Former 'Bachelor' winner writes of finding love

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'The Bachelor' Villain Courtney Robertson Reveals All Her Dirty Secrets

By ALICIA RANCILIO Associated Press

When Courtney Robertson appeared on ABC's dating competition series "The Bachelor" in 2012, she was quickly elevated to villain status.

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FILE - This June 24, 2014 file photo shows former "The Bachelor" winner Courtney Robertson posing for a portrait in New York to promote her book "I Didn't Come Here to Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain." (Photo by Amy Sussman/Invision/AP)
Former winner on "The Bachelor" Courtney Robertson poses for a portrait in promotion of her new tell-all book "I Didn't Come Here to Make Friends" on Tues., June 24, 2014 in New York. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Invision/AP)
Courtney Robertson arrives at US Weekly's "Hot Hollywood Style" Issue Event at The Emerson Theatre on Thursday, April 18, 2013 in Los Angeles. (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)
Former winner on "The Bachelor" Courtney Robertson poses for a portrait in promotion of her new tell-all book "I Didn't Come Here to Make Friends" on Tues., June 24, 2014 in New York. (Photo by Amy Sussman/Invision/AP)
Courtney Robertson attends InTouch Icons and Idols at the Chateau Marmont on Thursday, Sept. 6, 2012, in West Hollywood, Calif. (Photo by Richard Shotwell/Invision/AP)
NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 25: TV personality Courtney Robertson visits the SiriusXM Studios on June 25, 2014 in New York City. (Photo by Ilya S. Savenok/Getty Images)
HOLLYWOOD, CA - APRIL 18: TV personality Courtney Robertson attends Us Weekly's Annual Hot Hollywood Style Issue event at the Emerson Theatre on April 18, 2013 in Hollywood, California. (Photo by David Livingston/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 14: TV personality Courtney Robertson (L) and guest pose at Much Love Animal Rescue's makeovers for mutts at Peninsula Hotel on March 14, 2013 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Chelsea Lauren/WireImage)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MARCH 14: Television personality Courtney Robertson attends the Makeovers For Mutts Fundraiser Honoring Maria Menounos at Peninsula Hotel on March 14, 2013 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Imeh Akpanudosen/Getty Images)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MAY 12: TV personalities Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson attend JOICO Presents The 4th Annual ON THE GO Beauty Event Co-sponsored By Voli Vodka at Thompson Hotel on May 12, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Vivien Killilea/WireImage)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MAY 12: (L-R) Ben Flajnik, Ben's mother, hair stylist Mika Fowler, Courtney Robertson, hair stylist George Papanikola and Julia Flajnik attend JOICO Presents The 4th Annual ON THE GO Beauty Event Co-sponsored By Voli Vodka at Thompson Hotel on May 12, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Vivien Killilea/WireImage)
WEST HOLLYWOOD, CA - JUNE 01: The Bachelor star Courtney Robertson and Nicky Hilton pose at the Colgate Optic White Beauty Bar at Nine Zero One Salon With Skintimate, Fake Bake and Cetaphil, Produced by BMF Media - Day 1 at Nine Zero One Salon on June 1, 2012 in West Hollywood, California. (Photo by Todd Oren/WireImage)
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - MAY 12: TV personalities Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson attend JOICO Presents The 4th Annual ON THE GO Beauty Event Co-sponsored By Voli Vodka at Thompson Hotel on May 12, 2012 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Vivien Killilea/WireImage)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 16: TV Personalities Courtney Robertson and Ben Flajnik attend Mark Zunino Bridal Show at Kleinfeld on April 16, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Robin Marchant/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 16: TV Personality Courtney Robertson (L) and Designer Mark Zunino attend Mark Zunino Bridal Show at Kleinfeld on April 16, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Robin Marchant/Getty Images)
NEW YORK, NY - APRIL 16: TV Personality Courtney Robertson (L) and Designer Mark Zunino attend Mark Zunino Bridal Show at Kleinfeld on April 16, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Robin Marchant/Getty Images)
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Many viewers - and her fellow contestants - believed the 30-year-old model was catty, mean to the other women and couldn't be trusted. Her comments on the show were put to auto-tune and went viral. And she had to face a televised firing squad of angry contestants who wanted to air their grievances.

In the end, Robertson won winemaker Ben Flajnik's heart and a marriage proposal. They later split up, and Robertson briefly dated "Bachelorette" runner-up Arie Luyendyk Jr.

She's now sharing her story in "I Didn't Come Here to Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain" (It Books). The book pulls back the curtain on "The Bachelor" and maintaining a relationship made on TV.

AP: Since your relationship with Flajnik didn't work out and in the book you detail the problems you had, do you feel vindicated after sharing those things?

Robertson: For me it does feel good to say, 'No, this is actually what happened.' I think people had this idea I fooled him for 11 months. To me that's idiotic. ... It was hurtful but it's not about being bitter. It's a huge part of my life story and I just had to tell the truth.

AP: Few relationships coming out of "The Bachelor" or "The Bachelorette" have worked. Do you think it's possible to find love that way?

Robertson: If you're really ready to settle down and find love I really think it can work. ... I feel like the girls (on 'The Bachelorette') pick really well, too. ... It just takes the right couple.

AP: Do you worry that when you meet a guy now, he's going to look up the show and watch clips of you online?

Robertson: Definitely. I remember I went on a date after the dust settled and I didn't tell the guy and he had no clue. And then someone came up and said, 'Can I get a picture?' I was like, 'Oh, I was on this show. Don't Google me.' Most guys understand. It's definitely a little tricky though.

AP: What have you learned about yourself?

Robertson: I realized in writing this book, 'Oh my gosh, I'm a serial rebounder. I need to make a change.'

AP: What was Ben's reaction to the book?

Robertson: I definitely had a couple emails that were like, I hate to say, they were pretty nasty. I didn't write this book for him. I stopped making decisions with him in mind the day we broke up.

AP: There were reports that you were going to appear on the spinoff "Bachelor in Paradise." Was that true?

Robertson: I was entertaining the idea but ultimately with (promoting) the book, I just couldn't.

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