Andi Dorfman responds to Josh Murray's claim that her book is a 'fictional novel'

Andi Dorfman Discusses Her Intentions For Writing A Book

By: Chelsea Huang and Gibson Johns

When former "Bachelorette" Andi Dorfman released her tell-all book, "It's Not Okay," earlier this month, headlines ran rampant about revelations she divulged about season winner and former fiancé Josh Murray.

So it came as no surprise when Murray publicly denounced the work as a "fictional novel." Dorfman, a former assistant district attorney in her home state of Georgia, had a swift and pointed response to her ex.

"It's kind of funny because every novel is fictional, am I right? I just wanted to make sure I was right in that a novel is always fictional. Got it. Okay, cool. My response is that there's no such thing as a non-fictional novel," she said in an exclusive interview with AOL.

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LAS VEGAS, NV - MAY 17: Television personalitites Chris Harrison (L) and Andi Dorfman arrive at the official pre-party for the 2014 Billboard Music Awards at Hyde Bellagio at the Bellagio on May 17, 2014 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by David Becker/Billboard Awards 2014/Getty Images for DCP)
THE BACHELORETTE - Andi Dorfman, 26, a beautiful and successful woman, has it all at first glance - her loving family, her great friends, and even her dream job. But she realized there was something missing. So, last September, she put her busy life on hold to try and find love on 'The Bachelor.' She thought she had found her match, but in the end it was not meant to be, and Andi walked away from Juan Pablo. She did not, however, let that experience stop her desire to find her perfect soul mate. Andi will embark on her own journey to find love when she stars in the tenth edition of 'The Bachelorette,' which will premiere MONDAY, MAY 19 (9:30 - 11:00 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. (Photo by Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty Images)
LAS VEGAS, NV - MAY 18: TV personality Andi Dorfman attends the 2014 Billboard Music Awards at the MGM Grand Garden Arena on May 18, 2014 in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Photo by Frazer Harrison/Getty Images)
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NEW YORK, NY - JULY 29: Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray from 'The Bachelorette' are seen on July 29, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by Raymond Hall/GC Images)
ATLANTA, GA - AUGUST 08: (EXCLUSIVE COVERAGE) Television personality Andi Dorfman and television personality Josh Murray attend a surprise birthday party for Josh Murray thrown by fiance Bachelorette Andi Dorfman at The Painted Pin on August 8, 2014 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Ben Rose/Getty Images for The Painted Pin)
LOS ANGELES, CA - SEPTEMBER 04: Television personality Andi Dorfman attends Clayton Kershaw's 2nd Annual Ping Pong 4 Purpose charity event benefiting 'Kershaw's Challenge' at Dodger Stadium on September 4, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Imeh Akpanudosen/Getty Images)
ATLANTA, GA - SEPTEMBER 16: Andi Dorfman (engagement ring detail) attends the advanced screening of 'The Equalizer' at AMC Phipps Plaza on September 16, 2014 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Prince Williams/FilmMagic)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - JANUARY 05: Reality TV Personality Andi Dorfman attends ABC's 'The Bachelor' season 19 premiere at Line 204 East Stages on January 5, 2015 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by Paul Archuleta/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - JULY 21: Reality TV personality, Andi Dorfman is photographed for Resident Magazine on July 21, 2015 in New York City. PUBLISHED IMAGE. (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images Portrait)
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NEW YORK, NY - MAY 24: Andi Dorfman visits 'Extra' at their New York studios at H&M in Times Square on May 24, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by D Dipasupil/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 24: TV personality Andi Dorfman attends the 'It's Not Okay' book release party at Gansevoort Park Avenue on May 24, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Michael Stewart/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 25: Andi Dorfman attends AOL Build Speaker Series to discuss her book 'It's Not Okay' at AOL Studios In New York on May 25, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Laura Cavanaugh/FilmMagic)
NEW YORK, NY - MAY 26: Andi Dorfman appears on Amazon's Style Code Live on May 26, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Craig Barritt/Getty Images for Amazon)

Despite Murray's public reaction to the book, Dorfman said she hasn't heard from him directly -- or her controversial ex, Nick Viall, for that matter.

"We're all exes, we all totally live separate lives. Everyone's kind of doing their own thing. No one needs to ask permission. It's all good," she said.

Dorfman definitely practices what she preaches. Shortly after she broke it off with Murray in January 2015, he sent her a text. In her book, she revealed that her friend Kelly read it for her -- but to this day, Dorfman doesn't want to know what the message said.

"She never told me. I don't want to know. Isn't that what everyone can relate to? The situations where you see the name on your phone and your stomach just sinks."

Those moments of relatability are exactly why Dorfman decided to write about her experience on the "Bachelor," "Bachelorette" and aftermath -- to bring "authenticity" to the heightened world of dating.

One thing that's definitely unique to the show, however, is its complete disregard for "girl code" or "guy code." When asked if she was mad at Kaitlyn for bringing Nick Viall onto her season, Dorfman laughed off the idea. After all, all's fair in love and war ... especially when it comes to reality television.

"I wasn't offended by any means by it. He had every right to go back and pursue Kaitlyn. It's kind of like -- there is no girl code or guy code when it comes to 'Bachelor' or 'Bachelorette.' We start off breaking off the girl or guy code! You're dating the same person. It's so incestual that you can't claim girl code," she said.

There are no hard feelings, though. Dorfman said she values what she learned about humility and respect from interacting with so many people on the show.

Dorfman, whose parents consciously raised her to be as independent as possible, may have gotten through the experience with ease and relatively unscathed -- but her parents, Hy and Patti, had a tougher time watching their daughter (and themselves) on screen.

"The 'Bachelor', especially watching it, was awful. She was one of 25. I know my daughter -- she's not one of 25. But when she was on the 'Bachelorette', she was in control," Hy said.

"I was very naive because I had never seen the show and we really didn't know what to expect ... Personally, I wish I was better prepared knowing the show or the formula, and I probably would have enjoyed the experience more," Patti added.

But knowing their daughter and how they raised her, Hy and Patty admitted that they have 0 percent say in what she does -- and it all turned out just fine.

So would Dorfman be open to a "redemption" or "all stars" season of sorts?

"No. I wouldn't," she said. "Not out of any type of bitterness because it didn't work out for me. I loved doing the show. At the end of the day, I did fall in love. I learned plenty of lessons. I don't think I want to sour that experience."

Now that she's single in NYC, (which she says is a more sophisticated and more "aggressive" dating world than Atlanta), she's letting the past be the past and not allowing herself to be "damaged."

"I don't want one relationship to affect the rest of my relationships for the rest of my life," she said. "It's not fair to me, and it's not fair to anyone in the future, either, to put this dark cloud on my next relationship just because one didn't work out."

She also offered a piece of advice to this season's bachelorette, JoJo Fletcher.

"I would say like have fun. It's so simple, but it's so easy to get wrapped into everything, especially as the lead. Going on so many dates. You're kind of responsible for all of these guys and the logistics of everything and you forget to just have fun."

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