Dad-to-be reveals how heartbreaking it can be trying to conceive in raw, emotional Facebook post

This Soon-to-Be Dad Reveals What It's Really Like to Try to Conceive

For millions of Americans, getting pregnant isn't easy.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about one in nine couples struggle to conceive.

Dan Majesky and his wife, Leah, were a part of that statistic for a long time.


But after more than three years of trying, the couple is finally expecting.

Majesky took to Facebook to share a photo of his wife's sonogram. "We are pregnant. ... Arms and legs and moving around," he wrote. "We're very excited, but I'll be holding my breath for 26ish weeks."


He described the rounds of medical visits, different hormone therapies, failed pregnancy tests and the emotions that came with each step.

One of those emotions — jealousy.

"So you wait. And it's negative, but you hope, and you see your friends getting pregnant, and you get a little sad," he wrote. "But you get mad at yourself because you want to feel happy for other people, and that's not fair to them. And then the 17-year-old across the street gets pregnant, and you get a little sadder. And your cousins get pregnant, and you get a little sadder."

Perhaps the most devastating part of the process for Majesky and his wife — hearing a heartbeat one day, and not the next.

"People lose babies all the time. Miscarriage. But no one talks about it," he wrote. "No one gets on Facebook and tells their friends."

The dad-to-be's sincere honesty could be why this Facebook post has blown up over the past few days.

Since being posted on May 20, the photo has been shared over 5,000 times and has racked up nearly 40,000 likes.

Some commenters have even opened up about their similar stories in the comments.

"Just found this through a friend," Ryan Phillips wrote. "Other than the miscarriage (I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and I can't even begin to imagine how hard that is), your story is eerily similar to mine. We too struggled with fertility for just over 3 years."

"It's not often that we hear hear about miscarriage and infertility...let alone from a male perspective," commented Andi Ploehs. "But I love that you can be so honest. We also have been trying to get preggo for 22 months and have unexplained fertility. After our first IUI we got pregnant but miscarried. After our second we got preggo and miscarried again. Two miscarriages in four months."

Majesky acknowledged many couples have faced even tougher obstacles in their quest to start a family and said, "I hesitate to share this because I don't want anyone to read this and feel what we felt, watching others' dreams come true."

But thankfully, for the Majesky family, that dream is coming true — it's a girl, and she's due in November!

