14 reasons an open relationship might be the answer to your marital problems

Have you ever been in that harrowing kind of situation where you love two people at once, or you have a partner you care about but you want freedom to explore? In many cases, being in a relationship means that you can't do either of these -- you have agreed to carry on a monogamous lifestyle, and that's the way it has to be, right?

Well, not necessarily.

14 spouses took to Whisper, the popular app that provides an anonymous platform for people to share their most honest thoughts, to explain how, and why, an open marriage really works.

1. It may not seem this way to an outsider, but many open couples see their freedom as a strength to their relationship, not a weakness:

Being in an open marriage is the best thing my wife and I have ever done for each other.... Next to getting married...

2. Sometimes, taking the pressure to be perfect away can make everything a lot easier:

My wife and I have an open marriage. Frankly, our relationship and marriage now much better than it was before.

3. Being 'open' can allow you to feel like you haven't just chosen one life, you can continue to explore:

I love being in an open marriage. I have the freedom I need, and the stability at home that most people envy. It

4. Is it healthy to use your open relationship to fill a void?

My husband and I have an open marriage, he

5. You can even be happy for your spouse when he or she is involved with a healthy fling:

My marriage is open. I am seeing a woman I really like, but nothing would make me happier than to see my husband find someone too.

6. Could you watch your partner get all dressed and ready for a date with someone other than you?

I have an open marriage love watching my wife dress up so she can go on a date

7. The key to any healthy relationship is honesty:

I have an open marriage and it is so much fun. We love sharing all our juicy details with each other! All about honesty and communication!

8. Although you may be on the same page with boundaries, if one member of the couple doesn't have as much success in dating outside the marriage, it could make for an awkward situation:

Being in an open marriage is tough. Especially when I

9. You can get to experience different sides of your partner when you have an open relationship:

My husband and I have an open marriage. I

10. From the perspective of someone in a successful open relationship, a monogamous marriage might seem strange:

being in an open marriage is the best! I swear I don

11. Just because your marriage is open doesn't mean you have to seek out an extramarital relationship:


12. Being available doesn't mean you're looking to go home with someone:

I don

13. Just because your marriage is open doesn't mean that you and your spouse don't know each other better than anyone else:

I love being in an open marriage. I

14. Is your open marriage a genuine desire, or a defense mechanism?

My husband and I have an open marriage, the only reason I agreed to it is so I know instead of him cheating behind my back.

Peruse Whisper if you want to hear more shocking confessions from open spouses!

Get even more perspective on an open marriage:
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