Jennifer Garner is opening up about her tumultuous past year, during which she went from being one half of one of Hollywood's most powerful couples to being on the other side of devastating cheating rumors.
The actress, who has been separate from ex Ben Affleck since last summer, sat down with Vanity Fair for their March issue to discuss her family, men and moving on in a refreshingly frank interview that debuted online on Friday.
"It's not Ben's job to make me happy," she told the magazine. "The main thing is these kids -- and we're completely in line with what we hope for them. Sure, I lost the dream of dancing with my husband at my daughter's wedding. But you should see their faces when he walks through the door. And if you see your kids love someone so purely and wholly, then you're going to be friends with that person."
"No one needs to hate him for me," she continued. "I don't hate him."
Though she's put the situation into perspective, Garner revealed the she still doesn't plug into the constant news cycle and headlines that have followed her dissolving marriage for almost a year; she tries her best to tune out the chatter.
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Jennifer Garner opens up about separation: 'It's not Ben's job to make me happy'
Actors Jennifer Garner, left, and Ben Affleck arrive at the Oscars at the Dolby Theatre on Sunday Feb. 24, 2013, in Los Angeles. (Photo by John Shearer/Invision/AP)
Ben Affleck and wife Jennifer Garner attends the 2014 Vanity Fair Oscar Party on Sunday, March 2, 2014, in West Hollywood, Calif. (Photo by Evan Agostini/Invision/AP)
ARCHIV: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner arrive for the 64th Annual Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills (Foto vom 15.01.07). Ben Affleck und Jennifer Garner erwarten ihr drittes Kind. Das teilten die Sprecher der beiden Schauspieler am Montag (22.08.11) in Los Angeles mit. Das Paar sei ausser sich vor Freude ueber die Schwangerschaft, hiess es in der kurzen Erklaerung. Affleck und Garner ("Pearl Harbor") haben bereits zwei Toechter: die fuenfjaehrige Violet und die zweijaehrige Seraphina Elizabeth Rose. Die Schauspieler, die beide 39 Jahre alt sind, sind seit 2005 verheiratet. Foto: Mark J. Terrill/AP/dapd
Actor Ben Affleck points while Jennifer Garner smiles as they sit next to the Boston Red Sox dugout prior to the start of their baseball game against the New York Yankees at Fenway Park in Boston Saturday, June 2, 2007. (AP Photo/Elise Amendola)
Actors Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen at the Democratic National Convention in Denver, Wednesday, Aug. 27, 2008. (AP Photo/Paul Sancya)
Jennifer Garner, left, and Ben Affleck during the 12th annual Critics' Choice Awards on Friday, Jan. 12, 2007 in Santa Monica, Calif. (AP Photo/Kevork Djansezian)
Actress Jennifer Garner kisses her husband, actor Ben Affleck, at Fenway Park during a game between the New York Yankees and the Boston Red Sox in Boston Saturday, Oct. 1, 2005. (AP Photo/Winslow Townson)
Actors Jennifer Garner, left, and Ben Affleck are shown during Game 1 of the World Series in Boston, Saturday, Oct. 23, 2004. (AP Photo/Elise Amendola)
In this image made available by the Joint Network Gulf Coast Benefit, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner man the phone bank in Los Angeles during Shelter from the Storm, the live, one-hour primetime simulcast on America's six largest broadcast networks, along with several cable networks, to benefit the victims of Hurricane Katrina, Friday, Sept. 9, 2005. Viewers in nearly 100 countries were able to tune in. Contributions were being solicited for the American Red Cross or the Salvation Army. (AP Photo/Joint Network Gulf Coast Benefit, Craig Sjodin)
Boston Red Sox fans Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck take in the game at Fenway Park between the New York Yankees and the Boston Red Sox in Boston Saturday, Oct. 1, 2005. (AP Photo/Elise Amendola)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 05: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are seen on October 05, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - OCTOBER 03: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on October 03, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - MARCH 02: Actor/director Ben Affleck (L) and wife actress Jennifer Garner attend the 2014 Vanity Fair Oscar Party hosted by Graydon Carter on March 2, 2014 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 18: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen holding hands on February 18, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - FEBRUARY 06: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen with their daughter, Seraphina Affleck on February 06, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by GONZALO/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 18: Actors Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck attend the 20th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 18, 2014 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Christopher Polk/WireImage)
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 29: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 29, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - November 07: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 07, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JULY 16: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on July 16, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE -- 'Ben Affleck' Episode 1641 -- Pictured: (l-r) Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck during the monologue on May 18, 2013 -- (Photo by: Dana Edelson/NBC/NBCU Photo Bank via Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 10: Actors Jennifer Garner (L) and Ben Affleck attend the John Varvatos 10th Annual Stuart House Benefit presented by Chrysler, Kids Tent by Hasbro Studios, at John Varvatos Los Angeles on March 10, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Donato Sardella/Getty Images for John Varvatos)
Argo director Ben Affleck kisses his wife actress Jennifer Garner after winning the Oscar for Best Movie at the 85th Annual Academy Awards on February 24, 2013 in Hollywood, California. AFP PHOTO/Robyn BECK (Photo credit should read ROBYN BECK/AFP/Getty Images)
LONDON, ENGLAND - FEBRUARY 09: Ben Affleck (L) and Jennifer Garner attend the Charles Finch and Chanel Pre-BAFTA cocktail party and dinner at Annabel's on February 9, 2013 in London, England. (Photo by Dave M. Benett/Getty Images)
LOS ANGELES, CA - JANUARY 27: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner attend the 19th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 27, 2013 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Kevin Mazur/WireImage) 23116_016_1209.jpg
LOS ANGELES, CA - NOVEMBER 30: Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are seen on November 30, 2012 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - OCTOBER 05: Actors Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner attend Variety's 4th Annual Power of Women Event Presented by Lifetime at the Beverly Wilshire Four Seasons Hotel on October 5, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Amanda Edwards/WireImage)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - OCTOBER 04: Actors Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner arrive at the premiere of Warner Bros. Pictures' 'Argo' at AMPAS Samuel Goldwyn Theater on October 4, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 07: Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck attends 'Argo' Post Premiere Party - 2012 Toronto International Film Festival on September 7, 2012 in Toronto, Canada. (Photo by Sonia Recchia/Getty Images)
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"I turned on CNN one day, and there we were. I just won't do it anymore. I took a silent oath with myself last summer to really stay offline. I am totally clueless about all of it," she said. "It hurts me so much, and I care so much [that] I cannot be driven by the optics of this. I cannot let anger or hurt be my engine. I need to move with the big picture always on my mind, and the kids first and foremost."
The actress said that instead of paying attention to what's being said on the Internet, she does things that distract her, like playing the piano or taking dance classes. They're things that she has loved since she was a child.
She also said that if she were to do it all over again, she would.
"I didn't marry the big fat movie star; I married him, and I would go back and remake that decision," she insisted. "I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can't have these three babies and so much of what we had. He's the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He's the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He's just a complicated guy. I always say, 'When his sun shines on you, you feel it.' But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it's cold. He can cast quite a shadow."
As for the rumors that swirled about Affleck's infidelity with their nanny Christine Ouzounian, Garner insisted that that wasn't the sole reason for their separation. In fact, they had already separated by the time she even found that out.
"Let me just tell you something," she said to Vanity Fair. "We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny. She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes. It's not great for your kids for [a nanny] to disappear from their lives."