Jennifer Lopez is fighting the stigma of dating younger men


When Jennifer Lopez started spending time with Drake at the end of last year, they joined the list of "are they or aren't they?" couples. (As in, are they dating or not?) All it took was a little probing from Ellen DeGeneres on Tuesday, and J.Lo opened up a bit about what exactly she and Drake have been up to—and the stigma attached to older women dating younger men.

DeGeneres led into her interrogation by bringing up Lopez's Valentine's Day performance in Vegas. "Who did you spend Valentine's night with after the show? This guy, right here, was it this guy?" DeGeneres pressed, while displaying a photo of Lopez and Drake on the screen. Lopez insisted the two were simply collaborating on a new song.

DeGeneres then showed another photo of the two locked in a hug. "Is that how you write a song?" she asked.

"We were just hanging out," Lopez answered.

"I hang out with a lot of friends, and we never hang out like that," DeGeneres joked.

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The actresses who will portray slain Tejano singer Selena, in an upcoming Warner Bros "Selena," pose together at a news conference June 18. Portraying the younger Selena is ten year old Becky Lee Meza of Texas and Jennifer Lopez (R) as the adult Selena.
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Presenter and nominee Jennifer Lopez shows off her latest fashion at the 42nd annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles February 23. Lopez was nominated for Best Dance Recording for her song ["Waiting For Tonight".]
Singer Jennifer Lopez performs "Love Don't Cost A Thing" at the 28th Annual American Music Awards January 8, 2001 at the Shrine Auditorium in Los Angeles.
Actress and singer Jennifer Lopez makes her way down the red carpet as she arrives at the 74th Academy Awards March 24, 2002 in Hollywood. Lopez is a presenter at this years ceremony. REUTERS/Fred Prouser MB/ME
Actress Jennifer Lopez arrives at the Mann National Theatre in Westwood for the premiere of her new movie "Gigli, July 27, 2003. Lopez and boyfriend Ben Affleck play mob enforcers involved in the kidnapping of a prosecutor's brother in order to help save a mob boss from going to prison. The movie opens August 1. REUTERS/Mike Blake MB
U.S. singer and actress Jennifer Lopez arrives for the worldwide premier of Pepsi's latest advertisement in Madrid, February 23, 2005. U.S. singer Beyonce Knowles, England soccer captain and Real Madrid star David Beckham and Jennifer Lopez all starred in the advert. REUTERS/Andrea Comas ACO/GB
Jennifer Lopez waves to the crowd as she opens the first-ever "World of JLO" shop in the U.S. in Marshall Field's Chicago State Street Store September 22, 2005. The shop houses the entire JLO and Sweetface collections, intimates, fragrances, jewelry and accessories. REUTERS/John Gress
U.S. singer and actress Jennifer Lopez arrives for Dolce & Gabbana Fall/Winter 2006/07 women's collections show at Milan Fashion Week February 23, 2006. REUTERS/Damir Sagolj
Singer Jennifer Lopez arrives for the Metropolitan Museum of Art Costume Institute Benefit Gala "Anglomania" at the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York May 1, 2006. The gala presents a range of work by British fashion designers. REUTERS/Keith Bedford
Singer Marc Anthony and wife, singer and actress Jennifer Lopez, arrive at the 7th annual Latin Grammy Awards in New York November 2, 2006. REUTERS/Lucas Jackson (UNITED STATES)
U.S. actress and singer Jennifer Lopez smiles during a news conference to present her film 'Bordertown' running in competition at the 57th Berlinale International Film Festival in Berlin February 15, 2007. The festival runs from February 8-18. REUTERS/Arnd Wiegmann (GERMANY)
Singer Jennifer Lopez performs during the 2007 Fashion Rocks Concert at Radio City Music Hall in New York September 6, 2007. REUTERS/Lucas Jackson (UNITED STATES)
Singer and actress Jennifer Lopez poses at the premiere of the movie "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button" at the Mann's Village theatre in Westwood, California December 8, 2008. The movie opens in the U.S. on December 25. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES)
Jennifer Lopez smiles on stage after being announced as one the judges for the 10th season of the television show "American Idol" at the Forum in Inglewood, California September 22, 2010. The new season begins on FOX January 2011. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)
Singer Jennifer Lopez arrives at the 53rd annual Grammy Awards in Los Angeles, California February 13, 2011. REUTERS/Danny Moloshok (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT) (GRAMMYS-ARRIVALS)
Singer Jennifer Lopez accepts the Favorite Latin Music Artist award at the 2011 American Music Awards in Los Angeles November 20, 2011. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT) (AMA-SHOW)
Singer Jennifer Lopez performs during a concert that is part of her "Dance Again World Tour" in Berlin October 13, 2012. REUTERS/Thomas Peter (GERMANY - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)
Actress and pop star Jennifer Lopez arrives with boyfriend Casper Smart at the 70th annual Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills, California January 13, 2013. REUTERS/Jason Redmond (UNITED STATES - Tags: Entertainment) (GOLDENGLOBES-ARRIVALS)
Singer and actress Jennifer Lopez blows a kiss at photographers as she poses on her star after it was unveiled on the Walk of Fame in Hollywood, California June 20, 2013. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)
Singer Jennifer Lopez performs "First Love" onstage at the 2014 Billboard Music Awards in Las Vegas, Nevada May 18, 2014. REUTERS/Steve Marcus (UNITED STATES-Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)(BILLBOARDAWARDS-SHOW)
Judge Jennifer Lopez reacts as balloons fall during the American Idol XIII 2014 Finale in Los Angeles, California May 21, 2014. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT) (AMERICANIDOL-SHOW)
Jennifer Lopez performs "Booty" during the 42nd American Music Awards in Los Angeles, California November 23, 2014. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT) (MUSIC-AMERICANMUSICAWARDS-SHOW)
Singer Jennifer Lopez wears a gown by Elie Saab as she arrives at the 87th Academy Awards in Hollywood, California February 22, 2015. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT) (OSCARS-ARRIVALS)
Actress Jennifer Lopez and singer Harry Connick Jr attend Fox's American Idol XIV Finalist Party at The District Restaurant in Los Angeles, California March 11, 2015. REUTERS/Jonathan Alcorn (UNITED STATES - Tags: ENTERTAINMENT)
Singer Jennifer Lopez arrives at the 2015 Billboard Music Awards in Las Vegas, Nevada May 17, 2015. REUTERS/L.E. Baskow
Actress Jennifer Lopez arrives at the 73rd Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills, California January 10, 2016. REUTERS/Mario Anzuoni
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The singer got serious when DeGeneres mentioned that "people make a big deal" about the fact that the singer dates younger men (she is 47; Drake is 30).

