunter's Point South Park after performing for a Macy's Fourth Of July Fireworks Spectacular on June 30, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
Jennifer Lopez and Her boyfriend Alex Rodriguez walk through the park of Jardin des Tuileries and seen taking pictures with the Pyramide of Louvre in Paris, France, on June 18, 2017. (Photo by Mehdi Taamallah/Nurphoto)
NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 30: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez seen at the Macy's 4th of July Firework Show at Hunter's Point South Park on June 30, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
PARIS, FRANCE - JUNE 18: (L-R) Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez are sighted on the 'Ile Saint Louis' near Notre-Dame-De-Paris cathedral on June 18, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/GC Images)
PARIS, FRANCE - JUNE 18: (L-R) Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez are sighted near Notre-Dame-De-Paris cathedral on June 18, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/GC Images)
PARIS, FRANCE - JUNE 18: (L-R) Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are sighted near Notre-Dame-De-Paris cathedral on June 18, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/GC Images)
PARIS, FRANCE - JUNE 18: (L-R) Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are sighted on the 'Ile Saint Louis' near Notre-Dame-De-Paris cathedral on June 18, 2017 in Paris, France. (Photo by Marc Piasecki/GC Images)
Jennifer Lopez and her boyfriend Alex Rodriguez (L) and Benny Medina (C) visit The Louvre in Paris, France, on June 17, 2017. (Photo by Mehdi Taamallah/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
Jennifer Lopez in Paris, France, on June 17, 2017. (Photo by Mehdi Taamallah/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
Jennifer Lopez and her boyfriend Alex Rodriguez visit The Louvre in Paris, France, on June 17, 2017. (Photo by Mehdi Taamallah/NurPhoto via Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 08: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leave Carbone on May 8, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 01: Jennifer lopez Alex Rodriguez seen out in Manhattan on May 1, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Robert Kamau/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 01: Professional baseball player Alex Rodriguez (L) and actress Jennifer Lopez leave the Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garcons: Art Of The In-Between' Costume Institute Gala at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 01, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Ray Tamarra/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 01: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attend the 'Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garcons: Art Of The In-Between' Costume Institute Gala at the Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 1, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Karwai Tang/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 01: Jennifer Lopez and Alex Rodriguez attend the 'Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garcons: Art Of The In-Between' Costume Institute Gala at Metropolitan Museum of Art on May 1, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images For Entertainment Weekly)
NEW YORK - APRIL 24: Jennifer Lopez and new boyfriend Alex Rodriguez seen leaving 'The Sea Grill' at Rockefeller after lunch together on April 24, 2017 in New York, New York. (Photo by Josiah Kamau/BuzzFoto via Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are seen in Midtown on April 24, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Gotham/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 24: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez are seen in Midtown on April 24, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Gotham/GC Images)
MIAMI, FL - APRIL 18: (EXCLUSIVE COVERAGE) Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leaving Prime 112 Steakhouse aftre dinner on April 18, 2017 in Miami, Florida. (Photo by Gustavo Caballero/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 03: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leave the Solow Building on April 3, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MARCH 31: Alex Rodriguez and Jennifer Lopez leave Marea restaurant on March 31, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images)
Actress Jennifer Lopez shakes hans with Alex Rodriguez before a subway series game between the New York Mets and the New York Yankees at Shea Stadium in Queens, New York on Saturday May 21, 2005. The Mets beat the Yankees 7-1. (Photo by Mike Ehrmann/WireImage)
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Lopez agrees. "I understand him in a way that I don’t think anyone else could, and he understands me in a way that no one else could ever,” she explains. “In his 20s, he came into big success with the biggest baseball contract [at the time]. I had a No. 1 movie and a No. 1 album and made history. We both had ups and downs and challenges in our 30s, and by our 40s we’d both been through so much. And more importantly than anything, we had both done a lot of work on ourselves.”

Both agree that had they struck up a romance all those years ago, it wouldn't have worked out. "We had to grow and discover ourselves first," Lopez says.

The two have gone through career highs and lows and personal trials in their lives as the public watched, and Lopez confesses that she really struggled when her and then-fiance Ben Affleck's 2003 movie, Gigli, was a total flop. "I was eviscerated," she confides. "I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything. And my relationship [with Affleck] self-destructed in front of the entire world. It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again."

Over a decade later, Lopez is grateful for her relationship with Rodriguez. "A lot of people I’ve met in my life, they don’t appreciate what they’re doing and how amazing it is," she says, noting that Rodriguez once told her he was "livin' the dream."

In an exclusive interview with ET last month, Rodriguez also confessed that he and Lopez don't like spending too much time apart. "It's what it's all about," he gushed. "It's a good time for us and it's great to be supportive and loving towards each other." 

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