Alzheimer's Foundation offers tips on celebrating with the disease

Mothers Day can be one of the best days of the year.

It can also be a tough one.

According to the National Institutes of Health, women account for two-thirds of Americans living with Alzheimer's disease. For families dealing with that, it can make every day stressful, including nice holidays.

The Alzheimer's Foundation of America is working to help people through the struggle.

“Mother’s Day is all about honoring the mother figures in our lives who loved, nurtured, and supported us. If a special woman in your life lives with dementia, taking a few small steps will go a long way to help her feel the love and appreciation she deserves on Mother’s Day,”  Jennifer Reeder, LCSW, AFA’s Director of Educational and Social Services, said. “Making a few minor adaptations can help celebrate the bond you share with your loved one in a dementia-friendly manner.”

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That's why AFA put together a list of ways families dealing with the disease can celebrate the holiday.

Make your own Mother’s Day card

The group suggests writing a Mother’s Day card and reading it aloud to loved ones. "Even if they can no longer grasp the full meaning, the act of writing and sharing it can uplift your spirits and those of your loved one."

Create memories using strengths-based, person-centered approach

"Quality time together is one of the best Mother’s Day gifts. When planning activities, take a strengths-based and person-centered approach and incorporate what the person can currently do, and what they presently choose to do. Focus on those things that are pleasurable and let go of activities that may be too stressful."

Reminisce together

"Familiar faces and old photos can bring joy and comfort to someone living with dementia, even if the person can’t remember the names. It’s a good way to connect with your loved one and evoke positive memories. Look at old photos together and describe them for your loved one as you go through them: for example, who the people are, or what the occasion was. Avoid asking questions like, “do you remember?”  that can embarrass someone living with a memory disorder.  Be patient and attentive when listening to your loved one’s stories and memories. Validate their feelings and experiences, even if they don't align with reality. This validation reinforces the feeling of being heard and understood."

Adapt old favorites

"Dementia-related illnesses can impact a person’s ability to do things as they previously did, so it’s important to be flexible, creative, and patient. If the person once loved going to a certain restaurant, for example, order food from the establishment instead and have a feast at home. Break down complex activities into simpler, more manageable steps.  If your loved one enjoyed cooking, focus on tasks like mixing ingredients rather than following elaborate recipes."

Give the gift of flowers

"Flowers are a very popular Mother’s Day gift, and they can be especially beneficial for someone living with dementia. The scent can help improve mood, promote positive feelings, and stimulate the brain. Flowers also have a calming effect that reduces agitation and stress. Purchase a bouquet of fresh flowers, (preferably those that are non-toxic to humans or pets, such as roses, orchids, or sunflowers) set the flowers on a table, and enjoy their fragrance together."

What is Alzheimer’s Disease?

According to the Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's is a type of dementia that affects memory, thinking and behavior. Symptoms eventually grow severe enough to interfere with daily tasks.

This article originally appeared on Asbury Park Press: Celebrating Mother's Day while living with Alzheimer's Disease