"O.K., first of all, stop," Lopez said. "It's not like you have to be younger, it's not about that. I just meet people, and if I go out with them, I go out with them, and if I like them, I like them, and if I don't, I don't. It's just about the person. It's about who they are. It has nothing to do with age."

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Lopez's recent romance with 29-year-old Casper Smart was a favorite topic of conversation about May-December love. The two, who broke up in August, are 18 years apart in age. In April of 2012, her friend Benny Medinatold Vogue that though Lopez understood the significant age difference in the relationship, her main concern was that she was happy.

"She's not oblivious to her own reality right now, as in, 'Damn, I'm 42 with a 24-year-old,' Medina said at the time. "She was just like, 'It's not even the age, Benny. It's actually that I just came out of a relationship [with ex husband Marc Anthony] where I felt like I was kind of not getting what I needed.' "

Lopez told DeGeneres that after she dated Smart, she got labeled as a woman who goes after younger men. In her opinion, that label—and the stigma surrounding it—should not exist.

"If they're older, they're older. If they're younger, they're younger," she said. "It doesn't matter. It's whether or not I'm attracted to them or not, attracted to their spirit, their soul, whatever their energy is."

Watch it here.

See J.Lo's recent look at the GRAMMYs:

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Recording artist-actor Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Actress/Singer Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Actress/Singer Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Recording artist Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Recording artist-actor Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Entertainer Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Entertainer Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Singer/actor Jennifer Lopez attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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Recording artist-actor Jennifer Lopez, fashion detail, attends The 59th GRAMMY Awards at STAPLES Center on February 12, 2017 in Los Angeles, California.

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