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Dad-to-be reveals how heartbreaking it can be trying to conceive in raw, emotional Facebook post
Group portrait of 55 children, all born via in vitro fertilization, and their mothers, Norfolk, Virginia, 1985. Standing at center right are married doctors Georgeanna Jones (1913 - 2005) and Howard W. Jones, Jr., who pioneered the technique in the US. The baby in Howard Jones's arms is Elizabeth Jordan Carr, the first IVF baby born in the US. (Photo by Robert Sherbow/The LIFE Images Collection via Getty Images/Getty Images)
LONDON - MARCH 12: Professor of Fertility Studies at Imperial College School of Medicine Lord Robert Winston poses while at the IRDB Building,Hammersmith Hospital,London,England on the 12th of March 2004.(Photo by Cambridge Jones/Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - NOVEMBER 2002: Amy Williams, 34, injects herself in her stomach with drugs to stimulate her production of eggs as part of her IVF treatment for infertility. She gives herself the injections at home each day for between two and three weeks. (Photo by Tina Stallard/Getty Images)
Mrs. Jennifer McDonald with her two four week old IVF twins Saskia and Oliver (right). November 29, 1994. (Photo by Elizabeth Dobbie/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
Sandra Dill for story on women on the IVF program. May 08, 1989. (Photo by Peter Rae/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
Dr. Robert Jansen at the Sydney IVF Clinic for his press conference this evening. July 8, 1988. (Photo by Mark Douglas Baker/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
ROYAL OAK, UNITED STATES - JANUARY 01: Parents of the first in-vitro quintuplets, Raymond & Michelle L'Esperance with their baby quints. (Photo by Taro Yamasaki/The LIFE Images Collection via Getty Images/Getty Images)
On the IVF scheme.L to R Margaret Brooks & son John, Patricia Foertsch & son Lucus, Marion Bell & son Andrew, Barbara Burton & daughter Monique at channel 9 after being on the Ray Martin show. March 16, 1987. (Photo by David Richard Trood/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
David Van Gent looks and acts just like any other baby approaching his first birthday - but the happy milestone will be celebrated by more people than just his family and friends.Doctors and Nurses at Royal North Shore Hospital, for instance, will remember the day of his birth well.David was NSW's first test-tube baby - born on May 12 last year - the first of 14 births in the hospital's in-vitro fertilisation program.His mother, Mrs. Lida Van Gent,said yesterday: "After so long, it's wonderful to have our own baby - and there are many other couples who are indebted. forever to the hospital for the chance to have a family."Another test-tube baby is due next week, and altogether 25 women are expecting. May 6, 1984. (Photo by Julian Kevin Zakaras/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
Picture taken on February 2, 1961 at Paris, showing Italian scientist and medical researcher Daniele Petrucci. (Photo by - / AFP) (Photo credit should read -/AFP/Getty Images)
NSW's First Test Tube Baby Two Baby And Parents.L to R..The Team Responsible For The Baby.Dr. Peter McDougall, paediatrician, Dr. Ric Porter, Obstutrician, Sister Diana Craven, sister in charge of fertility clinic, Dr. John Kemp, Gyneocologist, Prof. Douglas Saunders Head of the dept, o and g.Sister Mary Beadle IVF CO otrdinator, Dr. David Smith, obstutrician and Gyneocologist and Dr. Ian Pike scientific officer.With the Van Gent's being surrounded by the press. May 12, 1983. (Photo by Paul Matthews/Fairfax Media via Getty Images).
Doctor Robert Edwards holding baby Louise Joy Brown with the midwife and Doctor Patrick Edwards at Oldham General Hospital, Lancashire. The baby is the world's first to be conceived by in vitro fertilization. (Photo by Keystone/Getty Images)
British nurse and embryologist Jean Purdy (1945 - 1985) and physiologist Robert Edwards in their research laboratory in Cambridge, 28th February 1968. Purdy is handing Edwards a dish taken from an incubator, containing human egg cells, which have been fertilized outside the body. Purdy, Edwards and obstetrician Patrick Steptoe worked together to develop the techniques of in-vitro fertilisation (IVF), with the first test-tube baby, being born nine years later in 1978. (Photo by Central Press/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
1st March 1969: Dr Robert Edwards with his team at Cambridge in the early days of research into in vitro fertilisation. (Photo by Central Press/Getty Images)
NEW YORK - AUGUST 15: Doctors perform a laparoscopy on a woman August 15, 1988 in preparation for in vitro fertilization. (Photo by Yvonne Hemsey/Getty Images)
Louise Brown (top) from England, the first in-vitro baby born 15 years ago, hugs other children born with the help of in-vitro fertilization during a get together at Columbia-Presbyterian Hospital to promote the program 05 October 1993. With Brown, from L to R, are Laura Valenti, 2, Phoebe Maddox, 2, and Monica Hendricks, 5. (Photo credit should read RACHEL COBB/AFP/Getty Images)
Nepalese nurses care for the countries first test-tube twin babies (C) at the In-Vitro Fertilization Centre of Om Hospital near Kathmandu 04 March 2005. Kumudini Koirala gave birth to twince baby boys weighing 2.7kg and 3kg respectively. The births came as good news for Nepal, which has been in a state of crisis since King Gyanendra seized power on 01February, and launched a crackdown on the independent media amid an increasingly deadly Maoist insurgency. AFP PHOTO/DEVENDRA M SINGH (Photo credit should read DEVENDRA M SINGH/AFP/Getty Images)
Lehman Best holds a photo of the couple's two healthiest embryos before in vitro fertilization at North Carolina Center for Reproductive Medicine in Cary on Friday, October 12, 2007. Best jokes about 'little Lehman and Lanelle' as he cradles the photo of the embryos. (Photo by Juli Leonard/Raleigh News & Observer/MCT via Getty Images)
NANTES, FRANCE - MARCH 23: Staff work in a hospital on March 23, 2011 in Nantes, France. The center of medically assisted procreation Hospital of Nantes is the first center in France to benefit from renting an Embryoscope for conducting an international collaborative study. The Embryoscope consists of an incubator to receive the embryo; in the incubator a microscope is installed to continuously visualize the development of the embryo on the computer screen. Instead of leaving the embryo in the incubator for observation under the microscope as it is today, this very high-tech equipment meets all the conditions necessary for its cultivation by guaranteeing a stable environment. Embryoscope is developed by the Danish company Unisense Fertilitech and should improve the chances of success of IVF. The center of medically assisted procreation from Nantes hospital performs each year about 1,100 attempts at in vitro fertilization, which places it among the top ten French centers. (Photo by Alain DENANTES/Gamma-Rapho via Getty Images)
A technician works on in vitro fertilization (IVF) for livestock in the genetic research and development center at the Blanca From The Pyrenees dairy farm, partnered with Ponderosa Holsteins, in Els Hostalets de Tost, Spain, on Thursday, June 4, 2015. Global production of milk, cheese and butter will rise to records this year, according to the U.S. Department of Agriculture. Photographer: Pau Barrena/Bloomberg via Getty Images
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