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Christian school complains 8-year-old tomboy isn't feminine enough

Christian School Complains 8-Year-Old Tomboy Isn't Feminine Enough
The family of an 8-year-old Virginia girl has removed her from her private Christian school after the school complained her appearance wasn't feminine enough. HLN has more.

'We're talking about Timberlake Christian School in Virginia. It sent a letter to Sunnie Kahle's grandparents and they said she wouldn't be allowed to go to school next year if she didn't follow biblical standards and look more like a girl.'

WDBJ spoke with Doris Thompson, Sunnie's great-grandmother and legal guardian, who says Sunnie actually used to have long hair down to her waist until she asked for a haircut when she was five years old.

'She wanted to give it to a little child that had cancer who lost his hair. I said that's great, so we cut her hair and then she started wanting to dress in jeans and a t-shirt.'

CBS says the school got wind that students were asking Sunnie whether she was a girl or a boy, so the elementary principal, Becky Bowman, sent a letter home with Sunnie in February saying: 'We believe that unless Sunnie and her family clearly understand that God has made her female and her dress and behavior need to follow suit with her God-ordained identity, that TCS is not the best place for her future education.'

'The letter goes on to say ... that administrators can refuse enrolling for condoning sexual immorality, practicing homosexual lifestyle or alternative gender identity.'

School administrators told WSET they're just asking Sunnie and her family to follow the school's guidelines. Sunnie's grandparents have since taken her out of Timberlake Christian School and enrolled in her their local public school.

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jmoore1248 March 27 2014 at 10:33 AM

Go to public schoo;.

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amaadjepong March 27 2014 at 6:14 PM

That just stupid people go to school to learn and she is a girl so she wants to wear jeans and a shirt that's cool

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elinor March 27 2014 at 10:53 AM

i was a big tomboy when growing up. of course back then girls did not even wear pants at all, so i was relegated to playing softball and working out on the gym bars with panties blazing. which i think is totally nutz. i am an 83 year old granmother. how did i turn out !! totally feminine, but some of the boys never got over the exposure i offered them because anything pertaining to men's clothing was super taboo... untill katherine hepburn entered the hollywood scene and came up with the idea of slacks for women, you did what you had to do when involved in sports... how ignorant , really.... strain at a knat and swallow a camel. makes much more sense to have your fannie covered. don't you think...and i had long hair also. time comes when you are sick and tired of having to go thru the brushing out of the tangles and dreading for you hair to be combed. so i wanted mine cut too... who knows where i would have gone with the jeans had there been anything like them available. BUT ! !! WHEN I BECAME CONCIOUS OF THE BOYS AND KNEW THEY LIKED GIRLS... I HAD NO PROBLEM WITH THE RIBBONS AND BOWS......WHAT A DIFFERENCE 73 YEARS MADE....................................

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janda67 March 27 2014 at 5:59 PM

There are also Montessori and Charter schools. There are other private schoolsbesides Christian ones. Perhaps her grandparents may consider them. I was a tomboy who married happily and have nine grandchildren from the beloved children God added to our children's families. My aunt used to say that "children go through phases as they grow up." I have to agree! :-)

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dragondancer1814 janda67 March 27 2014 at 6:33 PM

That depends on where you live. In our county, for instance, we have three options: Public school, private Christian school, or homeschooling. There are NO secular private schools in our area-NONE. Other areas have similarly limited options as well.

The day-care situation in our town is similarly limited. They're all church-based, and the churches are VERY conservative-I can name a Baptist preschool, a conservative Methodist preschool, and a Pentecostal preschool right off the top of my head, so you can imagine how welcome we non-Christians would feel in there! Needless to say, I homeschooled our kids for the preschool years.

Thank the Goddess we have excellent public schools in our town!

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bbhuey4213 dragondancer1814 March 27 2014 at 7:50 PM

"Thank the Goddess we have excellent public schools in our town!"

Thankfully I hadn't yet taken a sip of my tea before I got to the end of your post, elsewise I might have choked! Not because I disagree with the sentiment but rather because that one line likely made a few heads explode! Here's one Christian wishing you and yours much good will and many blessings....

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gamms98 March 27 2014 at 5:52 PM

Private schools can do what the want. If you don't like their rules and/or beliefs leave. Nobody's forcing you to go there... find a school that you mesh with. That's the great thing about America. You have choices.

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Helen Lowe March 27 2014 at 5:49 PM

I hope this little girl doesn't turn against church, God & Jesus Christ because of lost peoples religion. These people are a bigger danger than non belivers.
Where in the Bible does it say females are not to ware pants. Men were wearing long gowns & robes NOT pants when the Bible was written.
I am a 70 year old Southern Christian Woman who is in church every Sunday, study my Bible daily & pray. So don't think I'm a 30 year old northener just picking on the south. This school needs some Christian leaders not people with so much religion.

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kim272727 Helen Lowe March 27 2014 at 6:22 PM

No you are a 70 year old Southerner who is apparently picking on Northerners and people who aren't Christians. You should know better than to be so prejudiced. PS. "non believers" aren't nearly as "dangerous" as religious extremists.

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dragondancer1814 Helen Lowe March 27 2014 at 6:35 PM

So what's wrong with the possibility of her growing up and finding that her religious path truly lies elsewhere? Since freedom of religion means ANY religion, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!

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crober8 March 27 2014 at 11:02 AM

Have these people never heard the term "Tom Boy"?

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kklinvt crober8 March 27 2014 at 11:05 AM

To the closed minded homophobes that would be "alternative gender identity".

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rude March 27 2014 at 11:04 AM

You mean they didn't try to have her burned at the stake??

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diva5555 March 27 2014 at 11:05 AM

Typical Christians! smh

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mouserkittyangel March 27 2014 at 6:14 PM

I don't agree with the school at all, but a private school can pretty much make their own rules. I think if they don't tolerate her choices, she will be much better off in a more tolerant environment. Nothing good could come out of Sunnie staying in such an oppressive school, so I'm glad her grandparents have moved her.

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Viper1ex19 mouserkittyangel March 27 2014 at 6:29 PM

Public or Private School,, we have rights regardless [period]
The public school systems have too much power... Thanks to that idiot in the Whitehouse.

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