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Sons cost parents more money in the long run

Do Grown Sons Cost Parents More Money Than Grown Daughters?

Parents, listen up: you might love your daughters and sons equally, but researchers say sons will cost you more money in the long run.

ABC reports, "Researchers say after the age of 18, 41 percent of men need financial help from their parents compared to only 31 percent of women."

The survey, conducted by Harris Poll for Yodlee Interactive, also found daughters are less likely to move back into their parents' home and more likely to lend a hand to aging parents, Time reports.

The Harris Poll also suggests in middle age, or from age 35 to 44, nearly a third of men are likely to be living with their parents, compared to just 9 percent of women. And if women are living at home, 36 percent of them are taking care of ailing parents - compared to 16 percent of men who live at home while caring for their mom or dad. And here's another fact: 35 percent of men living at home are unemployed, compared with 19 percent of women.

Time also notes the survey found men are twice as likely to admit they don't provide emotional support for aging parents by doing things such as calling home and keeping in touch.

Additionally, a Wall Street Journal article reports when adults do move back home, it runs their parents around $8,000 to $18,000 a year, depending on whether the parents pay for extras such as entertainment.

Some argue women might be conditioned to receive less financial support from parents. Time cites a University of Michigan study that found that boys are 15 percent more likely to get higher allowances for doing household chores than girls who are the same age.

But a writer for the Wall St. Cheat Sheet says it's not so easy to determine whether it's more expensive to raise boys or girls. She says the answer changes depending on whom you ask.

​For example, she points to research by the personal finance website lovemoney.com, which says it costs more to raise girls because they have more expensive hobbies and clothing.

However, The Telegraph says boys are more likely to cost more because they wear out clothing and other items faster than girls do. The outlet cites a report from Halifax Bank.

Either way, the U.S. Department of Agriculture estimated that a child born in 2012 will cost his or her parents more than $241,000 in the first 17 years of life. But you can't put a price on love, right?

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shellyafinney June 24 2014 at 10:37 AM

So, so wrong. As a mother of boys & girls, I always warn new mothers that girls will end up costing phenomenally more. Every time I leave the house my daughters give me a list of stuff they want, and yet they never seem to have anything to wear or they are always 'run out' of something or other whereas my sons rarely ever ask for a thing. Whilst some parents help out their adult children after they've left home, sons (it's true) tend to contribute more financially while girls tend to be more reluctant to share their wage packet. However, they do make up for it by being more generally helpful and caring in a practical sense. It is part of the joy of raising children of both genders

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Gary June 24 2014 at 9:57 AM

Why is nothing mentioned about the huge transfer of wealth caused by "child support" which is a main cause of men seeking financial help from their parents. This money is counted as the man's income which he "gets" to pay taxes on while it is, in reality, tax-free income for the female (who also enjoys the tax benefits of the deduction and child credits). While almost all Americans are exposed to the "Family Destruction Court," you never see the truth exposed.

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onionson June 24 2014 at 2:37 PM

These researchers never met my daughters. If they had they would be singing a different tune.

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fshsacramento June 24 2014 at 1:50 PM

As most of you have already seen...the study is inherently flawed by the questions it asks...skewed to being with and does not take into account all the variables. Typically Huffington post. Skewed headline grabber....all sizzle and no steak.

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Bentley fshsacramento June 24 2014 at 10:31 PM

Exactly! Saying that a girl is less likely to move back in with her parents, doesn't say where she lives. Most likely she lives with another man taking care of her, or with her bf and HIS parents. The reason boys cost more is usually because they are caring for another family's daughter. Boys getting more money for household chores, yet they don't say anything about the percentage of girls doing outside work. So if boys have to do outside work AND inside work, and the girls only have to cook and clean, then yea. this "study" is unprofessional.

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boller123 June 24 2014 at 10:33 AM

How 'bout this: women are given prefferential treatment in hiring, greater retention during lay-offs, and have support organizations to turn to to act on their behalf. When all else fails, make a little proof-needed, "sexual harrassment, EEO. charge" against your employer (or threaten to). Maybe this is why so many 35 year-old men are unemployed, and in their parent's basement?

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men0nstrike June 24 2014 at 5:39 PM

Huffpo always does this kind of articles, blaming men for everything and hammering them at every chance. You can take this study one of two ways. Either men are lazy deadbeats as Huffpo says, or else this is simply one more sign of how destructive the war on men and boys has become, and the devastating effects it has had on half of our population, the "privileged" half, right?

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mrbills78 June 24 2014 at 11:40 AM

Let's look at those "facts" shall we... what age are men getting married vs. women? Who pays child support and alimony after those marriages fail? If you weren't making it with 2 incomes in 1 house, how can you make it on 1/2 an income in 2 houses? For years I have argued that social living is easier for women... They have no clue what relationships actually cost men from the beginning.

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nnorthcharleston June 24 2014 at 12:46 PM

boys spend money on dates and girls get a free ride they dont have to buy dinners for two gas for the dates

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naru's # 1 fan nnorthcharleston June 24 2014 at 5:56 PM

If the boys strive to be gentlemen, yes. Although it varies. The gentlemen view is getting thrown out the window by many, including women. I personally hate being payed for, i'm done trying to convince my boyfriend otherwise, he gets his way for paying on expensive dates (Olive Garden), but on every day lunches or mini dates, we agree we each pitch in. I also make food for him whenever I get the chance so that's me spending. Of course women learning to cook is now considered sexist by many instead of a necessary life skill for anyone to learn. So there's that too.

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daysales nnorthcharleston June 24 2014 at 11:09 PM

Naru seems to be a troll here, trying to explain away a lot of really valid points that are being made. Girls and women get a lot more free rides than men ever do, always have and probably always will. In fact I don't ever remember getting a free ride for being male, except maybe that one to Viet Nam.

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llhuberarchitect June 24 2014 at 12:52 PM

Women after 18 get men to support them more than the other way around. Men with a wife will ask his parents for help first rather than her parents. And I agree with the stupid child support laws where the male pays the support, cannot deduct it from income the wife gets it a free money, gets the deduction, gets welfare and freebies from all taxpayers and the claim that she is less expensive? Directly to her parents but we all support her and now obamacare has forced males to pay higher premiums for female specific medical problems which far out weigh male medical matters. This is the stupidest study that has come along in a long time.

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karen and pitts June 24 2014 at 1:05 PM

so i guess they didn't figure in the 25000 dollars the dad must pay to get the daughter hitched?

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karen and pitts karen and pitts June 24 2014 at 1:05 PM

or as much as 50000 for some selfish gals.

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