Women open up about issues with maternity leave

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While having a newborn baby can be an extremely exciting and happy time, taking maternity leave after giving birth can cause stress, anxiety, and financial dilemmas. As the United States federal government does not mandate paid maternity leave, many new mothers are forced to either go back to work too soon after having a baby or to endure a financial struggle while attempting to take care of a newborn.

In addition, maternity leave is only job-protected for twelve weeks in the United States. Mothers who go into labor early or need more time off due to complications risk losing their jobs. Even if their jobs remain secure, new parents are often nervous about going back to work after time off to find their offices completely changed and their job security on risky territory.

In addition, new parents often feel torn between wanting to go back to work and wanting to stay home with their babies. Maternity leave in the United States is an ongoing controversial topic that has yet to see much reform. Therefore, several new mothers took to Whisper, the popular app that provides an anonymous platform for people to share their most honest thoughts, to share some shocking confessions about their struggles with maternity leave.


Some bosses just aren't as understanding as one would expect.

I called my boss to tell him that I was in labor and would have to start my maternity leave a few days early. He told me to "hold it in. Maternity leave doesn't start until Monday," and I "had enough notice."
I called my boss to tell him that I was in labor and would have to start my maternity leave a few days early. He told me to "hold it in. Maternity leave doesn't start until Monday," and I "had enough notice."


A lack of paid maternity leave can severely uproot an entire family.

I'm a single mom and I didn't get maternity leave when I had my son 3 months ago. We're getting evicted in 10 days. I've never known pain like this.
I'm a single mom and I didn't get maternity leave when I had my son 3 months ago. We're getting evicted in 10 days. I've never known pain like this.


Being on maternity leave can often cause extra stress upon returning to the office.

On maternity leave and just found out when I go back the only open shifts now are ones where I'll never get to see my family.
On maternity leave and just found out when I go back the only open shifts now are ones where I'll never get to see my family.


It's anxiety-provoking to be at home knowing that things in the office are changing without you.

I only took 3 weeks maternity leave. In that time my job hired a bunch of new people and now I feel out of place. I wish I could just stay home with my baby.
I only took 3 weeks maternity leave. In that time my job hired a bunch of new people and now I feel out of place. I wish I could just stay home with my baby.


The anxiety can make maternity leave somewhat bittersweet.

I'm loving every minute of my maternity leave but I'm worried about being out of the loop when I go back to work
I'm loving every minute of my maternity leave but I'm worried about being out of the loop when I go back to work


Many women are tempted to become stay-at-home parents after experiencing maternity leave.

I've only got 2 weeks of maternity leave left. I'm dreading going back to work. I wish I could stay home, raise my son and take care of my husband.
I've only got 2 weeks of maternity leave left. I'm dreading going back to work. I wish I could stay home, raise my son and take care of my husband.


They may fear losing the bond they've established with their babies after going back to work.

Been on maternity leave for 2 months, now I'm going back to work I'm deathly afraid my daughter won't know me and know my mom more, bc my job I work all kinds of hours
Been on maternity leave for 2 months, now I'm going back to work I'm deathly afraid my daughter won't know me and know my mom more, bc my job I work all kinds of hours


It can be difficult to commit to work again when their minds are on their precious newborns at home.

Three months of maternity leave isn't enough time. I miss my baby and I don't want to be at work right now
Three months of maternity leave isn't enough time. I miss my baby and I don't want to be at work right now


Especially when they aren't even granted maternity leave despite remaining loyal to their companies for years.

Worked for the same company for 3 years. I was told I'm not getting a maternity leave....
Worked for the same company for 3 years. I was told I'm not getting a maternity leave....


And when companies do grant maternity leave, they may resent those who take it.

I've been on maternity leave for 4 months and my work sent me a termination of employment email yesterday.
I've been on maternity leave for 4 months and my work sent me a termination of employment email yesterday.


Women may feel pressured to go back to work even when their babies aren't ready to part with them yet.

I can only afford to take a 4 week maternity leave. My daughter is 2 weeks old tomorrow and neither one of us is ready for me to be away. I'd rather be poor but no one likes a welfare leech.
I can only afford to take a 4 week maternity leave. My daughter is 2 weeks old tomorrow and neither one of us is ready for me to be away. I'd rather be poor but no one likes a welfare leech.


The lack of security that often accompanies maternity leave is infuriating.

Today I got illegally fired from my job. I took maternity leave for 7 weeks and they told me they didn't have available positions. I'm going to sue.
Today I got illegally fired from my job. I took maternity leave for 7 weeks and they told me they didn't have available positions. I'm going to sue.


Those with unpaid maternity leave have to worry about finances in addition to taking care of a newborn.

I wish maternity leave was paid cuz I really don't know how we're gonna afford to survive once I have our baby
I wish maternity leave was paid cuz I really don't know how we're gonna afford to survive once I have our baby


Being treated unfairly by employers during maternity leave can lead to a lack of confidence.

Being laid off from work while on maternity leave was one of the worse things to happen to me.  How can I show confidence in an interview when I don't have any?
Being laid off from work while on maternity leave was one of the worse things to happen to me. How can I show confidence in an interview when I don't have any?


There's judgment on both sides of the spectrum. Working mothers often feel that they just can't win either way.

When I took a year maternity leave I got criticized. I go back to work and get criticized for not being with my daughter.  People just love to criticize.
When I took a year maternity leave I got criticized. I go back to work and get criticized for not being with my daughter. People just love to criticize.


For more maternity leave confessions, check out Whisper.

Watch this video to learn more about the difficulties of maternity leave in the United States:

Maternity Leave In The U.S. Is In A Sad State Of Affairs
Maternity Leave In The U.S. Is In A Sad State Of Affairs


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