Rumer Willis gets candid about constantly being bullied for her looks

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Rumer Willis is sharing some hard-earned knowledge with her fans.

In a revealing new essay she wrote for Glamour magazine, the 26-year-old Dancing With the Stars champ gets real about her painful past growing up in the spotlight, and how she was able to get her confidence back.

"I was constantly bullied because of my looks, so I struggled a lot with my body image," Rumer reveals about being famous since birth. "I wanted to have no butt; I wanted to have no boobs. For a long time I just wanted to look tiny and androgynous. I never really shared what I was going through with my parents, because it was too painful. I didn't know how to ask for help or how to even bring it up."

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SEATTLE, WA - JULY 09: Season 20 champions Valentin Chmerkovskiy and Rumer Willis of Dancing With The Stars: Live! speak on stage at McCaw Hall on July 9, 2015 in Seattle, Washington. (Photo by Mat Hayward/Getty Images)
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2007' - The seven remaining couples performed an iconic number from a different time period on 'Era's Night,' on 'Dancing with the Stars, MONDAY, APRIL 27 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on ABC. The couple with the highest overall score of the night was granted immunity from elimination. The remaining couples then competed in a dance-off to earn extra judges' points in an effort to increase their overall score. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) VAL CHMERKOVSKIY, RUMER WILLIS
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2008' -- The six remaining couples on 'Dancing with the Stars' danced to a song and dance style voted on by viewers for 'AMERICA'S CHOICE' night on MONDAY, MAY 4 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET). America had creative control of the couples' first dance, asking fans throughout the week via Twitter, Facebook and Instagram for their input on wardrobe, set design and visual effects. Each couple performed two full routines including an individual original dance and a trio dance. For the trio dance, couples had the opportunity to pick an eliminated pro or troupe member to enhance their performance and highlight the strengths of each star. The trio dance styles include the Jive, Paso Doble, Samba and Salsa. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) RUMER WILLIS, VAL CHMERKOVSKIY
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2007' - The seven remaining couples performed an iconic number from a different time period on 'Era's Night,' on 'Dancing with the Stars, MONDAY, APRIL 27 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on ABC. The couple with the highest overall score of the night was granted immunity from elimination. The remaining couples then competed in a dance-off to earn extra judges' points in an effort to increase their overall score. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) RUMER WILLIS, VAL CHMERKOVSKIY
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2002' - It was #myjammonday this week on 'Dancing with the Stars.' Celebrity couples danced to their favorite jams on MONDAY, MARCH 23 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. Each couple performed a variety of dances including the Cha Cha, Salsa, Rumba, and Argentine Tango vying for America's vote. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) VAL CHMERKOVSKIY, RUMER WILLIS
After weeks of competitive dancing, the three remaining couples advanced to the FINALS of "Dancing with the Stars" MONDAY, MAY 18. (ABC/Adam Taylor)
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2003' - Rumer Willis stunned in a disco-inspired salsa. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) 
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2003' - Rumer Willis stunned in a disco-inspired salsa. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) 
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2003' - Rumer Willis stunned in a disco-inspired salsa. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) 
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2005' - 'Dancing with the Stars' marked the halfway point of the competition with its biggest show yet, 'Disney Night,' with all new celebrity performances MONDAY, APRIL 13 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. The show began with an opening number featuring all your favorite live action and animated Disney characters dancing with the entire cast. Each couple then performed to songs from Walt Disney Animation Studios films. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) RUMER WILLIS, VAL CHMERKOVSKIY
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2005' - 'Dancing with the Stars' marked the halfway point of the competition with its biggest show yet, 'Disney Night,' with all new celebrity performances MONDAY, APRIL 13 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. The show began with an opening number featuring all your favorite live action and animated Disney characters dancing with the entire cast. Each couple then performed to songs from Walt Disney Animation Studios films. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) RUMER WILLIS, VAL CHMERKOVSKIY
DANCING WITH THE STARS - 'Episode 2005' - 'Dancing with the Stars' marked the halfway point of the competition with its biggest show yet, 'Disney Night,' with all new celebrity performances MONDAY, APRIL 13 (8:00-10:01 p.m., ET) on the ABC Television Network. The show began with an opening number featuring all your favorite live action and animated Disney characters dancing with the entire cast. Each couple then performed to songs from Walt Disney Animation Studios films. (Photo by Adam Taylor/ABC via Getty Images) LINDSAY ARNOLD, ALAN BERSTEN, RUMER WILLIS, VAL CHMERKOVSKIY, SASHA FARBER, JENNA JOHNSON
Rumer Willis arrives at the 22nd Annual Race To Erase MS Event on Friday, April 24, 2015, in Los Angeles (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)
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But her mother, 52-year-old actress Demi Moore, eventually gave her a piece of advice that's stuck with her to this day.

"I do remember my mom telling me, 'There's always going to be someone who's a better singer. There's always going to be someone more fit. There's always someone who's going to be, in your mind, better than you -- who you're comparing yourself to. But you can't do that, because you will live such an unhappy life.' It just took me a long time to put that advice into practice."

Now, Rumer is coming out strongly against bullying.

"The real pressure comes from the Internet and social media -- the mentality that it's OK to attack people from behind a computer screen," she laments. "Strangers say the nastiest things. Until recently the thought of making one misstep that could be criticized would stop me from trying new things and from standing up for myself."

Obviously, Rumer was able to get over that fear to compete -- and win -- this season's DWTS.

"Dancing With the Stars helped me get over my fear of failure too," she explains. "The first day I danced on-air, I was nervous; I had been struggling, and the dress rehearsal hadn't gone well. But after I finished I felt more beautiful than I had in my entire life. Not because of how I looked ... but because of what I'd accomplished and worked so hard for. When you conquer something you didn't think you could do, energy and confidence radiate out of you, and that's more beautiful than if you were skinny or had the perfect face."

These days, her haters rarely get her down.

"It's difficult, but the moment you stop saying, 'I'm really fat,' or 'I'm ugly,' and just say, 'Wow, I have this,' then you'll see a change," she writes. "We all need to stop bullying ourselves and being cruel to other women. Attacking one another instead of supporting one another has become the norm. Life's hard enough as it is."

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