Dad-to-be reveals how heartbreaking it can be trying to conceive in raw, emotional Facebook post

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This Soon-to-Be Dad Reveals What It's Really Like to Try to Conceive

For millions of Americans, getting pregnant isn't easy.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about one in nine couples struggle to conceive.

Dan Majesky and his wife, Leah, were a part of that statistic for a long time.

But after more than three years of trying, the couple is finally expecting.

Majesky took to Facebook to share a photo of his wife's sonogram. "We are pregnant. ... Arms and legs and moving around," he wrote. "We're very excited, but I'll be holding my breath for 26ish weeks."

He described the rounds of medical visits, different hormone therapies, failed pregnancy tests and the emotions that came with each step.

One of those emotions — jealousy.

"So you wait. And it's negative, but you hope, and you see your friends getting pregnant, and you get a little sad," he wrote. "But you get mad at yourself because you want to feel happy for other people, and that's not fair to them. And then the 17-year-old across the street gets pregnant, and you get a little sadder. And your cousins get pregnant, and you get a little sadder."

Perhaps the most devastating part of the process for Majesky and his wife — hearing a heartbeat one day, and not the next.

"People lose babies all the time. Miscarriage. But no one talks about it," he wrote. "No one gets on Facebook and tells their friends."

The dad-to-be's sincere honesty could be why this Facebook post has blown up over the past few days.

Since being posted on May 20, the photo has been shared over 5,000 times and has racked up nearly 40,000 likes.

Some commenters have even opened up about their similar stories in the comments.

"Just found this through a friend," Ryan Phillips wrote. "Other than the miscarriage (I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and I can't even begin to imagine how hard that is), your story is eerily similar to mine. We too struggled with fertility for just over 3 years."

"It's not often that we hear hear about miscarriage and infertility...let alone from a male perspective," commented Andi Ploehs. "But I love that you can be so honest. We also have been trying to get preggo for 22 months and have unexplained fertility. After our first IUI we got pregnant but miscarried. After our second we got preggo and miscarried again. Two miscarriages in four months."

Majesky acknowledged many couples have faced even tougher obstacles in their quest to start a family and said, "I hesitate to share this because I don't want anyone to read this and feel what we felt, watching others' dreams come true."

But thankfully, for the Majesky family, that dream is coming true — it's a girl, and she's due in November!

