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Adam Lanza's father speaks out: 'He would've killed me'

Adam Lanza's Father Speaks Out: 'He Would've Killed Me'

Adam Lanza took the lives of 26 people at Sandy Hook Elementary school, and now his father is speaking out for the first time.



Peter Lanza hadn't seen his son in two years at the time of the shooting. He says he wishes he would've pushed harder to see him, but that he thinks what happened would've been impossible to predict.

He spoke exclusively with The New Yorker, saying, 'You can't get any more evil ... How much do I beat up on myself about the fact that he's my son? A lot.'

Peter Lanza says that he's come to accept that from that day in December 2012 on, Adam was not the little boy he once knew - he'd become an entirely different person.

'With hindsight, I know Adam would have killed me in a heartbeat, if he'd had the chance. I don't question that for a minute. The reason he shot Nancy four times was one for each of us: one for Nancy; one for him; one for Ryan; one for me.'

Ryan is the family's other son, Nancy is the boys' mother - Peter's ex-wife - who Adam shot and killed, ABC reports.

Nancy was reportedly 'a woman that relatives say would've done anything to help her son if she knew he needed help.'

Peter agrees with that, saying he believes Nancy did not realize just how dangerous their son was.

He does say there were signs Adam was problematic from a young age - at first he seemed like a 'normal little weird kid,' but by middle school it was 'crystal clear something was wrong.'

Adam had anxiety issues and was unable to sleep, CBS reports. He'd exhibited interested in violence at that point. Nancy and Peter tried to get him professional help, but things got worse - eventually Adam cut off contact with Peter.

Now, Peter has nightmares about Adam, and ultimately says he wishes Adam had never been born.

You can read the article in its entirety on The New Yorker's website.

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Richard March 10 2014 at 10:54 AM

Who says that pure evil does not exist?

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lightendog Richard March 10 2014 at 11:10 AM

Dude, the whole thing is fake. The government can't fool everyone, they can only control the sheep. It's all over youtube.

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Joy March 10 2014 at 10:44 AM

so what do you do?

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mariadispenza March 10 2014 at 12:23 PM

Ok, so you know you have a VERY VERY disturbed son, and you still keep an arsenal of guns in your home? WHAT WAS THE MOTHER THINKING!?! She may not be responsible for what her son was, but she is AT THE VERY LEAST TO BLAME FOR NOT REMOVING THE WEAPONS FROM THE HOME.

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ceecee mariadispenza March 10 2014 at 12:33 PM

Yes, because we know that loons like Adam, never break the law and steal guns.

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mariadispenza ceecee March 10 2014 at 12:57 PM

Sure, they break the law and steal guns. All the time. But this kid didn't even have to go through the trouble. She made it so simple.

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Angela March 10 2014 at 12:23 PM

That first picture speaks volumes! Who in their right mind would let a child sit there holding a gun while having bullets draped over his legs? Sad!!

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Gorgeous! Angela March 10 2014 at 12:36 PM

It's a fake story, that's why it's so out there and over dramatic in articles and photos. Never happened in reality.

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cilverwolf March 10 2014 at 9:29 PM

I feel very sad for this father. Some families never get the help they need and kids who are severely mentally ill don't get proper diagnoses and treatment. One thing I never understood, but perhaps the mom's denial was so strong, was the use/presence and training in using guns.

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ssurebarmaid March 10 2014 at 12:25 PM

There is so much wrong on so many levels, not only with the fathers comments but some of the comments posted afterwards. Twenty to twenty-five years ago there was little treatment, guidance for parents of a child with autism. Very few professionals even understood how to treat it. Since no two children are alike its difficult to treat. Add to the mix a lousy support system, haphazard parenting. It's no surprise the kid finally blew. That was 18-19 years of frustration and an inability to cope with his surroundings. The dad says" i wish he had never been born". I bet there were plenty of times that child wished he hadn't been born either. Until this country, communities make mental health services a priority, change their attitudes, educate them selves and their children, theses kinds of events will continue to happen.

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ecilisar ssurebarmaid March 10 2014 at 12:30 PM

Well said

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Hello, Mary March 10 2014 at 12:29 PM

I actually get sick seeing the face of this devil. Wish you would erase his face entirely and focus on the children/teachers who were slain and the others who survived. This guy needs no more publicity and neither does his father.

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blazinglight March 10 2014 at 5:13 PM

So, Peter said no one will ever know how Adam's remains were disposed of? I hope it was thrown into a woodchipper ...

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dukecreek blazinglight March 10 2014 at 5:15 PM

OR, thrown into a pig pen and let the hogs eat him.

