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'Vows': In sickness and in health

'Vows': In Sickness and in Health

Just months after Virginia Wettlaufer and Walter Tomenson started dating, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Next came a crash course in commitment.

"I felt a lump in my breast. After about a week of tests they came back and told me that I had cancer. Wally would give me shots, he would give me medicine, he would change bandages and drains. Everything you could imagine that you would never want the person you had been dating for six months to have to see, he had to see or deal with. Me being sick and physically what was wrong with me and what I was going through was my problem. I didn't want Wally, when I was like laying on the couch miserable to have to be sitting home with me. We should be young and going out and having fun."

Hopelessly in love, in sickness and in health, Virginia and Walter fought cancer together. Walter proposed to Virginia at Memorial Sloan-Kettering, the hospital where she had received her treatment.

"My status with cancer now is I have no evidence of the disease. I think if this had happened six months before when I was single and in my early-30's living in New York City it would have been a very different mental fight that I had vs. having just fallen in love with a wonderful person and then being given this challenge. He was 100% the reason that I wasn't gonna crack, I was gonna keep going, that I was gonna fight this and I was gonna win. I was gonna win for him. And for myself. But for us, you know?"

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ltcolphs March 23 2014 at 7:00 AM

How very fortunate you are to have found a mate who believed and practiced true love.

God bless both of you,

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rob42ert March 23 2014 at 10:11 AM

Rare sight of such perfect match. Both of them are strong and beautiful. God bless such people

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hark4109 March 23 2014 at 9:58 AM

Wonderful! I pray that you stay cancer free forever!

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jsgoldrich March 23 2014 at 9:47 AM

bravo!!!! i went thru this 31 years ago with my wife plus another ca and we're still clicking.

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adajm19886 March 23 2014 at 9:39 AM

Definitely a tear drop story... You hear all these story's nowadays of people cheating and crazy nonsense of only 42 days of marriage but this story gives you hope for love. Love makes you do crazy things but when its with the right person is completely worth it at the end. I amend him for proposing to her and giving her life again. Congratulations to both.

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Bob_Pfirrman_II March 23 2014 at 9:08 AM

"For better, or worse, richer, or poorer, in sickness & in health". HE'S a man's man, a REAL man. It took me 38 years, to find a woman, with those values, I TOO CHERISH, to Marry. So many, from both sides, have so easily said, "I'm Cutting my Losses". Pity, they will NEVER KNOW the deep, deep, deep 'Spiritual Love', the Lord, meant for us to Know.

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BEA March 23 2014 at 8:50 AM

What a wonderful love story. Be sure you keep him .What a great partner. You are great too

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bigrbk March 23 2014 at 8:41 AM

she is great but he is what i call a real man

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phyllkkie March 23 2014 at 8:02 AM

What a wonderful, wonderful, story.

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mifatm March 23 2014 at 10:12 AM

What a beautiful couple, both inside and out!

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Jisdo mifatm March 23 2014 at 12:45 PM

How wonderful to know such a love exists.. It is something so many of us search for and never find. Treasure it - every moment of your life. Somehow it may inspire us to dream that perhaps some day it can and will happen to us.

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