EXCLUSIVE: Todd Fisher says mom Debbie Reynolds 'asked for permission' to go after sister Carrie's death


Todd Fisher is opening up about the tragic loss of two of his beloved family members, mom Debbie Reynolds and sister Carrie Fisher, who died just one day apart in December 2016.

While speaking with ET's Nancy O'Dell on Wednesday, the 59-year-old actor revealed that nearly three months later, he's still feeling "a little disoriented," but "doing fine."

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"I think it's important that you grieve and feel it," he said. "No matter if you're famous or not, I think having an event and having movies and pictures and feeling that is a good thing. It's part of the process of grieving."

"There's a freeing sense to all of that," he continued. "At the same time, it's obviously a huge loss and they were my girls."

Todd reflected on the heartbreaking moment when Carrie died after going into cardiac arrest on a plane at the age of 60. He told ET that his mother actually asked him for "permission" to "go" just a few hours after Carrie's death.

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Circa 1956, American actor and singer Debbie Reynolds smiles and holds her infant daughter, Carrie Fisher.

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A newcomer to the ranks of fatherhood, Eddie Fisher was named 'Father of the Year in TV' by the National Father's Day Committee. Mrs. Fisher (Debbie Reynolds) and the children presented Fisher with a handsome photo wallet containing their pictures. Carrie Frances is 19 months and son Todd (L) is 4 months old.

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Actress Debbie Reynolds, still deeply upset over separation from singer Eddie Fisher, was hospitalized here suffering exhaust indigestion. Meanwhile MGM Studios plan to shoot 'around' the actress until here where she is working in The Mating Game. Debbie holds her two children, Carrie and Todd, 8-mos, (right) in this photo made during the current shooting at the site.

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Debbie Reynolds with her daughter Carrie Fisher, 23 months old, smiles as she leaves the house September 9, 1958 to visit friends in Los Angeles, California. Husband Eddie Fisher and Miss Reynolds later revealed their separation.

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Carrie Fisher, 3, gives her mother Debbie Reynolds a hug after her afternoon nap in their home November 16, 1959 in West Los Angeles, California.

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Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher with daughter Carrie Frances born October 21, 1956.

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American actress Debbie Reynolds with her daughter Carrie Fisher.

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Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds.

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Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher during 11th Annual American Comedy Awards at The Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles, California, United States.

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Debbie Reynolds with her children Carrie and Todd Fisher, on the site of the new museum that will house her collection of film costumes.

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Actresses Debbie Reynolds (L) and Carrie Fisher (R) arrive at the premiere of 'Star Wars Episode III: Revenge of the Sith,' at the Loews Cineplex Uptown Theatre May 12, 2005 in Washington, DC. Star Wars premiers are taking place across the country tonight.

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Actress Carrie Fisher (L) and her mother, actress Debbie Reynolds, arrive for Dame Elizabeth Taylor's 75th birthday party at the Ritz-Carlton, Lake Las Vegas on February 27, 2007 in Henderson, Nevada.

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Actress Debbie Reynolds (R) unveils the site of the new Hollywood Motion Picture Collection which will house her $30 million collection of movie costumes and props in Hollywood, June 19, 2001, with daughter Carrie Fisher at her side. The movie memorabilia museum, set to open February 2002, will be located at the Hollywood & Highland development which is also the site of the Kodak Theatre, permanent home of the Academy Awards ceremony. 

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Actresses Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher arrive at the premiere of HBO's documentary 'Wishful Drinking' at Linwood Dunn Theater at the Pickford Center for Motion Study on December 7, 2010 in Hollywood, California.

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Carrie Fisher (L), Debbie Reynolds, and Billie Lourd attend Paley Center & TCM present Debbie Reynolds' Hollywood memorabilia exhibit reception at The Paley Center for Media on June 7, 2011 in Beverly Hills, California.

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Actress Debbie Reynolds (L) and her daughter Carrie Fisher (R) arrive at the 2011 Primetime Creative Arts Emmy Awards in Los Angeles September 10, 2011.

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Actors Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher arrive at the 2011 Primetime Creative Arts Emmy Awards held at the Nokia Theater L.A. Live.

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Actresses Debbie Reynolds, Carrie Fisher and Joely Fisher arrive at the premiere of HBO's documentary 'Wishful Drinking' at Linwood Dunn Theater at the Pickford Center for Motion Study on December 7, 2010 in Hollywood, California.