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Dad-to-be reveals how heartbreaking it can be trying to conceive in raw, emotional Facebook post
1st March 1969: Dr Robert Edwards with his team at Cambridge in the early days of research into in vitro fertilisation. (Photo by Central Press/Getty Images)
Dr. Patrick Steptoe, left, from Oldham General Hospital, and Dr. Robert G. Edwards of the Physiological Laboratories at Cambridge University, are shown during a news conference on BBC television in London, Feb. 14, 1969. They have taken the first steps toward creating human life in a test tube by fertilizing human eggs in the laboratory. (AP Photo)
Consultant gynecologist Dr. Patrick Steptoe, one of the pioneers in the fertilization of human eggs to make a "test tube baby," is seen in his lab in 1970. (AP Photo/Press Association)
Photo shows Louise Brown, the one-year-old test-tube baby born in England last year, responds to studio audience during taping of Phil Donahue show in Chicago, on Friday, Sept. 8, 1979. Louise?s mother and father appeared with her, and said they would like to have a second child with the test-tube method. It was Louise?s first U.S. television appearance. (AP Photo/FHJ)
Dr. Howard W. Jones, Jr. explains the in vitro fertilization process during a news conference at the Norfolk, Va., General Hospital, Dec. 28, 1981. Jones announced the birth of Elizabeth Carr, America's first test tube baby. (AP Photo/Steve Helber)
Dr. Ira Craft, center, director of gynecology at Cromwell Hospital in London, is surrounded by mothers with their test tube babies at the hospital, Jan. 21, 1985. Dr. Craft began the process of vitro fertilization at the Royal Free Hospital, which resulted in Britain's first test tube twins in 1982. (AP Photo/Peter Kemp)
NEW YORK - AUGUST 15: Doctors perform a laparoscopy on a woman August 15, 1988 in preparation for in vitro fertilization. (Photo by Yvonne Hemsey/Getty Images)
Louise Brown (top) from England, the first in-vitro baby born 15 years ago, hugs other children born with the help of in-vitro fertilization during a get together at Columbia-Presbyterian Hospital to promote the program 05 October 1993. With Brown, from L to R, are Laura Valenti, 2, Phoebe Maddox, 2, and Monica Hendricks, 5. (Photo credit should read RACHEL COBB/AFP/Getty Images)
Nepalese nurses care for the countries first test-tube twin babies (C) at the In-Vitro Fertilization Centre of Om Hospital near Kathmandu 04 March 2005. Kumudini Koirala gave birth to twince baby boys weighing 2.7kg and 3kg respectively. The births came as good news for Nepal, which has been in a state of crisis since King Gyanendra seized power on 01February, and launched a crackdown on the independent media amid an increasingly deadly Maoist insurgency. AFP PHOTO/DEVENDRA M SINGH (Photo credit should read DEVENDRA M SINGH/AFP/Getty Images)
Pacific Fertility Center director Dr. Vicken Sahakian comments during an interview on his patient Carmela Bousada, Monday, Jan. 29, 2007, at the clinic in Los Angeles. The 67-year-old woman, who is believed to be the world's oldest new mother, told a British Sunday newspaper she lied to the U.S. fertility clinic, saying she was 55, in order to get treatment. Carmela Bousada said in her first interview since she gave birth to twin boys on Dec. 29 that she sold her house in Spain to raise $59,000 to pay for in vitro fertilization. (AP Photo/Damian Dovarganes)
Lehman Best holds a photo of the couple's two healthiest embryos before in vitro fertilization at North Carolina Center for Reproductive Medicine in Cary on Friday, October 12, 2007. Best jokes about 'little Lehman and Lanelle' as he cradles the photo of the embryos. (Photo by Juli Leonard/Raleigh News & Observer/MCT via Getty Images)
Dr. Ann Trevino poses for a photo at her home Thursday, Feb. 7, 2008, in Pearland, Texas. Trevino, a 37-year-old family physician, had three unsuccessful pregnancy attempts with intrauterine insemination before trying acupuncture with in vitro fertilization at a fertility clinic in San Antonio, where she used to live. She now is pregnant. (AP Photo/David J. Phillip)
The entrance to Dr. Michael Kamrava's office is seen in Beverly Hills, Calif., Monday, Feb. 9, 2009. The mother who gave birth to octuplets identified the West Coast IVF Clinic in Beverly Hills as the one which provided in-vitro fertilization for all 14 of her children. (AP Photo/Nick Ut)
NANTES, FRANCE - MARCH 23: Staff work in a hospital on March 23, 2011 in Nantes, France. The center of medically assisted procreation Hospital of Nantes is the first center in France to benefit from renting an Embryoscope for conducting an international collaborative study. The Embryoscope consists of an incubator to receive the embryo; in the incubator a microscope is installed to continuously visualize the development of the embryo on the computer screen. Instead of leaving the embryo in the incubator for observation under the microscope as it is today, this very high-tech equipment meets all the conditions necessary for its cultivation by guaranteeing a stable environment. Embryoscope is developed by the Danish company Unisense Fertilitech and should improve the chances of success of IVF. The center of medically assisted procreation from Nantes hospital performs each year about 1,100 attempts at in vitro fertilization, which places it among the top ten French centers. (Photo by Alain DENANTES/Gamma-Rapho via Getty Images)
Graphic shows in vitro fertilization process. (via the AP)
Dr. Stephanie Dahl, a Fargo infertility specialist, speaks out against two anti-abortion bills in the North Dakota Legislature during a news conference Monday, March 18, 2013, in Fargo, N.D. Dahl says the bills could restrict or ban in vitro fertilization. (AP Photo/Dave Kolpack)
In this photo taken Thursday, Aug. 14, 2013, an embryologist works on a petri dish at the Create Health fertility clinic in south London. Since the first test-tube baby was born more than three decades ago, in vitro fertilization has become a sophisticated process with pricey incubators, specialized techniques and extensive screening. Now, scientists are going back to basics and testing a simpler and cheaper method intended mainly for use in developing countries. (AP Photo/Sang Tan)
A technician works on in vitro fertilization (IVF) for livestock in the genetic research and development center at the Blanca From The Pyrenees dairy farm, partnered with Ponderosa Holsteins, in Els Hostalets de Tost, Spain, on Thursday, June 4, 2015. Global production of milk, cheese and butter will rise to records this year, according to the U.S. Department of Agriculture. Photographer: Pau Barrena/Bloomberg via Getty Images

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