Oprah Winfrey says that she and Stedman Graham would not still be together had they gotten married


Oprah Winfrey has no desire to ever be Mrs. Stedman Graham.

In the September issue of Vogue magazine, the 63-year-old star recalls the one time she and Stedman -- her boyfriend of 31 years -- discussed tying the knot. "Nobody believes it, but it's true. The only time I brought it up was when I said to Stedman, 'What would have happened if we had actually gotten married?' And the answer is: 'We wouldn't be together,'" she says. "We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world."

Winfrey further explains, "His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that."

This September, @Oprah will return to broadcast television for the first time since her talk show ended (there was a one-off interview with First Lady @MichelleObama last December on @CBS), joining @60Minutes as a special contributor. But the story of how @Oprah decided to return requires that we first go back to the election of @realdonaldtrump. Two weeks after he won the presidency, @oprahmagazine decided to gather a group of Trump and @hillaryclinton supporters—all women—for a roundtable discussion. Feelings were still so raw that some of the women didn’t even want to sit at the same table. “One said, ‘I’ve never been this close to a Trump supporter,’ ” says @Oprah. “I go: ‘Not that you know of, maybe.’ ” About an hour in, @Oprah could see their guards coming down. “By pressing the conversation in such a way that people could hear each other’s stories without them being politicized, I was able to get those women from different backgrounds to begin to actually hear and feel for each other. By the end of that two and a half hours, I could have gotten them to sing ‘Kumbaya’ for real if I wanted to.” She cracks up. “I really could’ve! OK—everybody hold hands!” Ironically enough, it was the moment when she realized that no one had filmed the discussion that a light switched on: Maybe, just maybe, this is exactly what America needs right now. Tap the link in our bio to read the full interview. Photographed by #AnnieLeibovitz, styled by @phyllis_posnick, produced by @suzannarees, Vogue, September 2017.

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Offering up one of her many Oprah-isms, she adds, "Live life on your own terms."

Winfrey notes that she lives a life of "absolute joyful contentment," which includes couture bathtubs. At her home in Telluride, Colorado, she has a tub that is molded to the shape of her body. "I major in bathtubs," she declares. "I spend my time looking for the best possible bathtub a woman can buy."

The tubs are so nice that even Graham, 66, hasn't been in all of them. "When I was in Chicago, he would ask for permission: 'Can I get in your tub?'" Winfrey quips. "And I would say, 'Mmmmmm. . . . OK.' "

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Talk show host and actress Oprah Winfrey, recipient of the first Bob Hope Humanitarian Award at the 54th annual Emmy Awards September 22, 2002 in Los Angeles, relaxes with companion Stedman Graham at the Governor's Ball following the show. REUTERS/Fred Prouser REUTERS FSP
Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham arrive on the red carpet for the Kennedy Center Honors at the Kennedy Center in Washington, December 5, 2010. Winfrey, former Beatle Paul McCartney, country music legend Merle Haggard, Broadway composer and lyricist Jerry Herman of "Hello Dolly!" fame, and dancer-choreographer-director Bill T. Jones are being honored in this year's instalment of the annual lifetime achievement nods. REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst (UNITED STATES - Tags: POLITICS ENTERTAINMENT MEDIA)
Talk show host Oprah Winfrey reacts to the crowd as she arrives with boyfriend Stedman Graham for the People's Choice Awards January 11 in Santa Monica. Winfrey won Favorite Television Performer at the awards show. This is the third People's Choice Award Winfrey has received. The People's Choice is a show to recognize the public's favorites as determined by polling.
Oprah Winfrey, chairman of Harpo Entertainment Group, left, attends the Allen & Co. Media and Technology Conference with Stedman Graham in Sun Valley, Idaho, U.S., on Thursday, July 7, 2011. Media executives are gathering at Allen & Co.'s Sun Valley conference this week looking to shed assets such as the Hulu LLC video website and G4 game channel amid a declining global stock market and slowing economic growth. Photographer: Peter Foley/Bloomberg via Getty Images
WHITESBORO, NJ - AUGUST 30: Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham recite the Pledge of Allegiance at the 20th Reunion Festival August 30 ,2008 in Whitesboro, New Jersey. (Photo by Donald Kravitz/Getty Images)
WASHINGTON, DC - DECEMBER 4: (AFP OUT) Oprah Winfrey, one of the 2010 Kennedy Center honorees, arrives with Stedman Graham for the formal artist's dinner for the Kennedy Center Honors at the United States Department of State December 4, 2010 in Washington, D.C. (Photo by Ron Sachs-Pool/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - AUGUST 05: Stedman Graham and Oprah Winfrey attend 'The Butler' premiere at Ziegfeld Theater on August 5, 2013 in New York City. (Photo by Gilbert Carrasquillo/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - FEBRUARY 22: Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham arrives at the 87th Annual Academy Awards at Hollywood & Highland Center on February 22, 2015 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Steve Granitz/WireImage)
SANTA BARBARA, CA - DECEMBER 06: Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham attend the 'Selma' and the Legends Who Paved the Way gala at Bacara Resort on December 6, 2014 in Goleta, California. (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - FEBRUARY 22: Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham arrive at the 2015 Vanity Fair Oscar Party Hosted By Graydon Carter at Wallis Annenberg Center for the Performing Arts on February 22, 2015 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic)
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Last September, Winfrey shut down a tabloid report that claimed that she was planning to marry Graham. "Six people who know me well have called today congratulating me or surprised they weren't invited to my wedding," she tweeted. "IT's NOT TRUE!!"

When speaking with TV showrunner Shonda Rhimes on a SuperSoul Sunday episode that aired in 2015, Winfrey revealed when she first realized she didn't want to get married. "The moment he asked me to marry him, I was like 'Oh, God! Now I actually have to get married?'" she recalled, adding that they agreed to postpone their wedding and then never spoke of it again. "But what I realized is, I don't want to be married."

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