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Carrie Fisher and Debbie Reynolds attend the all-star gala and press preview of Profiles in History's Debbie Reynolds-The Auction Finale at Debbie Reynolds's Dance Studio on May 14, 2014 in North Hollywood, California.

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Actresses Debbie Reynolds (L), recipient of the Screen Actors Guild Life Achievement Award, and Carrie Fisher pose in the press room at the 21st Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 25, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.

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Actress Carrie Fisher (L) and actress Debbie Reynolds attend TNT's 21st Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 25, 2015 in Los Angeles, California. 

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Actresses Debbie Reynolds (L), recipient of the Screen Actors Guild Life Achievement Award, and Carrie Fisher pose in the press room at the 21st Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 25, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.

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"My mother said to me the night that Carrie died ... we were talking that night and I didn't know what was happening, but she was setting me up for her leaving the planet," he remembered. "And she really just said to me, 'You know, I know that was really hard on you losing your sister.' [And I said], 'I mean, Carrie was there holding my hand when I took my first steps. I have film of that and it will be in the memorial.' And when I was editing that, it ripped my heart out. But my mother said, 'I know that's tough. It might be tougher even, you know... I don't know for sure when I [will] go.'"

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"I was like, 'Well, look, fortunately we don't have to face that right now, you know, we just face this,'" he continued. "But then she was like asking my permission [to go]. I [said], 'You're going to be OK, everything is under control.' And she starts running me back through her estate, which we had done many times. [She's like], 'You're going to take my dog and, you know, all these little instructions.' And [she] even [went through] last-minute changes due to the fact that Carrie left first, as far as the memorial service."

"I thought that we were just going through these events just like one would go back through an estate," Todd added. "But instead the next morning, we had a little further dialogue and she chose to leave the planet in front of my face two feet away. If you had told me this story and I wasn't there, I would have a very hard time believing what I saw. But she literally looked at me and said, 'I want to go be with Carrie' and closed her eyes and went to sleep."

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According to Todd, Debbie made it clear in her estate that she didn't "want a big deal" of a service, and asked that she be cremated when the time came. But the night before she died as a result of a stroke, the former Singin' In the Rain star, 84, "changed the whole game."

"She no longer wanted to be cremated, she wanted to be buried with Carrie," he explained. "Now she wanted the tomb idea that I had brought up long ago and got sunk. 'No, I don't want a big tomb, I don't want to draw any attention to myself,' [she said], but now with Carrie gone she said, 'OK.' So we bought this great tomb over at Forest Lawn [cemetery]. She changed her mind that night."

Todd said the doctors have an actual "fancy, medical term" for situations like this, but he can't make up what he witnessed that night while talking with his mom.

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"I'm telling you what it looked like," he said. "It looked like she asked permission to leave, told me she was going to leave, told me she loves me, closed her eyes and went to sleep."

"That's kind of a magical, beautiful thing," he added. "As much as it's also hard, it's what she wanted."

Todd said that following Debbie's death, he saw a lot of stories in which he was misquoted for saying that his mother had died from a broken heart.

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"I did not actually say that," he confirmed. "The news said she died of a broken heart. I actually contradicted it. I said, 'No, that is not true. She didn't die of a broken heart, she went to be with Carrie. She said those words to me.'"

Todd further broke down that last conversation he had with his mother, telling ET he remembered "her little forehead was crinkled," something she would do "when she was worried."

"I said, 'Whats up?'" he recalled. "She said, 'You know I really love Carrie.' And I said, 'Of course, I understand that.' She said, 'I don't mean I do not love you.' I said, 'You don't need to say that, I get it! You know, you love in different degrees. You don't need to say that.'"

"And she said, 'I really want to be with her,'" he continued. "Those are all the words that were spoken and she closed her eyes. So, she did what she wanted to do. That wasn't like a person that was sitting there saying, 'My heart is broken.' It was not some scene from Macbeth. She truly just understood what happened."

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"It wasn't a mystery to her," he added. "In fact, I'm the one that was crying when I came back from the hospital, not her. She was like, 'Well, you know, I hope that it had gone a different way, but now that it's gone a different way, I'll go be with her.'"

Later in our interview, Todd told ET that to this day, he's "really OK" with "Debbie's exit," but "not so OK" with Carrie's.

"Carrie was in the middle of what was, I thought, her finest hours," he explained. "Her creativity was peaking, the Star Wars thing was obviously back in spades. Everything that she was doing was turning to gold."

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