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Martha March 10 2014 at 10:38 AM

Mental illness in this country is not treated as a physical disease. The brain is an organ and the Medical Community and insurance needs to figure out how to get it treated. In addition, instead of just seeing a psychiatrist, an MRI should be part of the treatment. This identifies the problem in the brain and then can be pinpointed and treated. If your child passes 18 years, then you have no way to make them go to a DR. or take medicine. If you have a "weird" kid, under 18, get a brain scan and psychiatrist and have whole family counseling. AND LOBBY FOR INSURANCE TO PAY FOR THIS!!!

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rlpl02 Martha March 10 2014 at 11:10 AM

These people are given medical treatment, and because medical treatments can work, these people are returned to society. Of course, the person will not stay on his or her medications, and the sick person thinks he or she is fine, or that no one knows the voices are back. They think they can control it--they do not realize they cannot until they have killed or seriously hurt someone else.
Brain scans cannot detect mental illness--it is in the genes. People can be tested for defective genes, and if research continues, eventually permanent gene therapy might develop to rid many mental issues.
Insurance does pay for mental disorder treatments, but many people do not have insurance or proper insurance (Obamacare did not fix the issue, just gave out dump policies at the expense of tax payers and still left millions without healthcare), or parents refuse to admit that their child has a problem and will not take their kid to a psychologist. \What people do not know about the brain--recreational drug use rewrites the brain code and can actually increase the severity of, or introduce certain mental disorders like schizophrenia. These changes in the genes become hereditary, but, tell a pot smoker he is frying his brain and his or her future kids brains and they will attack because they refuse to research and learn that marijuana is not harmless.
There are 57 million mentally ill people in the US. A lot of it we have brought on ourselves out of ignorance. Research genetics.

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jorgannec Martha March 10 2014 at 11:35 AM

Martha, yes I agree but, the problem is way way deeper. Mental health professionals are legally and professionally precluded from making certain diagnosis until adulthood. Boarderline Personality Disorger is one such illness that councelors and psychiatrist are NOT allowed to make until the person becomes an adult. The reasoning is that it would label the child who "might" outgrow the problem.

You can see the problem here: the parent sees emotional and behavioural problems, seeks help, the counselor or psychiatrist sees the probable cause but CAN NOT LEGALLY OR PROFESSIONALLY MAKE THAT SERIOUS PROBLEM DIAGNOSIS. THUS THE PARENT HAS NO IDEA ON WHAT TO LOOK FOR OR WHAT TO DO FOR YEARS. IN OTHER WORDS THE PARENT HAS NOT BEEN GIVEN ANY HELP NOR TOOLS ON HOW TO HELP THE TROUBLED CHILD.

I sought help for my child from age 5. At age 8 I finally found a councelor who would work with her. He felt it was probably a family issue and he would see her a few times and then call in the family for family counseling. Once he started to work with her he saw/suspected the very serious problem but could not legally or professionally make that diagnosis. I took her to counselling weekly for 6 months. Then the expense so high I had to cut it down to once every 2 weeks for the next 6 months. Then she came up with, "Oh, D----- has to fix that". In other words she took no responsibility and did nothing as it was her counselors job to fix her behaviour.

When I asked him what the problem was he told me he could not say. I asked him what to do and he said to keep doing what I was doing, the sun rose and set on me. BUT I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO, WHAT TO EXPECT, LOOK FOR IN FURTHER BEHAVIOUR. When she was 18, and had been pulled off the streets dozens of times on what is called in Calif, a 51 50 ("crazy person on the loose") the mental health hospital was finally able to give the diagnosis of Boarderline Personality Disorder because she had become an adult at 18. FINALLY SOMETHING TO READ ON AND LEARN ABOUT BUT NOW SHE WAS OFF THE GRID OF OUR BEING ABLE TO IMPOSE ANY CONTROL ON HER CHOICES.

Luckily she was not violent to others but her own self destrution was long underwway and continued so for these 20+ years since.

YES WE HAVE TO LOBBY FOR FINANCIAL HELP OR INSURANCE TO HELP PAY ETC. BUT WE ALSO NEED TO RIGOROUSLY LOBBY THAT THE MENTAL HEALTH FACTIONS OF THE NATION CAN MAKE THE DIAGNOSIS FOR SUCH SERIOUS ILLNESSES IN CHILDREN SO THE PARENTS CAN LEARN WHAT TO EXPECT AND WHAT TO DO OR WORK ON FOR THEIR IMPROVED AND FUTURE MENTAL HEALTH. THE FEAR OF LABELING A CHILD WHEN PARENTAL KNOWLEDGE AND HELP IS POSSIBLE DOES NOT TRUMP ACING A NEAR CERTAINTY OF GREATER AND GREATER PROBLEMS BECAUSE THE PARENT HAS NO HELP BECAUSE THERE IS NO DIAGNOSIS.

have a great day

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fratgirl39 March 10 2014 at 12:30 PM

Most of these comments are expressed by people who came from very different environments than Adam.

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